I Feel Like I’m Screwing Up by Holding Out for Student Loan Forgiveness


Lucky,

Congratulations on your degree! What an accomplishment.

But oh, student loan guilt. It’ll take the shine off your new diploma in an instant.

Even when you have a repayment plan to follow, and even when you know you’ll be saddled with this debt for much of the rest of your mortal life, there’s still the guilt factor. The feeling that you should be doing more.

Have you ever grabbed a calculator to fiddle with the numbers and see if you have any hope of paying off your student loan debt quicker? I’ve done that. It usually ends in the fetal position on the couch. A high balance makes it difficult to make headway unless you come into some cash, like lottery or long-lost aunt cash. Otherwise, every month when the bill is due, you get a reminder of just how long you have to go.

But you’re doing it right, even if your income-based repayment (IBR) amount seems trivial. Interest rates for federal student loans are lower than for other consumer debt, such as credit cards. Long-term student loans are gross, but they’re just a third wheel in your relationship with your money. Everyone’s got a third wheel.

To knock out some of that guilt, stop thinking about your student loan balance as debt, and start thinking of it as just another bill. Instead of focusing on the total balance, take it month by month and focus on what’s due now. Then, free up some mental space to think about your other financial goals, like paying off your credit card debt or saving for retirement.

Don’t feel bad about the loophole — seriously. From you to me to the rest of the United States, we collectively have more than a trillion dollars of student loan debt. Take the way out.

Now, for a few words of caution about that way out.

I asked two experts about your situation: attorney Adam Minsky, whose Boston-based law firm specializes in student loans, and student loan consultant Heather Jarvis.

If you don’t already have proof of your forgiveness date in writing, make sure you get it and triple-check it. Minsky explained that since IBR wasn’t created until 2008, the earliest someone could get their loans forgiven with the 25-year payment plan would be 2033 — 15 years from now. If you had income-contingent repayment before IBR came into play, your situation may be different. It would behoove you to have a conversation with the federal Student Loan Support Center to verify your status and ask for proof. Always get proof, especially when you think there’s a loophole in play.

As for your income, remember that income-based repayment. “Your currently low payments are likely based on last year’s lower income, and so [they] won’t last,” Jarvis warned.

You’re smart to also be thinking about the tax obligation for the forgiven loan balance.

Jarvis explained that Public Service Loan Forgiveness, for those who work in government or nonprofits, is not taxable as income. But income-driven repayment plans of 20 or 25 years, depending on the plan, require forgiveness be taxed as income.

Minsky suggests working with a tax adviser or accountant if you haven’t done so already. “They would have a better handle on potential tax consequences of loan forgiveness,” he said in an email. “Any tax resulting from cancellation of debt typically must be paid either all at once, or over a relatively short installment period with interest and penalties added, and the IRS has powerful collections tools if the borrower cannot pay.”

Changes to federal law could impact your situation, too, Minsky warned. “We don’t know what the tax legal landscape will look like 10 to 15 years from now,” he said.

The inbox is open. Send your worries to dearpenny@thepennyhoarder.com, and I’ll see what I can do to help.

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Lisa Rowan is a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.

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When people decide to go on vacation and they search for the accommodation of their choice, the one that will suit their needs best, there are usually all kinds of factor people take into consideration. It could be the location of the property, the star ratings, the room amenities, the type of food that is served or just how good of reviews the hotel has received. We could easily say that location and service are generally the top reasons why someone, traveling alone or not, would choose a place to spend their next vacation for.

Just like there are all kinds of reasons for going on a trip, there are also some very interesting and eye-opening reasons for why one hotel or B&B would be better than the other. In fact, some people base their decision on where to stay on the most unexpected reasons, for example, how at home the property will make them feel. Now, it sounds almost like an oxymoron, why would anyone want to travel anywhere just so they could feel like they never left home at the end of the day? Well, we guess there are people that like the idea of feeling like they never really left. We believe it’s more than that and that what makes a hotel be considered one that has that cozy vibe has to do with how friendly the service is, how comfortable the hotel’s amenities are and all those little things that make one feel as relaxed and as comfy as possible. Here are five hotels that will give you that homey feeling and that take the meaning of hospitality to a whole new level:

Atemporal-Hotelito – Lima, Peru

This renovated 1940’s mansion in the hip district of Lima, Peru, offers the guests a personalized lodging experience in the most convenient and flexible way. This completely private property is unique in the sense that it allows exclusive entry for the guests. The rooms and the entire decor is conceived as the home of the worldly photographer who is barely at home while he travels the world. The overall vibes are relaxed and informal and once people enter this townhouse like hotel, they can’t help but feel right at a home, a luxurious home. The eclectic design has the perfect modern touches. That is one place any tourist would like to come back to after a whole day of exploring the city.

The PIG at Combe – Devon, England

The PIG at Combe in Southwest England in the county named Devon has the perfect homely charm. This grand country estate might be secluded but is very easily accessible. Everything about this place screams comfort. Even the rooms are named in a way that will make you feel as cozy as possible. You have the Snug rooms, the Comfy rooms and the Comfy Luxe room if you’re feeling like you need a little pampering. If you are visiting in the summer there will be plenty of local festivals to check out.

Casa Laguna Hotel & Spa – Laguna Beach, CA

The minute you enter this castle-like beachfront property, you can’t help but feel the freedom in air. This historical building dates all the way back to the beginning of the 30th century and was designed by one of the first local Californian architects. This sea-side gem is 23 rooms that are designed by Moroccan influences and eclectic furnishings for a warm and atmosphere. Located in the heart of the vibrant Laguna Beach, this property is your absolute perfect oceanfront getaway.

28 Kothi – Jaipur, India

Surrounded by lush gardens, this boutique and intimate guest-house located in the heart of Jaipur will offer an exclusive homely feeling away from the city bustle. There are only five bedrooms designed in a mix of modern and local roots. Some of the amenities include a library, a yoga studio and an-all vegetarian menu. Dazzling minimalism is here.

Killiehuntly Farmhouse & Cottage – Scotland

If you are lucky enough to visit the Killiehuntly Farmhouse any time soon, you will be pleasantly surprised to find traditional design mixed with Scandinavian touches, or like the owners like to call it – Scandi-Scot. The fact that there are only four rooms in this estate and one cottage, provides the ultimate private and luxurious experience away from everything noisy. This place is perfect for those seeking for nature, solitude, design, serenity and comfort all under the same roof.

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At the end of last year, I spent four days near Malibu for a fitness retreat with The Ranch. While many of the guests there had hopped on planes to L.A. from all over the place for the benefits of its legendary workout program and organic vegan detox—and you can bet I was excited to dive into the wellness side of things, too—I was really there to test-drive some activewear. With eight hours of workouts a day (yes, you read that right), including daily 12-mile hikes followed by yoga and circuit training, there was no shortage of time to put some items to the test IRL.

It was great figuring out which pieces both looked cool and stood up to hours of cardio, and I quickly narrowed in on the items that did. Notably, it was the coordinating crop tops and leggings from Girlfriend Collective, Nike, and Outdoor Voices that passed the test and have since become staples in my workout regimen. But beyond that, the trip completely changed my thoughts on leggings. Sure, I wear leggings all of the time—whether it’s to a dance class or just to throw on to grab coffee on the weekend. They’re really a functional piece of my wardrobe, but it wasn’t until I went on this retreat that I realized how empowered leggings really make me feel.

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After climbing to the top of a cliffside in Malibu, I stood there looking over the Pacific Ocean below and remember thinking how proud I was of making it that far and how strong and powerful I felt. And it was the leggings I was wearing that allowed me to move around unencumbered and to hike for hours with ease and make it to the top of that cliff. No bulky layers, no unbreathable pieces, beads of sweat quickly slicked away.

Now, this is in stark contrast to an opinion piece on yoga pants that came out earlier this year. It argued that leggings are too “sexy” and “bad for women,” and it quickly became a point of discussion in the Who What Wear office. And here’s my take: While I’m not going to tell anyone they must wear leggings, I will argue that they can if they want to—and I hope they feel as empowered as I do when they put them on.

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A couple weeks ago I was driving home through the desert, listening to one of my favorite podcasts, “The Longest Shortest Time.”

The episode was called “The Parents’ Guide to Affairs,” and the guest was Esther Perel, a couples therapist.

About 10 minutes into the podcast, Perel said that most women who seek affection elsewhere are motivated by a search for the women they used to be.

“I can tell you that one of the main motives in female infidelity in families is the lost self. Now that doesn’t just occur around infidelity,” Perel says. “Often this person does not want to leave her partner. What she wants to leave is the person she has herself become. And what she wants to connect with is not just another person, but she wants to reconnect with another version of herself.

Instantly I felt as though I had been socked in the gut. I pulled the car to the side of the road. My eyes filled with tears.

I am not unfaithful, so what Perel said wasn’t relevant to my marriage. Rather those words resonated because it was the first time I’ve heard someone articulate how I feel as a mother.

The author stands on a beach with a wide sun hat and holds her baby, who is clad in a swimsuit and straw hat

Since having a child, I inhabit a different body. My days look dramatically different. My brain is consumed by an overwhelming sense of responsibility. I am stronger in some ways, but also more vulnerable in many others. Sometimes — okay, often — I forget the woman I used to be.

I assumed that after the baby, I’d revert back to the person I was before, the way the body snaps back to slip on an old, comfortable pair of jeans.

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Now I understand it’s not that easy. The body always carries the knowledge of pregnancy, whether it’s through stretch marks, wider hips, or breasts that have taken on a new shape — and it’s the same for the mind, soul, and heart.

My son is almost 4 now, and I’m not anything like the version of Maggie I used to be. (Obviously. Otherwise I wouldn’t have pulled my car to the side of the road and cried when a therapist said that women grieve their lost selves.)

There are parts of me that I’d like to reclaim and that I will continue struggling to regain, and there are parts of me I’m happy to bid adieu. But at least now I know I’m not the only one who experiences this.

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BabyCenter recently posed a similar question to the people on our Facebook page: When did you start to feel like yourself again after your baby was born?

Here’s what some mamas had to say:

• When she turned 4 and was a lot more independent, I felt the “old me” coming back. Now that she turned 6, I feel like “myself” again….but it’s not the same self before I had her…a much More improved self of myself if you get what I mean? I am so scared of having another because it took so long to find myself once again.

• I scrolled too fast and read this as “When did you feel like a unicorn?” So … my first is 5, and I hallucinate unicorns apparently. So still not normal.

• Never. My son is six, and I feel like I am a completely different person. It’s not a bad thing — I loved me then, and I love me now, but life and its meaning changes so much when you become a parent.

• I feel like when you have a child, you yourself change so very much that you become a new version of yourself.

• It’s like you’re a born a new you. What helped me was getting back in routine slowly going out to stores again, getting dolled up things you used to do.

• I feel like I am a different person, but to be honest I kind of like this person. I am more active, organized, not as lazy, loving, even social. Kind of always kept to myself and could lay on the couch for hours. Now, I feel like I do so much more.

• Lol. People go back to feeling like their selves after having a kid? I still get no sleep even when my boys are sleeping, because I stay up either getting their stuff ready for the next day or I stay up watching them sleep, thinking to myself how lucky I am. I can’t go back to being myself because myself is now a mom to two wonderful boys.

• My daughter is gonna be 15 years old next month and I still don’t feel like the same person I used to be. But don’t get me wrong, I have never been a better person than I am now, and it’s all because of her.

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Many Women Misjudge How They’ll Feel After Mastectomy

Many Women Misjudge How They’ll Feel After Mastectomy

Source: Yale Cancer Center Women who have one or both breasts removed to treat cancer may have unrealistic expectations about how they’ll feel after that surgery and after breast reconstruction, if they choose that option, a U.S. study suggests. For the study, researchers surveyed 96 women with breast cancer before they had a mastectomy and again one year later. The study included 42 women who…

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Sam Faiers breaks down in tears as she worries baby Paul will feel left out over baby sister

SAM Faiers breaks down in tonight’s episode of The Mummy Diaries as she worries about son Paul feeling left out.

The former Towie star welcomed second child – daughter Rosie – in November last year, and has documented her life as a mother-of-two in the new series.

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But tonight, Sam will be seen in floods of tears as she breastfeeds Rosie as she frets about her eldest child Paul, two, being overlooked.

Tearing up, she says to boyfriend Paul Knightley: “I’m feeling for Paul. I don’t want him to feel…

“Not that he ever would as you’ve given him more attention than I think he has ever had…”

Paul does his best to reassure his partner, telling her: “He’s had your undivided attention forever.”

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Sam breaks down as she chats to boyfriend Paul Knightley while breastfeeding daughter Rosie
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But his words make Sam burst into tears as she cradled her newborn daughter.

“I’m fine,” she says, adding: “It’s hard to talk about it because I love them so much.

“You don’t want them to ever feel left out.
“Then I look at her because I don’t want her to not have any attention.”

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The preview clip comes after Sam shared a throwback picture to when she gave birth to Rosie.

Sam shared a snap from her home water birth last November, writing on Instagram: “I had such an amazing home birth with Rosie.

“The most precious indescribable time of your life, bringing a baby into the world.”

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The snap showed her cradling her newborn as her boyfriend Paul supported her from behind.

Sam recently admitted she thought she couldn’t get pregnant while breastfeeding.

However, in the first episode of the new series of The Mummy Diaries, Sam revealed Rosie was a surprise.

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Sam said she thought nursing her son Paul a contraceptive.

Speaking to the camera alongside her partner, she said: “I didn’t think you could get pregnant while you’re breastfeeding.”

She also told OK!: “Yeah, she [Rosie] was actually [a surprise]. I honestly didn’t think you could, it is [breastfeeding] a natural form of contraception – they say.

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Many Women Misjudge How They’ll Feel After Mastectomy

Source: Yale Cancer Center

Women who have one or both breasts removed to treat cancer may have unrealistic expectations about how they’ll feel after that surgery and after breast reconstruction, if they choose that option, a U.S. study suggests.

For the study, researchers surveyed 96 women with breast cancer before they had a mastectomy and again one year later. The study included 42 women who had breast reconstruction surgery right after the mastectomy.

Overall, patients who had a mastectomy without reconstruction significantly underestimated how satisfied they would be with their breasts and their quality of life afterwards, researchers report in JAMA Surgery.

When women did get breast reconstruction, they overestimated how much this would boost their satisfaction Overall, patients who had a mastectomy without reconstruction significantly underestimated how satisfied they would be with their breasts and their quality of life afterwards, researchers report in JAMA Surgery. with their breasts and their feelings of sexual attractiveness, the study also found.

c of The Ohio State University Comprehensive Cancer Center in Columbus.

“I think we sort of like to believe that plastic surgery will make everything better,” Lee said by email. “It does help, but not as much as people may think.”

“Patients generally thought mastectomy would be worse than it was, and they thought reconstruction would be better than it was,” said lead study author Dr. Clara Lee

Most early-stage breast cancer patients have either a lumpectomy that removes malignant tissue while sparing the rest of the breast or a mastectomy that removes the entire breast. Many of them get chemotherapy or radiation afterwards to destroy any remaining abnormal cells and reduce the risk of cancer coming back.

The current study included some women with early stage tumors and some patients with more advanced cancer that had spread beyond the breast.

It also included 13 patients who didn’t have cancer but still opted for a mastectomy, which some women with a very high risk of breast cancer do as a preventive measure.

Women in the study were 54 years old, on average, and the majority were white. More than half of them were college graduates, and 72 percent had private health insurance.

Survey questions touched on general happiness, quality of life, sexual attractiveness and predicted satisfaction with breast pain, numbness and appearance.

Whether women got only a mastectomy or also reconstruction, they experienced more breast numbness afterwards than they had expected, the study found.

Patients who were less happy overall or who had more breast pain after their mastectomy, with or without reconstruction, had greater regret about their treatment decision than women who were happier and had less pain.

The study results from a small group of women treated at one cancer center might not reflect what would happen elsewhere, researchers note.

Women who got reconstruction also tended to have less advanced cancer than women who only got a mastectomy, which may have influenced the way they felt a year later, noted Dr. Lisa Schneider, a surgeon at the Institute for Advanced Reconstruction at the Plastic Surgery Center in Shrewsbury, New Jersey, who wasn’t involved in the study.

“One possible hypothesis is that patients who underwent mastectomy alone were more focused on the treatment for their cancer; therefore, after having dealt with their cancer treatment, afterwards they felt better than they might have thought they would,” Schneider said by email.

“On the other hand, more patients who underwent reconstruction had the surgery for prophylactic reasons, in other words, a high-risk patient without breast cancer,” Schneider added. “A patient in this scenario might have a higher standard for her expectation for the results of the surgery, that it might look or feel just the same as her original breast or breasts.”

The study results suggest that women need realistic expectations, said Dr. Anees Chagpar assistant director of global oncology at the Yale Comprehensive Cancer Center in New Haven, Connecticut.

“Physicians need to explain to patients the risks of surgery – the breast may not look or feel exactly as their normal breast, they will have pain and numbness, symmetry may not be perfect and multiple surgeries may be required – and patients need to really understand this,” Chagpar, who wasn’t involved in the study, said by email.

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How Camila Cabello Makes Boyfriend Jeans Feel Fresh

With a new season fast approaching, we’re constantly looking for style inspiration on how to make some of the more one-dimensional pieces in our wardrobes feel fresh. Today, we’re tackling the sometimes hard-to-wear boyfriend jeans that, regardless of how you wear them, usually result in a look that oozes relaxed, borrow-from-the-boys vibes (which, of course, isn’t a bad thing, but it can be easy to tire of it quickly.)

Enter Camila Cabello, who was recently spotted sporting a pair of oversize denim pants, but her outfit was anything but boring. In fact, her entire ensemble felt so fresh from head to toe, thanks to a few simple styling tricks. She teamed her loose fitting demi-denim jeans with a classic white tee, and to add more dimension to her look, she put on a long leather coat that enhanced the outfit’s overall cool factor.

A leather belt (of the same hue as the jacket), a pair of baby blue heels, and a contrasting white crossbody bag were the finishing touches that pulled everything together. Simple, but what a difference it makes! So next time you’re in a rut about how to style your boyfriend jeans, throw on a jacket and a few accessories à la Cabello for a look that’s comfortable and cool. Now, read on to see Camila Cabello’s full outfit and then shop her pants for yourself.

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Michelle Obama Has Advice For People Who Feel ‘Fear’ Under Trump

If you missed it, former first lady Michelle Obama sat down with Ellen DeGeneres for her first TV interview since leaving the White House and they dished about the “very scary” world under Donald Trump.

Mrs. Obama admitted that while there are many people who are concerned about the future of this nation, others don’t see fear.

“People are afraid,” she said. “But then there are people who feel good about the direction of the country. So that’s what makes this country complicated because it’s made up of so many different people from different backgrounds. We are this mosh pit of society and sometimes there’s a rub, Mrs. Obama explained.

“But the thing that we have to remember, the thing I learned in the eight years that I was in the White House, was that what we do every day in our lives, the good things that we do every day — and we know we do it — we show empathy, we care for each other. We do have a lot in common,” she said. “That’s what it means to lead with hope and not fear. And that’s all we have, is hope.”

She went on to say that no matter how hard it can be, you need to “love each other, to take care of each other, to show empathy.”

“You can’t do that only when people make you feel good or safe. We’ve got to do it all across the board. We have to be an open-hearted nation — and that’s who we are,” she said. “And that’s the truth of who we are, so you can’t lose sight of that. So let’s just keep living our lives like that every single day and forget what they’re saying in Washington. That’s not necessarily who we are. We know who we are and I know who this country is.”

To preview the “Ellen” episode, Obama took to her Snapchat to share some behind the scenes moments during the show’s taping.

During their conversation, she also told Ellen what was in that Tiffany’s gift that Melania Trump gave her on Donald Trump’s Inauguration.

“There’s all this protocol,” she explains. “This is like a state visit, so they tell you that you’re going to do this, they’re going to stand here. Never before do you get this gift, so I’m sort of like, ‘OK, what am I supposed to do with this gift?’” Obama says, narrating as a clip of the exchange playing on a large screen behind her and Ellen.

“Everyone cleared out and no one would come and take the box, and I’m thinking, ‘Do we take the picture with (it)?’ And then my husband saved the day — see he grabbed the box and took it back inside. But everybody cleared out — no staff, no one. I was like, ‘What do you do with the box?’”

Obama told DeGeneres that Mrs. Trump gave her “a lovely frame.”

Her appearance on the “Ellen Show” also happened to be for Ellen’s 60th birthday celebration.

 

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Simone Biles is moving on after revealing the sexual abuse she endured at the hands of disgraced former team USA Gymnastics doctor Larry Nassar.

“I feel good and I feel a bit of relief because I don’t have to keep it in anymore,” the 20-year-old gymnastics superstar tells PEOPLE. “I have my family supporting me, friends and my group of people I rely on supporting me … But it’s not easy for any of us to go through.”

The gold medal-winning Olympian is gearing up to begin her first day of college on Thursday, and is looking forward to the premiere of her new Lifetime movie, The Simone Biles Story: Courage To Soar.

But as she begins several new chapters in her life, she says talking about her experience with Nassar is still difficult.

“I haven’t really opened up about it, so it was a hard subject for me to speak up about,” she tells PEOPLE.  “Hopefully people realize that they’re not the only ones going through this situation. Hopefully I inspire them to come out and to not be ashamed about it.”

Biles joined gymnasts including Aly Raisman, McKayla Maroney and Gabby Douglas in accusing Nassar of sexual assault. She revealed the abuse in a letter shared to Twitter on Jan. 15.

“For too long I’ve asked myself, ‘Was I too naive? Was it my fault?’ I now know the answers to those questions,” she wrote at the time. “No. No, it was not my fault. No, I will not and should not carry the guilt that belongs to Larry Nassar, USAG, and others.”

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She opened up about the abuse in an emotional interview with Today’s Hoda Kotb on Wednesday morning, in which she praised Judge Rosemarie Aquilina for sentencing Nassar to up to 175 years in prison. She echoed the comments to PEOPLE, but adds that the ordeal isn’t over yet.

“It was very sweet of her to let all the survivors come forward and speak on their behalf,” Biles says of Aquilina. “There’s still a lot of work that needs to be done, an independent investigation that needs to be set to see why and how this happened for so long for anyone to really feel comfortable in the sport and get closure.”

Still, in the midst of the scandal, Biles is determined to move forward. The young gymnast has been named global ambassador of University of the People, a non-profit, accredited online university based in California. She is enrolled in the business administration program, per the university’s website.

“I always dreamed of going to college but decided to follow my gymnastics dreams full time, which didn’t make it possible for me,” Biles said in a statement posted on the site. “I had planned to attend UCLA, but had to defer because of my training schedule. I still want to pursue a college degree and the University of the People offers me the flexibility I need to fit in my studies around my career.”

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“With me being so busy with training, I don’t have a lot of time to attend a regular university, so University of the People offers me that opportunity, which I wouldn’t have otherwise,” she tells PEOPLE. “Now I can do online and train for the next Games, for the next world championships … I can take time to do both.

As if that weren’t exciting enough, Biles says she’s ecstatic about the Saturday premiere of her new movie, which was based off her 2016 book, Courage to Soar: A Body in Motion, A Life in Balance.

“It was amazing having sent to film and to live through that experience,” she gushes. “I’ve always wanted to see how people saw my gymnastics.”


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Hadid wore the Prada Cloudbust Mesh Sneakers ($ 690)—a fitting name for a shoe designed to create the feeling of walking on a soft, puffy cloud. But how is this possible? The sneaker features a contrasting bubble-style sole that lifts you up and creates a soft, cushy barrier between your feet and the ground. 

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Porn stars wiggled and jiggled, peddling their flesh to online consumers via webcam as IRL fans gaped behind booths and velvet ropes during the annual AVN Adult Entertainment Expo held in Las Vegas earlier this year. At the same time, over two thousand miles away in Washington, D.C., a man who believes in grabbing women “by the pussy” was sworn into office, sending a ripple of fear throughout the adult industry. Yes, few knew what to expect for 2017, the first year under the Trump administration.  

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Stressed Out? This Free Chatbot Helped Me Feel Better in Just 15 Minutes

Are you feeling stressed, anxious or depressed?

You’re definitely not alone. And as a mostly broke writer trudging through the holiday season, I’m right there with you.

The key word there is “broke,” which is one reason why more than half of Americans who need some sort of mental health treatment go it alone instead of springing for therapy.

But what if I told you there was a free “therapist” you could talk to right now? And what if I told you I personally felt better after just one 15-minute session?

Oh yeah, and the therapist fits right in your pocket.

Meet Woebot, a personal chatbot designed to monitor your mood and teach you about what makes you tick using a technique called cognitive behavioral therapy.

It’s available through Facebook Messenger, and according to a Stanford University study of young adults, Woebot reduced anxiety and depression in participants in just two weeks..

It’s definitely no substitute for a true human therapist, but with its current price tag of free (at least, they say, until they decide to push for a more sustainable business model), it’s certainly worth a try.

So I tried it.

Here’s How to Get Started With Woebot

Your first session with Woebot will take about 15 minutes or less, depending on whether you have a pile of issues to deal with, like I do. Start by finding its page on Facebook, and shooting it a message.

A simple “HELP ME PLEASE I’M FREAKING OUT” will suffice.

Woebot started off our first session by putting me at ease.

“The beauty of talking to me is that we can learn together in the context of everyday life,” it said.

“No childhood stuff?” I asked.

“No you have to go to a proper therapist for that 😃,” Woebot retorted.

It’s simple enough. After an initial questionnaire about anxiety and depression levels, I just check in with Woebot daily. The software charts my energy levels and feelings to help find trends in how life events affect my emotional well being.

“Sometimes I see patterns that can be hard for humans to see,” Woebot said. “It also helps that I have a perfect memory 😇.”

How I Felt After My First Session With Woebot

I definitely felt at ease and even giggled a few times during my first interaction with Woebot. I mean, after my initial assessment, it sent me a gif of a hedgehog getting a belly rub.

Woebot explained the general causes of some of the thoughts in my head giving me anxiety, forced me to confront them, and then rewrite — er text —  the thoughts objectively. Then it would congratulate me on my progress and send an emoji of some kind (Hats off! 🤠).

I chose to work through three thoughts at first, but you can choose how many issues to explore.

As weird as it was texting my deepest thoughts to a dang robot, after the session I felt remarkably more relaxed and focused on the day ahead. It was like getting a $ 60 therapy session for free (but don’t take my word for that.)

“Although I am merely a guide, I’m very proud of you and you can be proud of yourself,” Woebot said.

Thanks, Woebot.

Does This Mean More Mental Health Apps Are Coming?

Woebot is particularly exciting when you consider the fact that serious mental illness is most prevalent among the poorest Americans, according to the Peterson-Kaiser Health System Tracker.

But there are still plenty of obstacles that could slow the spread of similar apps.

For one, the Health Insurance and Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) doesn’t cover these chatbots and therefore can’t ensure patient privacy, according to an article in the Washington Post. And while Woebot did have some human warmth, it’s just not good at chitchat.

“These things can work well on a superficial level with superficial conversations,” John Torous, co-director of a digital psychiatry program at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, told the Post. “[But] are they effective tools, do they change outcomes and do they deliver more efficient care? It’s still early.”

In the meantime, there are plenty of other free or low-cost ways to supplement your chosen chatbot. Finding a training clinic at a university or attending support groups are a couple of options.

Exercise keeps me on top of my mental health game. So find yourself a cheap gym that’s right for you.

You could always try caring about work less, although that one is a bit of a stretch for all my fellow anxietyheads out there.

For now, there’s always Woebot —I’ll be checking in with it first thing tomorrow.

Alex Mahadevan is a data journalist at The Penny Hoarder. He is totally not freaking out right now. He swears.

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This past summer, JAY-Z released arguably the most vulnerable album of his career. The rapper and business mogul didn’t hold back on 4:44, with many praising him for his transparency and easily referring to the work as a classic.

But Hov’s purging didn’t stop when he released his latest album. During a rare and very personal interview with T Magazinethe “Song Cry” entertainer got even more candid about his relationship with his megastar wife, Beyoncé, and how the release of Lemonade personally affected him.

“There was never a point where it was like, ‘I’m making this album.’ I was right there the entire time,” he states. “You know, most people walk away, and like divorce rate is like 50 percent or something ’cause most people can’t see themselves. The hardest thing is seeing pain on someone’s face that you caused, and then have to deal with yourself. So, you know, most people don’t want to do that. You don’t want to look inside yourself. And so you walk away.”

JAY-Z also hinted that the couple had been working on a joint album at the time.

” … we were using our art almost like a therapy session. And we started making music together. And then the music she was making at that time was further along,” he says. “So her album came out as opposed to the joint album that we were working on. Um, we still have a lot of that music. And this is what it became. There was never a point where it was like, ‘I’m making this album.’ I was right there the entire time.”

Whoa. Lemonade, which dropped last year, revealed to the public for the first time that there was trouble in their marriage.

While we may place celebrities on a pedestal, let us all remember that they’re human just like you and me.

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Andi Mack’s Cast & Creator Reflect on Crafting Disney’s First LGBT Storyline: “I Wanted It to Feel Like Acceptance”

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A new study reveals that nearly half of African Americans with yearly household incomes between $ 35,000 and $ 150,000 feel financial worry. Forty-five percent of African Americans making incomes of $ 75,000 a year and up say they feel more financially insecure than Americans of other races in the same income bracket.

 

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The study was conducted by Massachusetts Mutual Life Insurance Co. (MassMutual). The data also showed that black people were more likely to say they had under-funded retirement savings. Forty-one percent are even concerned about making ends meet.

The majority of the survey respondents did not feel that they lacked money management skills, however 7 percent said they would be interested in receiving financial planning services from their employer.

 

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“Across the board, African Americans are more likely to say they are unprepared for retirement and feel less financially secure but are more open to education and financial guidance,” said Evan Taylor, head of MassMutual’s African American Markets.

“The findings demonstrate a real need to reach more people, make financial education and guidance more readily available, and focus on financial wellness.”

Some other key takeaways from MassMutual’s study include:

  • Middle-income African Americans are more likely to report difficulty managing their households monthly finances
  • Debt, lack of income, and cost of living are the top African American financial concerns
  • Black Americans are less worried about the cost of healthcare compared to other groups
  • Negative outcomes from financial issues (including the inability to eat healthily, pay for a child’s education, or stress in a marriage or relationship) are reported more by middle-income African Americans

“The African American community is very open to education, information, and advice about financial matters from their employers, financial service firms, and financial professions,” said Taylor. “It’s an opportunity for financial service firms, financial advisers, and employers to make a difference.”

 

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OHMYGOSSIP — Brie Larson “didn’t feel pretty enough” to take on lead roles when she started acting.
The 27-year-old actress – who was cast as Marvel comics superhero Captain Marvel and her alter ego Carol Danvers last year – has admitted she used to think she’d be a “supporting character” for her entire career, and “struggled” with the idea of being the star.
She said: “I just didn’t feel confident in myself, I didn’t feel pretty enough. I thought I’d be a supporting character my whole life and I was struggling with the idea of being the star.”
And the ‘Kong: Skull Island’ star says she’s now learning to “value” herself, after having previously been the victim of sexism on sets where she hasn’t felt “safe”.
She added: “I’ve been on sets where I didn’t feel safe, I’ve felt objectified. But as I’m getting older I’m realising that I can value myself, I’m allowed to.”
Brie’s fear of main roles almost saw her give up the chance to play Captain Marvel – who she will make her debut as in 2018’s ‘Avengers: Infinity War’ – too, as she knows the role will make her “lose some of the things [she] loves most about life”, such as her privacy.
Speaking to Net-a-Porter’s The Edit magazine, she said: “I spent months thinking about whether or not I was going to do the film and I realised that it was a chance to tell a story on the largest scale possible. I know it is going to make me lose some of the things I love most about my life, but I think it’s worth it.”

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Feel like a fraud at adulting? This is how you know you’re a real grownup

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Technically you become an adult at 18, but that often has little to do with feeling like being a grownup. Once you turn 21 you’re legal to purchase whatever you’d like, but do you really feel like you’re adulting even at that point?

What about at 25, or even 30?

I become a parent at 23, and by 25 had the whole shebang: husband, two kids, one dog, and an SUV parked in the driveway of a house the market change left us severely underwater on. The stress was mighty, but though we shouldered all that responsibility pretty darn well I still didn’t feel official.

I used to wonder how I would know when I really was adulting. Thankfully, Twitter en masse has stepped up to the plate with a whole host of ways to tell if you’re doing it. A peek…

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Oh man, that last one cuts to the heart of it, doesn’t it? I’ve now made it to the ripe age of 36, and can say that somewhere in the past five or so years the tinge of imposter syndrome I’d felt all through my twenties has somehow slipped away.

Like that last tweet, it happened in part when I started to think of my own parents as real, whole humans, who were also going through a lot when I was growing up. Secondly, I’ve managed to shake a bit of my make-no-waves nature and finally feel more confident in choosing my own path/my family’s path.

It feels great (most of the time) to finally have my real-deal grownup panties on. I do hear all those of you out there who can’t help but notice the status comes with its fair share of bills, though!

Do you feel like a real adult? If so, when did it happen and what made things change?

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Vanessa Grimaldi Says ‘It’s Okay to Feel Broken’ After Split from The Bachelor’s Nick Viall

Vanessa Grimaldi has spoke out for the first time since her split from Nick Viall.

“It’s okay to feel broken. It’s okay to cry,” she captioned an Instagram photo Monday of herself overlooking a pond while leaning on the shoulder of a friend.

“It’s okay to lean on a friend,” she continued. “In the end, it will always be okay.”

Viall, 36, and Grimaldi, 29, broke up Friday, five months after their proposal aired on ABC.

“It’s with a great amount of heartbreak for the both us as we have decided to end our engagement,” they said in a joint statement. “We gave this relationship our all and we are saddened that we did not get the fairytale ending we hoped for. We will continue to be there for each other no matter what. This hasn’t been an easy decision, however, as we part ways, we do so with lots of love and admiration for each other.”

 

Viall appeared on two previous seasons of The Bachelorette and season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise before taking his turn as the lead suitor earlier this year. While he asserted he finally found the one, even before getting engaged, L.A.-based Viall and Canadian Grimladi struggled to decide where they would continue their relationship.

“I haven’t been able to go to Montreal outside of the show,” he previously told PEOPLE, adding that they weren’t rushing to plan their wedding. “I think we’re just focused on that right now. We’re very open about the fact that we have a long way to go and we’re excited about that journey.”

Following their split, a source close to the pair told PEOPLE that they were never on the same page.

“Their friends knew the relationship wouldn’t last,” said the source. “It was a mismatch from the start. She’s super fun, bubbly and outgoing and he’s more of a serious personality and more introverted. She would try to bring him out of his shell, but he’s just not as comfortable in big groups.”

Viall is handling the split “okay,” the source added. “It wasn’t an overnight decision, and they’re amicable.”


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The trick I learned in Silent Book Club to feel like myself again

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In the first couple years of motherhood, I thought I lost myself.

It wasn’t that I didn’t love being a mom. I did. I loved the yogurty smell of my son as an infant and his tiny sweet breaths as he dozed on my shoulder. I loved how each day was like slowly tugging open a curtain, revealing a little more of my son’s personality. I even loved how his colicky screaming fits made his laughter even more extraordinary.

What I didn’t love was how motherhood made me feel less like me.

I used to travel, budget-style, with a backpack and a lots of long, open roads. I ate meals when they were still hot. I had hobbies that went well beyond washing cloth diapers and going to Target. And maybe most important of all, I used to read.

I read the New York Times in print on Sunday mornings, and I had stacks of library books next to my bed. Even my e-reader overfloweth.

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And then after I gave birth, I just didn’t. I bought books, and they just sat there looking at me like, “Who are you kidding?” I still listened to audiobooks, and those were usually pretty great, but I often missed chunks of the story (see: colicky infant, above) and I genuinely missed holding something in print.

So take that feeling of being a hollowed-out shell, combine it with the immobilizing loneliness of new motherhood when it felt like all of my old friends disappeared, and you have the worst recipe ever. It’s no wonder I was sad all the time.

It’s better now that my son is older. He has a decent attention span and will play with a train set for about 7 minutes before trying to set the house on fire, and I can squeeze in a whole paperback page before everything goes to hell. (But I usually don’t do that, because what if something tragic happens? All the horrible Facebook comments on the news story will be like, “Some mom. That’s what you get for READING.”)

And now that he’s older, I’m not so tired at night anymore that I fall asleep in the shower and wake up cold and shivering and 100 percent responsible for California’s drought. I’m usually able to read a chapter before I hand over my one-way ticket to Snoretown. So that has helped.

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But the biggest change occurred after I discovered Silent Book Club, which I wrote about recently for Lit Hub. You can read about my experience here. In short, it’s a group that gathers monthly to read individually. Unlike a traditional book club, where everyone reads the some book selection and has a conversation about it, there are no reading requirements for Silent Book Club and no obligation to participate in a conversation. You just bring a book to a public space and read alongside other people.

I interviewed Guinevere de la Mare, author of the forthcoming book I’d Rather Be Reading: A Library of Art for Book Lovers and the founder of Silent Book Club, who said the idea for the club came about when her son was 2 and she desperately needed reading time and a social outlet.

“With an infant or a toddler, to be able to sit in your house and read a book, it’s a luxury and a privilege you just don’t get,” she said. “I needed to grant myself time on the calendar to give myself permission to do nothing but read.”

Solidarity, sister!

What really made Silent Book Club work for me was the fact that I made a date with myself and reclaimed that time. Turns out that when I put something in the calendar it comes true. I’m not sure if it’s some kind of wizardry, or maybe just a self-fulfilling prophesy, but it works. And I wish someone had told me that YEARS ago.

I’ve since used the trick to find room in my schedule for other meaningful things – an exercise class, a quick coffee with a friend – to get me out of the house and with some semblance of agency. Doing so makes me a better mom and a better human.

Best of all, even if I lose myself again, I know exactly where to find me.

How did you feel like yourself again, post-baby?

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Fitness Fridays: Racheal Weathers On Diversifying The Look And Feel Of Yoga By Any Means Necessary

It’s a common struggle, walking into a yoga class and being the only person of color in the space. For Racheal Weathers, who picked up yoga from the most unconventional place, Instagram, it was something she couldn’t stand and would eventually make her purpose to change. The 25-year-old based out of Brooklyn did her research […]

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For Zoë Barry, feeling attractive in New York was an impossible feat. The 32-year-old, who grew up in Stuy Town and attended an all-girls private school, says her self-esteem was slowly sapped by the city’s sky-high beauty standards. “As a woman, you’re never enough,” says the sporty 5-foot-6 CEO. “I was never tall enough or…
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Elton John Says Prince Harry Inherited Diana’s ‘Incredible’ Gift of Making People Feel ‘Everything Was Great’

Nearly 20 years after Princess Diana‘s death, Prince Harry is keeping his late mother’s activism alive — and has an “incredible” gift from her to help him do so.

In the upcoming ITV and HBO documentary, Diana, Our Mother: Her Life and Legacy, friends, family and admirers of the late royal speak candidly about her charitable efforts, including Sir Elton John, who says that Diana’s efforts to promote HIV and AIDS awareness live on through her son.

“She had that incredible ability — which knd of inherited — to make people feel at ease and make them feel that everything’s gonna be all right,” John, 70, says in the documentary. “I haven’t experienced many people in my life who have that ability, but she could walk into a room of people and make them feel as if everything was great.”

Diana was an early and very public campaigner for HIV and AIDS awareness and treatment. And, along with John, the documentary features appearances by Diana’s brother Charles Spencer and Rihanna, who took an HIV test alongside Harry in Barbados last December to help break the stigma of getting tested.

In recent years, Harry has championed the fight against the illness. In March, he traveled to Leicester to visit the Leicestershire Aids Support Service, the organization his mother visited just 25 years earlier.

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John recalled Diana’s efforts, lamenting the stigma surrounding HIV and AIDS in past decades.

“It was considered to be a gay disease,” John says of the illness. “For someone who was within the Royal Family and who was a woman, and who was straight, to have someone care from the other side, was an incredible gift.”

Diana, Our Mother: Her Life and Legacy will air Monday, August 31, at  10 p.m. on HBO in the U.S. and 9 p.m. in the U.K. on ITV.

The show is one of several commemorations of the Princess in print and on film. PEOPLE and ABC have partnered in a two-night television event The Story of Diana, airing on Aug. 9 and 10 at 9 p.m. ET.


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2 Women Are Turning Old Ivanka Trump Clothes Into Something You Can Feel Good About

The Rational Dress Society is an American social experiment/anti-fast fashion brand that makes just one garment ― an “ungendered, multi-use” jumpsuit designed for daily wear. The company’s development a sizing system that accommodates over 248 body types, but at the moment they’ve got their eyes on just one human: White House advisor and clothing purveyor Ivanka Tump.  

The Society’s new clothing drive, aptly titled “Make America Rational Again,” calls on consumers to send “gently used and emphatically discarded” Ivanka Trump merchandise that will be rewoven into new, made-in-the-U.S.A. special edition jumpsuits.

Unlike the Society’s typical suits, the Ivanka versions will be “millennial pink” with gold accents, the video above notes. 

Citing the hypocrisy of Donald Trump’s “buy American, hire American” rhetoric ― both the president and his daughter source their products largely from China, where Ivanka Trump’s clothing manufacturer uses a factory that violated labor standards ― the Society’s founders Abigail Glaum-Lathbury and Maura Brewer have a clear message they wish to convey to the president’s daughter.

“You offer a path to women’s liberation and empowerment achieved through inspirational hashtags and pink polyester blouses,” they told HuffPost, addressing Ivanka Trump. “But your promises are empty. We reject the siren call of marketplace feminism in which freedom is measured by buying power. This so-called feminism is achieved on the backs of low-paid garment workers and working-class people everywhere.” 

Glaum-Lathbury and Brewer also said the demands of the Rational Dress Society for Trump are simple: “Shutter your businesses, renounce your political ambitions and move to a commune in western Montana.” (Ethics experts would certainly be pleased.)

Make America Rational Again, or M.A.R.A., just launched Thursday. But Brewer and Glaum-Lathbury cheekily said the response “has been tremendous! Huge!” They’ve already received four garments to be recycled: “A sweater, a dress, a purse and an ‘awful and ugly Trump tie I got for Christmas many years ago,’ to quote the donor.”

The M.A.R.A. website offers a mailing address for submitting Ivanka Trump clothes, lists locations of drop-off centers in multiple states and provides information on how to otherwise participate in the drive. The clothing will be collected during the months of May, June and July, then sorted and spun into yarn to make the jumpsuits. The recycled Ivanka Trump versions will be auctioned off some time in the fall, with proceeds donated to organizations focused on ensuring fair labor in the United States. 

Oh, and no worries if you bought Ivanka Trump products that were mislabeled as another designer. The Rational Dress Society will take those, too. 

“Together, we can transform these itchy plastic blouses, dresses, and pencil skirts into the building blocks of a better future,” the project’s video declares

Head to Make America Rational Again to learn more. 

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Water Skier Smacked In Crotch By Flying Fish (You’ll Feel It, Too)

As viral videos go, this one is nuts.

Last week, a collegiate water skier in Japan was smacked in the crotch by a flying fish that jumped out of the water as he came by.

The skier, known as Miroku, is a member of the Waterski Team at Waseda University, according to RocketNews 24.

Miroku was filmed skiing when he suffered the type of groin injury that will make anyone cringe.

Let’s not keep up the suspense, since he posted the painful clip on Twitter.

Miroku commented on the Twitter post in Japanese, but Google translated his comments into one succinct sentence: “The fish hit the crotch directly.”

Google Translate isn’t always 100 percent accurate, but we’ll give it the benefit of the doubt in this case.

Despite the unexpected and painful-looking injury, Miroku looks like he managed to stay on his skis.

Meanwhile, fans of the cringeworthy have made it into a GIF to be enjoyed for posterity.

Roll that being-beaned footage:

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Danielle Brooks Just Made Women Everywhere Feel Better About Stretch Marks

Like any of us, Danielle Brooks sometimes has a hard time accepting her stretch marks. But she doesn’t let them define her. 

The “Orange Is The New Black” actress recently opened up about her stretch marks for People magazine’s 2017 Most Beautiful Woman issue. 

“Sometimes I’ll look at myself and be like, ‘Dang girl, you got a lot of stretch marks.’ But then I’m like, ‘That’s just the road map of my strength,’” she said. 

The 27-year-old added, “They remind me of things that I’ve gone through. I need to just embrace them and celebrate them. For the most part, I find ways to embrace my body.” 

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Brooks recently shared photos from her People shoot, where she went make-up free for the mag, alongside fellow actress Nina Dobrev. The “OITNB” star explained why she chose to go barefaced in an empowering Instagram post. 

“For the girls who never felt pretty enough or were made to feel less than because their beauty was unique, I was you once. One day you will realize your B•E•A•U•T•Y. Outer beauty is fleeting, but lasting beauty comes from within,” the actress wrote. “This one is especially for all the beautiful dark skin girls who are underrepresented. Majestic is our melanin.” 

Check out People’s Most Beautiful issue or pick up a copy when it hits newsstands Friday, April 21.  

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Those Good Vibes You Feel After Sex Can Last For 48 Hours, Study Finds

Research has proven that people are generally in a better mood after having sex ― you can thank a flood of endorphins and other feel-good hormones for that. But how long do those post-sex feelings last?

A new study suggests that the positive effects of getting laid last up to two days ― and those good vibes also help couples bond over time.

Lead researcher Andrea Meltzer and her team at Florida State University examined data from two independent longitudinal studies, one with 96 newlywed couples and another with 118 newlywed couples. All the couples had completed at least three consecutive days of a 14-day sex diary.

Each night before falling asleep, the partners were asked to report whether they had sex that day. They were also asked to jot down how satisfied they were with three things: their sex life, their partner and their relationship as a whole.

On average, the participants had sex four days out of the 14. Unsurprisingly, sex on any given day was linked with feelings of sexual and relationship satisfaction ― but what’s interesting is that the afterglow effect lasted up to 48 hours later. And those who sustained the afterglow for that amount of time also were happy with their relationships months down the road. 

“People with a stronger sexual afterglow ― that is, people who report a higher level of sexual satisfaction 48 hours after sex ― report higher levels of relationship satisfaction several months later.”
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“People with a stronger sexual afterglow ― that is, people who report a higher level of sexual satisfaction 48 hours after sex ― report higher levels of relationship satisfaction several months later,” Meltzer said of the study, which was published this month in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.  

In an interview with The Huffington Post, Meltzer said what most surprised her most about the findings was how well the mental benefits of sex synced up with human biology.

“Forty-eight hours is roughly the same amount of time that (a) conception is maximized, (b) it takes sperm concentrations to be restored to peak levels, and (c) sperm remain maximally viable in the female reproductive tract,” she said. “It’s really interesting that lingering cognitive implications of sex ― sexual afterglow, for instance ― last for the same amount of time as the biological implications of sex.”

Meltzer said that newlyweds were singled out for the study because they engage in sex more frequently than long-term couples ― a requisite for the research.

“Our theory was based on reproduction,” Meltzer told HuffPost. “Given that newlyweds are often young and of reproductive age, they were an ideal sample in which to test our predictions.” 

In sum? Sex plays a major role in satisfaction and pair bonding, even if you’re not having sex every day of the week.

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Braille Smartwatch Lets Users Feel Time, Texts And GPS Directions

It’s about time.

Facebook, texting and GPS are commonplace tech that most of us use. But these apps, which help to bring many of us closer together, can be incredibly alienating for the visually impaired and blind.

Small font sizes and glitch-y text-to-speak functions make keeping up with the way society communicates increasingly difficult and frustrating to those who have visual disabilities.

But a South Korean company has invented a new smartwatch that promotes inclusivity and accessibility.

The Dot smartwatch, which one could connect to a smartphone via Bluetooth, has a touch display where rising and falling dots spell out words in Braille. This means that users can receive any text from any app or service on their smartphone and have it translated into Braille on their Dot smartwatch. 

 Users can also send simple messages using buttons on the side of the watch. 

Other smartwatches, such as the Apple Watch, have attempted to be more accessible to the visually impaired by utilizing sound to read information on the screen through a speaker, but this method often robs disabled users of privacy.

The Dot was the brainchild of founder and CEO Eric Kim. He had the idea while he was attending the University of Washington and noticed a blind classmate lugging large, bulky books to class while most students were using tablets. After learning that these were Braille textbooks, he was disheartened to learn that this student couldn’t take advantage of new technology.

Though the concept is novel, it does have its flaws.

Not all people who are visually impaired read Braille. Fewer than 10 percent of the 1.3 million people who are legally blind in the United States are Braille readers, according to a report by the National Federation of the Blind. The BBC also points out that because the watch face is small, reading long passages on the watch could be a pain.

Yet, because the Dot also has an open API, developers can constantly improve upon the technology and perhaps improve upon its technology.

The Dot smartwatch has been in the development for about 3 years, and will hit selected stores in the UK in March. The company told the Huffington Post that they hope to get units to the U.S. next and will hopefully have them available before April. They will retail for about $ 300 before tax.

The company is currently accepting pre-orders through their site with a 10 percent discount.

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Kesha Opens Up About Her Mental Health So Others Don’t Feel Alone

Kesha is shedding light on her own mental health in order to comfort others who may be having the same experiences.

The singer recently opened up to Billboard magazine about dealing with psychological health conditions in the public eye. The conversation comes after a long legal entanglement with her former producer Lukasz “Dr. Luke” Gottwald, who she says committed sexual assault during their time working together. 

“I’ve battled a lot of things, including anxiety and depression,” Kesha told the publication. “Finding the strength to come forward about those things is not easy. But maybe, by telling my story, I can help someone else going through tough times.”

She also told Billboard that she’s working on new music that will “showcase my vulnerabilities as a strength and not as a weakness.”

Kesha’s candid attitude is necessary in a culture where stigma often puts people with mental illness in the shadows. Approximately one in five American adults will experience a mental health disorder in a given year. Yet many don’t seek proper medical treatment for fear of being judged or shamed. Celebrities can help remedy that through large-scale advocacy.

The singer has previously discussed her experience with disordered eating and other mental health issues. She said that it was only when she opened up to a therapist and got medical treatment was she able to begin to manage her condition.

“I realized being healthy is the most important thing I can do for myself,” Kesha told Vogue last year.

Couldn’t have said it any better.

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How to Make Your Dad Feel Special on Your Wedding Day

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With Father’s Day just around the corner and it being the season of summer weddings, I wanted to share some unique ideas on how to celebrate your dad on the “big day.” My dad is one of my biggest role models and has been there for me through it all. And I know my wedding was an especially important day for him, so it was really important to us to incorporate him into it. Cheers to all of the fathers out there!

1. Thank your dad before you walk down the aisle. For a father, walking his daughter down the aisle can be both the scariest and happiest moments of his life. Before you make your big appearance, thank him and make sure he knows how important he is to you. If you have time in the morning, you can even do a “first look” with your dad, or deliver to him a hand-written letter explaining how much he means to you.

2. Dance to your dad’s favorite song! The father-daughter wedding dance is a special tradition, but personalize it even more by dancing to one of your dad’s favorite songs. He not only will be smiling to have his little girl in his arms, but he will be grooving with his best moves.

3. Ask your dad to read something special during the ceremony. Dad’s typically give a toast during the reception, but incorporating him into the ceremony will make him feel like he has a bigger role on your special day. He won’t say no!

4. Wear something that belongs to your dad. People always hear about bride’s wearing their mother’s wedding gown, but we rarely ever hear about them wearing something of their dad’s. Whether it is a piece of jewelry he wears or even the pattern of his favorite tie, incorporate it into your wedding day.

5. Don’t be afraid to ask for your dad’s opinion. When it comes to planning the big day, make sure your father knows his voice will be heard and that what he thinks matters too!

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My Wife Told Me She Wants to Cheat, Here’s How I Feel

When Elloa Atkinson confessed to the Internet that she wanted to cheat on her husband, the Internet went crazy. Here is her husband Nige’s side of the story.

Elloa and Nige:

We had reservations about republishing this, originally shared on The Good Men Project, here. Therefore we’d like to say at the outset that there is no prescription here, no recommendation or suggestion about how other people “should” conduct themselves. We do our best to live by the principle of emotional responsibility which states that I am 100 percent responsible for my experience, as you are for yours. The concept of honesty is one part of this, and while it feels risky, it is, as our teachers Duane and Catherine O’Kane write, “far less risky than acting out.” We share this story for the people who want to believe that vulnerability, as scary as it feels, is ultimately worth the risk.

Elloa:

I wrote a post about wanting to cheat on my husband, and it went viral. The response was mixed, the opinions passionate. The only voice that was noticeably absent was that of my husband, Nige.

This didn’t seem right, but it did feel significant, symbolic of the collective vow of silence that today’s men are living under.

While some people expressed their outrage that I would hurt my husband in this way, others shared either publicly or privately that they too have had these kind of thoughts, fantasies and yes, even obsessions. Still others protested that if a man were to speak about being attracted to women whilst in a relationship, he would be lambasted.

This conversation, sparked by my article, appears to be one we are ready to have. The next step was clear. It was time for Nige to speak.

***

Nige:

A few weeks ago, when Elloa disclosed her secret attraction, I felt like my stomach had been clamped in a vice. Then, as her confession came, an inward surge of Hulk-like anger, all too familiar. My thoughts were no different than some of the judgmental comments that appeared in reaction to her article on The Huffington Post. Let’s face it: the ego always speaks first, and often cruelly.

The difference was, I know enough about this part of my mind not to voice my thoughts at this point. The first thing I have to do in these moments is take a breath, then another one, then another one. If I react now, it’s game on for the ego, but game over for the relationship — and I won’t let the ego win, because it viciously guards a set of mistaken beliefs that drive me further and further away from the one thing I truly want the most: love.

Therefore, Elloa and I have a contract about disclosing our secrets and dark thoughts to each other. We both understand that secrets kill relationships, and see so many couples playing a long-term game of hide and seek with each other. In our marriage, we are determined to fully know and be known by the other, and that means having the kind of raw, honest conversation that Elloa’s article described. The purpose of this is to go beyond the secret thought to the fear of who we are underneath, the fear that is driving that secret thought, desire or behavior.

Having this depth of honesty in our communication is not easy. It is scary, vulnerable and unpredictable.

Fortunately, we have enough tools in our relationship kitbag to be able to work through any form of upset in a safe and contained way, without using the other person as a dumping ground. The critical element in the whole process is the intention that we both set at the beginning.

We did what we always do in this situation, utilizing a therapeutic process (adapted from Clearmind International) that forms a core part of our relationship. The process gives permission to the reactive, raging part of my mind to unleash its fury for three solid minutes without any kind of reaction whatsoever from Ell. Crucial to the process is that she remains neutral, and that no physical boundaries are crossed whatsoever.

When the other person refuses to fight back but also stays the course and remains in a place of neutrality (not always easy to do), something amazing happens: the brutal, vicious attacking part of our mind gives way and we literally “drop” into our feelings. This is the place no man wants to go — a pit of despair, self-loathing, shame and loneliness.

My anger, directed initially towards Elloa for her “disgusting” behavior, was really masking a deep wound that I have carried since I was a boy — the belief that I in fact am completely inadequate and unloveable.

***

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The root of this belief lies in my childhood, during which I lost a testicle after being kicked by another boy and the subsequent taunting, which dogged me for most of my schooldays. I grew up believing I was a freak. I called myself the odd man out.

Fast forward 39 years and there I am with my wife, feeling 6 years old again: raw, exposed and vulnerable, with my head in my hands. I am terrified to look up, afraid she will reject me. In that moment, I feel deeply ashamed of who I am.

I know there is only one way through this shame — I have to make contact. I have to let her see me, otherwise I’ll just be an empty shell. If I don’t let her into my world, then I’m doomed to walk this planet as a zombie, a man with a plastic smile that doesn’t quite reach his eyes. And yet there is so much I want to say. Somehow, I have to take a risk and open up.

As a man, I haven’t been taught by our society how to express my feelings. It’s as taboo as wanting to cheat, forbidden in daily life and permissible only in the direst of circumstances. Even then, only a few tears are allowed before the words “man up” come into play.

Even now, after nearly three decades of inner work, speaking about how I feel often feels clumsy and awkward for me. However, experience has taught me not to listen to the shaming voice that tells me that I’m weak if I cry.

So on the day Ell told me about her crush, I let her hold me while my body shook and the tears poured out of me. I told her everything I fear I am and she just listened, just held me and let me let it all out.

Eventually, I came to a quieter place. The dam, once burst, doesn’t gush water uncontrollably forever. The wave subsides. I am left with my beliefs.

***

After the outrage and attack, after the shame and the guilt, after the tears, there is a moment of true choice. This is the state from which I can change my mind, because here, I am open. Here, I am willing to accept help. I ask my wife, this woman who just a few minutes ago I thought was the cause of all my pain, to help me remember who I am.

And the truth comes back to me. I am not the odd man out. I never was. I am strong. I am worth loving. I am good. And nothing can be taken from me because I have everything I need within.

This is not a theoretical or intellectual knowing, it is an experience I inhabit when I work through, rather than dance around or avoid, my deepest fears. The function of my relationship isn’t to avoid experiencing pain or the realization of my fears — it is to give each other a soft place to land when one of us needs to show up, knowing that the healing is always twofold.

Elloa revealing her attraction therefore became a catalyst for me to expose a war wound that I carry on a daily basis and to do the work of changing my perception of myself. I do not do this work alone. I do it from a mindset of making conscious contact with my wife and with myself.

I’m a normal guy; I have thoughts of sexual attraction towards other women almost every day. Some are fleeting while others linger. It’s the ones that linger that trouble me the most. But I know that with each attraction there is an opportunity — often not as dramatic as this one — to take a step closer to my wife, to myself and to being the type of man I want the world to know exists.

And that is why, in our household, my wife Elloa is always welcome to tell the truth, and why I tell mine in return.

Find out more from Nige Atkinson about breaking the vow of male silence.

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Are sudden feelings of intense hunger or cravings sabotaging your willpower to lose excess weight once and for all?

It is almost impossible to stick with a calorie restricted diet long enough to reach your weight loss goal if it leaves you feeling hungry. Low blood sugar can cause a lack of concentration, irritability as well as intense hunger. It leads to an instinctive urge to eat–especially sweets.

The recommendations cover how to:

* Increase satiety (the absence of hunger).
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* Choose low calorie density and high satiety foods.
* Choose portions of foods you like from the different food groups to balance meals and snacks according to individual estimated needs.
* Learn visualize appropriate food portions.
* Make carbohydrates your primary fuel source as nature intended
* Improve energy and concentration levels throughout the day.

This eating plan is also safe for the healthy individuals who do not experience low blood sugar.

Who better to ask for nutrition advice than a Registered Dietitian? There are many weight-loss books availalbe, but few with such professional backing. Denise Dubé, RD, PDt, CNSD, BBA has over 10 years experience as a clinical dietitian and nutrition consultant in the USA and Canada.
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Good Food for Life: Eat Well, Love Food, Feel Nourished

Good Food for Life: Eat Well, Love Food, Feel Nourished


Star chef Jamie Oliver called Jane Clarke an “exceptional nutritionist and] great cook,” and in this approachable, informative volume, she explains how to properly nourish ourselves during each stage of life. With clinical expertise, Clarke outlines what is going on in our bodies, which foods are best, and what beneficial effects we can expect from improving our diet. Quick, delicious, and simple recipes show how easy it is to create a healthy, enjoyable meal.

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Srixon Women`s Soft Feel Lady Golf Ball

Srixon Women`s Soft Feel Lady Golf Ball


The Soft Feel Lady brings all of the success of Srixon`s distance technology to a golf ball specifically designed for women. The super-soft Energetic Gradient Growth core enables low to moderate swing speed golfers to generate impressive ball speed while maintaining excellent feel. The `Hit Straight` alignment aid provides a clear line toward the intended target putting more fun back into your game.FEATURES:Designed specifically for womenPromotes higher trajectory for greater distanceSuper-soft Energetic Gradient Growth core
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Mens 1 Button Luxurious Wool Feel Single Breasted Slim Fit Black, Grey & Navy .

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Feel Good Fashion: Parisian Chic Style of Portland Fashion Designer Michelle Decourcy

Portland has plenty of interesting fashion looks and creative self-expressions seen everyday throughout the city in different neighborhoods.

Yes, people living out different lifestyles, mixing and matching what appeals to their own personal taste, and I appreciate the vibrant array of self-directed fashion views that Portland peeps take on each and every one of them.

However what continues, to draw my attention is well-crafted elegance. Yes, designs that spell simple glamour, like the Parisian chic style of Portland fashion designer Michelle Decourcy.

Why?

“I like to feel good,” so says Decourcy.

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Model, Lauren Jewels and Photography by Travis Geny

Okay, sounds easy enough. What else?

“And I like to turn to my closet for inspiration and design my collections from what I wear every day.”

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Model, Lauren Jewels and Photography byTravis Geny

Furthermore, what I like about the custom made designs by Decourcy is the deeply rooted fashion reflection of Parisian quality, sophisticated fabrics, (French lace) and silhouettes that move, and groove with the female body.

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Model, Lauren Jewels and Photography by Travis Geny

Others agree, The Stylist Kimberly Warner writes, “Michelle DeCourcy’s meteoric rise in the fashion industry has made her one of the industry’s shooting stars. Michelle burst onto the scene when Norah Jones wore her dress to the 2003 Grammy Awards.”

Decourcy, a muse of many talents, when not in studio meeting clients and designing her bridal collection, and ready-to-wear fashion, is living large on stage as a rock star in her band called the Rock Tarts, performing the music of the 80’s, 90’s, and now some of her own original tunes.

How does Decourcy maintain her creative fire?

“When it’s not fun anymore, stop.”

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Model, Lauren Jewels and Photography by Travis Geny

I appreciate that kind of strength and joie de vivre as the French would say, so here are a few pieces from the bridal collection and ready-to-wear line that capture the Decourcy sparkle.

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Model, Lauren Jewels and Photography by Travis Geny

One final fashion tip when selecting or creating an outfit?

Decourcy says, “Keep in simple. Choose one body part to make a focused fashion statement, like the back, legs or chest. Invite mystery to be a part of your look, in other words, reveal a little and cover up the rest, and by all means feel good.”

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Model, Lauren Jewels and Photography by Travis Geny

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How to Feel Great at Work Every Day: Six Steps for Creating a High-Energy Success Plan for Your Career

How to Feel Great at Work Every Day: Six Steps for Creating a High-Energy Success Plan for Your Career


"You are reading this book for a reason. Something in your career is not working-you are unhappy, tired, or stressed out. It’s time to try something different." -Judith A. Rose, certified hypnotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, and registered nurse "If you are tired, your body is asking for help, and a few small changes can go a long way." -Holly Anne Shelowitz, board certified nutrition counselor, whole foods chef, and corporate health educator "When you feel great, anything is possible. You benefit from high-energy, focus, and the ability to make better, stronger decisions about your job and career." -Bob Mittleman, owner, Fitness Together Personal Training Studios, and eight-time marathon runner What is your energy level like at work? Do you find yourself dragging during the day and craving sugar, caffeine, and other highly processed carbohydrates for energy? Let author Deborah Brown-Volkman show you how you can have high-energy even with a hectic schedule and busy life. "How To Feel Great At Work Every Day" guides you through creating a practical plan to finding more energy to fuel your career. Instead of complicated suggestions and ideas, this book offers easy-to-understand steps you can implement in your career today.
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