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SONOMA, Calif. (AP) William Byron recently got instruction on the finer points of road racing from two coaches. He also used a simulator, did countless hours of study and drove Saturday in the K&N Pro Series race to prepare for his first NASCAR Cup Series race at Sonoma Raceway.

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3 Business Principles to Embrace When Ending a Marriage

Marriage is a legal and financial contract, not just a spiritual and emotional one. This is why marital contracts are dissolved by the state (and specifically the court), not by the church. However, too often people pay a high price for ignoring this reality when ending a marriage. Women, in particular, are particularly vulnerable when failing to prepare for divorce, because they are more likely than men to experience a decrease in their standard of living in the year after ending a marriage.

 

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Financial coach Patricia A. Stallworth says her lack of financial preparedness for divorce is what led to her becoming serious about her financial education, and ultimately becoming a financial adviser.

“Going through my divorce was the thing that launched me into a financial career,” says Stallworth, author of How To Get Divorced Without Losing Your Blouse: What Every Woman Needs To Know To Protect Her Future.”

“Like so many women, I had relegated responsibility for taking care of the money to my husband, because I thought he would do a good job of it,” Stallworth explains. “As I was sitting there at the divorce table for the settlement, I suddenly realized I had been wrong in my assumption because while he was really good at saving money, he was not very good at investing it; he had lost nearly all of our money after years and years of saving.

“So, because we had just moved from the East Coast to the West Coast for him to take a new job, I was sitting there with no job, no friends, no husband, and no money,” says Stallworth. “At that point, I wanted to learn everything about money—how to make it, how to manage it, how to invest it. I wanted to know everything. So I became a financial adviser.”

Today, Stallworth is a certified financial planner (CFP) who also holds an M.B.A., the host of the Minding Your Money 360 daily podcast, and the author of the Minding Your Money book series. She has also served as an instructor in both the CFP and CDFA (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst) programs. Stallworth offers three financial realities you must face when ending a marriage.

Don’t be a silent partner when it comes to knowledge and management of marital assets.

 

Ideally, you have been fully aware and involved in the finances of your marital partnership long before you said, “I do.” However, even if that’s not the case, you need to start now, from where you are. ”

When I work with people,” says Stallworth, “the first thing I tell them is that you need to take responsibility, you need to take control, need to at least be part of the process, regardless of your marital status.”

Think of ending a marriage as a business transaction.

 

“So you need to get your head in the game, and you need to realize that this is one part of your life ending, and a new one starting,” says Stallworth. “The thing you need to be focusing on is, ‘What do I need to have in place so that I can start my new life and be OK, make myself as whole as possible?’

“It’s really shifting that whole mindset from love and all those other kinds of things to, ‘Hey, this is my new life, I’ve got to be ready for that. I have to get my head together and look at this like any other business transaction.”

Acknowledge your feelings so you can process them—and keep them out of the transaction.

 

Ending a marriage can produce an overwhelming range of emotions, ranging from love and longing to regret and recriminations, to anger and a desire to retaliate. Allowing these to impact the process of divorce carries the serious risk of sabotaging your future financial well-being.

“Go ahead and acknowledge your feelings,” Stallworth recommends. “If you need to have some therapy at this point, go get it. A lot of people say, ‘Well, I can’t afford it.” Go get it anyway. I don’t care what you have to do; just get it. You have to separate yourself mentally from this whole situation.

“I tell my clients: You know what? Give me the gun. (And they look at me like I’m crazy.) Give me the gun, because what I want to do is I want to take the bullets [the emotions] out. So that when you shoot yourself—and you’re going to shoot yourself—you won’t hurt yourself. That gets them into the frame of mind of, ‘Oh my gosh; I could really be the one to mess this up,’ so they start to think about things a little differently.”

 

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Author Inspires Other Moms To Embrace Their Bodies’ ‘Wobbles, Lumps And Bumps’

A British author, blogger and actress has encouraged other moms to love their “perfectly imperfect” bodies in an empowering Instagram post.

Giovanna Fletcher, whose books include Billy and Me and Happy Mum, Happy Baby: My Adventures In Motherhood, shared a photo on Instagram that shows her enjoying a day at the beach with her two sons, Buzz and Buddy, whom she has with McFly band member Tom Fletcher. In the caption, she wrote that she had recently seen many posts about postpartum bodies. She then gave a touching explanation about how she feels about her body after giving birth to her sons. 

”At times it does bother me how much my body has changed, but I know I don’t ever want it to stop me having fun with the boys,” she wrote. “They aren’t going to look back and think, ‘Gosh, Mum had terrible cellulite, stretch marks and wobbled a lot,’ but they would notice if I sat out of games and didn’t make the most of my time with them.”

Fletcher emphasized how much she appreciates her body because it gave her the “two most important things” in her life, inspiring other moms to embrace their flaws. 

“So thank you to you in all your wobbles, lumps and bumps,” she wrote. “To me, you are perfectly imperfect.”

In February, Fletcher stopped by AOL Build UK for an interview and spoke openly about her postpartum body. During the chat, she said that a short time after she had given birth, a woman who asked for a photo with Fletcher’s husband turned to her and said, “Oh, look. Mommy’s still got a tummy.”

Watch Fletcher’s AOL Build interview below.

Fletcher said that a few days later, the incident came to mind again.

“A few days after that I had a shower, and I stood in my dressing room ― leaky boobs, stretch marks, wobbly belly,” she said. “And I just thought, ‘How do I feel about this … my body has changed, it’s not like it was when I was 18, no surprise.’”

The author soon realized the strength of her body, especially after going through a miscarriage. She then offered the audience an important message on how society views people’s bodies.

“We scrutinize and we put it down all the time,” she said. “We’re always told, ‘She’s got cellulite, she’s too fat, she’s too thin.’ Who actually cares?”

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Want a Lasting Relationship? Embrace This One Agreement

The other night I had dinner with a friend and she asked me about the agreements my husband and I had made when we decided our relationship would be different from anything either of us had ever had before.

Listening to her question, I was suddenly silent but then I remembered.

It was shortly after he and I had confessed our love to one another and were discussing our future.

“If we’re going to be together it has to be totally different from anything we’ve ever had before,” I’d offered. “So many relationships end up being about power or control and I don’t want that anymore.”

He’d agreed and added, “Most relationships are based on conditional love, too. The ‘you only love me because.’ Those end up being about tearing each other down.”

“Can’t there be another way? Another kind of relationship that lifts both people up?”

“Yeah,” he replied, “but it has to be about God first and about honoring the God within each other.”

Instantly I knew he was right. “That’s it!”

So what exactly is that, honoring the God within each other?

A simple way to think about it is the Hindi greeting, Namaste, commonly used across India but also often spoken amongst yoga practitioners. Translated it means the divinity in me recognizes the divinity in you.

Honoring the God in one another is about appealing to the higher self in all of us, the one yearning to be seen, heard and acknowledged. It’s about me rising into this space within myself and then seeing it in my partner and speaking to this aspect of him or her.

This kind of commitment is a relationship based on mutual love and respect.

It’s wanting your partner to live her passion, and encouraging her to take leaps and risks when they feed her and move her toward fulfilling her dreams and happiness. It’s giving your partner space to grow and evolve even if it means they leave you or aren’t always there for you.

This actually recently played out in my intimate relationship.

In 2004, my husband and I started a business together. After working side by side for nearly a decade, I was ready to move on. I knew it was time for me to shift careers yet I felt bad about leaving him to run the business on his own.

He could have easily fed that guilty place in me and said things to trigger it. Then I would have stayed because I love him and because I felt obligated since we’d started the business together.

Instead, he encouraged me to leave.

He was excited about what I was doing and the new direction my life was taking. It meant his life got harder initially, because it took time to fill the void I left. But he never wavered in his support of my new venture.

Now, he’s happier than ever and so am I. My shift allowed him to step more fully into roles that he had shied away from too.

He chose to remember our agreement of honoring the higher self in each of us, the God. He gave me both the room and the encouragement to follow my new path.

Change isn’t always easy, especially in our intimate relationships. It causes us to shift too as we make room for the other person to unfold. Yet when we choose to honor each other and celebrate who we are, not only is it more fulfilling but energizing too.

Positive change brings new opportunities and enthusiasm, which can be contagious and inspiring. We all know how good it feels when we’re in our flow. We are more alive, more present and more connected. Isn’t that what we all want for ourselves and for our loved ones?

Shakti Sutriasa is the Founder of DecideDifferently.com, offering life coaching, counseling and workshops that combine modern psychology and spirituality. Shakti is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and has an MA in Education. To learn more Click Here

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Life Lesson: Embrace the Journey

The paths in life are many, but depending on where you live (both figuratively and literally), you may have more specific destinations (goals). This focused view can help, as you try to map out all the ways to get there. But then life happens, and you are thrown off course. When this occurs, can you roll with it or will you stall (struggle)?

This point was driven home on a recent meet-up with an old friend. It was like any other Thursday. Our rendezvous point: Long Beach, California. And if L.A. traffic had anything to say, the stop and go (ups & downs) was just the start.

First, he was held up at work (responsibilities), so we pushed our get-together back, and even though I was en route, something told me (intuition) to flip around and head home instead. I came in for a pit stop and re-fueled with some healthy greens and made my way back out. This time I took Pacific Coast Highway, trusting that my GPS would get me there with ease (expectations). Not quite. Because I wasn’t able to pay full attention while driving, I missed a few signs (obstacles). But the unexpected didn’t stop there. Suddenly, without a clear entry in sight, I noticed that I drove right past the restaurant (challenges). I even pulled over on two occasions to ask the people directing traffic, “How do I get back on track (support)?” Still I was led astray (setbacks).

Finally, I saw a parking structure (blessings) and pulled in to discover it was completely full (false alarms)! On my way out, yet again, I asked the guy how I could find my way, only to not understand a word, due to his thick accent (confusion).

So I took matters into my own hands (control), and decided to follow the orange cones (guideposts), and found myself driving through the sand (surprises)! At least it was alongside a dazzling beach (beauty)! — I was lost in the moment (pun intended).

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Recognizing I was lost, I called my friend (initiative). He was equally surprised and perplexed as to what was going on, so he suggested finding me first (self-discovery) and then we could take it from there (process). He pulled aside and I followed behind him (teachers) as he steered aimlessly around Long Beach (the unknown) in search of familiar surroundings (experiences) and a new connection point (opportunities). However, our often abrupt and sudden turns (risks), required much focus (clarity), with no set roads to follow (uncertainty), and continued adjustments (resilience), until a way was shown (faith).

At last, and boy was I glad I ate first (reflection), we stumbled upon (fortune) a lovely restaurant situated along the beach, with a stunning view, and a quiet place to just be (relaxation) and have a heart to heart (profound connection). I couldn’t have imagined a better outcome (perspective). Truly, only life can orchestrate such an incredible journey (fulfillment)! What an adventure!

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Oh, and it turns out the annual Long Beach Grand Prix was taking place (destiny) and our detours (choices) led us exactly to where we were meant to be!

I leave you with this single question: How do you choose to navigate in your journey of life?

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Laid Off Canadian Target Employees Embrace ‘Closing Time’ With Bittersweet Music Video

Target Canada closed every last one of the chain’s department stores on Sunday, but not before six employees in Victoria, British Columbia, sent theirs off with a proper farewell.

The workers — still wearing their red Target shirts — made a music video as the store packed up its last items, playing a cover of Semisonic’s “Closing Time” while seated on a dolly being dutifully, purposefully, pulled through the barren aisles.

“We poured our heart into our final goodbye through song, to a job we loved, and a building that contains so many great memories,” drummer Evan Holbein told the Minneapolis Star Tribune.

According to the video’s YouTube description, the final product was shot in one take, with no practice, and “lots of improvisation.” In addition to Holbein on the drums rhythmic shopping basket, other band members included Liam McDonald on vocals and Kyle Vanderberg on guitar. Liam Kelly and Brady Zomer pulled the cart, and Eric Deibert caught the whole thing on video.

Reached for comment by the Star Tribune, Semisonic’s actual drummer, Jacob Slichter, said he found the cover to be “really powerful; that slow walk through the empty store and the sounds of things being loaded in the background.”

“I really hope these guys find jobs,” Slichter added.

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