Feminists Can and Must Demand a Supreme Court Justice Who Answers on Roe

Donald Trump will soon announce his nominee to fill the Supreme Court seat Justice Kennedy will vacate later this month—and women’s rights are at stake.

Abortion rights activists outside of the Supreme Court. (Victoria Pickering / Creative Commons)

Trump ran on a platform of outlawing abortion and even once said women who obtain them should be “punished,” and his nominee will come from a list hand-picked by the anti-feminist, right-wing Federalist Society. Trump himself has said that he wouldn’t be asking his nominee about Roe—but his commitment to appointing anti-abortion and otherwise anti-woman judges to the bench at every level of the judiciary is apparent. It is not Trump and his associates or the Republican party members in the Senate who need Justices to disclose and be accountable to their views in hearings—it is the Americans impacted by their regressive interpretations of the law.

Trump has already successfully appointed one far-right Justice: Neil Gorsuch last year assumed the vacated seat of the late Antonin Scalia, which was left open due to Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell’s outright refusal for an entire year to hold hearings on then-President Barack Obama’s nominee, Merick Garland. Gorsuch, who had a record of ruling in favor of corporations and against women’s rights, has already proven to be a staunchly conservative vote on the Court. In hearings, he refused to commit to a stance on Roe or even on Brown v. Board of Education.

A GOP-fostered lack of transparency in Supreme Court candidates has now become the norm—even as the rights of women, people of color and LGBT communities hang in the balance. Linda Greenhouse, winner of the Pulitzer Prize in Journalism and lecturer at Yale Law School, argued last week in the New York Times that Justice Gorsuch’s refusal to disclose his stance on past Supreme Court rulings was abnormal—and implores Democrats and Republicans to challenge rhetoric that inquiries about the views of Supreme Court nominees are somehow invasive.

With the future of the court—indeed, of the Constitution as we know it—now at stake, it’s urgent for the senators and the public to understand that Justice Gorsuch’s stonewalling of the Judiciary Committee was not consistent with historical practice and should not be viewed as a norm. Rather, it should be called out for what it was: a derogation of the democratic principle at the heart of Article III of the Constitution, the judiciary article that places the confirmation of life-tenured judicial nominees in the hands of the people’s representatives. Until recently, the modern confirmation process has assumed at least a modicum of substantive engagement between those representatives and the nominee.

Justice Gorsuch and his senatorial enablers based the claim that it would somehow be unethical for him to discuss his own views about the Constitution on something he and others referred to as the “Ginsburg rule.” Supposedly, during her 1993 confirmation hearing, then-Judge Ruth Bader Ginsburg refused to give meaningful answers to the senators’ questions. That is a myth. As the current documentary film “RBG” reminds us, she fully embraced the constitutional right to abortion. She was confirmed by a vote of 96 to 3.

Not only is there no “Ginsburg rule,” but the two Republican nominees who came after her, John G. Roberts Jr. and Samuel A. Alito, were both more forthcoming than Justice Gorsuch. While both fenced with the senators about Roe v. Wade and refused to be pinned down, they each accepted the holding in Griswold v. Connecticut, the crucial pre-Roe decision recognizing a right to privacy that gave married couples the constitutional right to contraception. “I feel comfortable commenting on Griswold and the result in Griswold,” then-Judge Roberts told Senator Herb Kohl, a Wisconsin Democrat, during his 2005 hearing, “because that does not appear to me to be an area that is going to come before the court again.” (Let’s hope that’s still the case.)

You can read the full piece here.

Anna Lipton is an editorial intern at Ms.

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The foods in Italy you must eat

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Fancy a vacation in Italy? The European country is famed for its historic sights and rich variety of artwork, but there’s something people love about Italy more than anything else – food. You’ve probably already heard of and tasted some of the best-known foods that the country has to offer. However, you’ve never truly sampled the cuisine until you’ve been to the place it originated from. From pizza to pasta and everything in between, this is what you should be ordering on your next Italian vacation.

Ribollita

It’s ideal to start off an Italian dining experience with a first course, and for that, we would suggest ribollita. This soup is delicious when the vegetables have recently been harvested. The mix of flavors will have you wondering how you ever managed with plain old tomato soup back home. The traditional dish is great for vegetarians because it uses bread rather than meat (unlike American versions of the soup). It’s amazing how much of an effect a change like that can have.

Ossobuco

Follow that soup up with a plate of ossobuco. This dish is a piece of veal shank that’s simmered until it’s at just the right, soft texture. It’s not always easy to find in restaurants because of the long cooking time, so if you spot it on your Italian vacation, then you should take the opportunity to try it out. It’s unlikely you’ll have ever tasted meat quite as tender as this, and it goes great with a gremolata. This is a condiment that combines parsley, garlic, and lemon zest to give your meal a tangy twist. You’re best chance at finding this dish will be in the region of Lombardy, where these kinds of rustic dishes are created all the time.

Truffles

There aren’t many places that serve truffles as a dish. The fungus is certainly a rarity around the world, and thus it’s a delicacy that many people want to try. Lucky for the Italians, then, that truffles grow in several areas across the country. Places like Umbria and Tuscany are no stranger to truffles, and if you visit during the fall, you can sample some of the best dishes they have to offer. You might be wise to start with a dish that is lightly sprinkled with truffles, so that you can get used to the smell and taste. It’s not necessarily for everyone, but if you take a shine to it, your palate will be very appreciative.

Carbonara

You’ll find carbonara served in many Italian restaurants across the States. Just like lasagna or spaghetti bolognese, it’s a fairly standard dish in Italy, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to get right. Until you’ve visited Rome and tried one of their carbonaras, you’ll never know what true taste perfection is like. The best restaurants don’t thicken the carbonara sauce or use bacon, instead preferring to cook the simple ingredients in the most delectable combination possible. If there’s anything that’s served in the U.S. you should try in Italy, it’s this. Well, this and pizza. You can’t beat quality Italian pizza.

Gelato

What’s a main course without dessert? Gelato is the sweet treat of choice in Italy, and it’s clear to see why. It contains less fat than ice cream and has more intense flavors too. So, it’s basically a dessert that’s good for you. Okay, maybe we wouldn’t go that far, but you don’t need to make excuses for yourself if you want to have a scoop or two. The only trouble you’ll have is trying to pick what to have. The variety of flavors on display, many of which are made with fresh fruit, are usually so diverse that you’ll struggle to make a decision. We could think of worse ways to spend your time.

Are you hungry now? These delicacies have certainly got our mouths watering, and we’re considering booking ourselves a vacation to Italy. Doesn’t that sound like a good idea?

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Why You Must Let Your Voice Be Heard On Trump’s Supreme Court Replacement

The most recent action involving the Supreme Court that’s expected to impact the nation for a generation or more has not been the result of a major decision but rather a resignation.

On Wednesday, Justice Anthony Kennedy announced that he would step down from the nation’s high court—a move that presents President Trump with the opportunity to ideologically remake the bench by solidifying a predictably conservative majority to rule on a range of issues critical to American life.

Why should you be concerned?

The effect on the legal landscape will be seismic. it will affect every case that comes before the court—from immigration status and reproductive rights to workplace inclusion and voting rights—for decades to come. It’s evident from the response to this development that it serves as a political windfall for Republicans as Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell immediately stated that the GOP “will vote to confirm Justice Kennedy’s successor” in advance of the midterms, making the declaration even before Trump has reviewed a possible replacement.

A Reagan appointee who served for 30 years, Kennedy was considered a swing vote on a number of key cases. For example, he disappointed archconservatives for positions that tended to place him closer to the center. For example, he wrote the ruling that legalized same-sex marriage in 2015, joined opposing justices against the death penalty in 2005 and was among those who upheld Roe v. Wade in 1992. However, don’t overlook the fact that he sided with conservative justices on the court’s 14 most recent decisions.

Judging by his lower court selections, Trump will most certainly pick a hardline conservative to fill the vacancy and join Chief Justice Roberts, Clarence Thomas, Samuel Alito, and Neil Gorsuch, the president’s first appointment to the Supreme Court. As observers have noted Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Stephen Breyer, both consistent liberals on the court, are 85 and 79, respectively, and potentially represent near-term successor opportunities for the administration to significantly diminish any progressive dissent within chambers.

Justifiably, progressives view the scenario as a means to erode the current civil rights agenda as well as a judicial fiat of the continuation of Trump’s largely unchecked presidential authority. As we commemorate the 150th anniversary of the 14th amendment, which guarantees all citizens “equal protection under the law” and has served as the basis for landmark Supreme Court decisions to ensure basic rights, one only has to look to the Supreme Court decisions this month to realize the further rollback of rights that will leave all Americans unprotected, especially people of color. In this month alone, the high court’s current conservative-leaning configuration engaged in a series of restrictive rulings that included allowing Ohio to employ aggressive policies to purge voting rolls and open the door for other states to impose similar measures; validation of the redrawing of electoral maps in Texas and North Carolina that critics argue will serve to discriminate against minority voters; weakening public sector labor unions and, in turn, disproportionately hurting large numbers of black workers when it deemed unconstitutional a requirement for non-union workers to pay collective bargaining fees; and permitting the Trump administration to continue its anti-Muslim travel ban that limits entry from seven countries including Iran, North Korea, Syria, Libya, Yemen, Somalia, and Venezuela.

So what can you do?

NAACP Legal Defense Fund President and Director-Counsel Sherrilyn A. Ifill provides an answer.

In a statement, Ifill cited that Kennedy proved to be “an important moderating force on issues ranging from LGBT rights to abortion and affirmative action” whose presence on the Court will be missed. She further asserted that “we can have no confidence that President Trump will present a nominee with a record of commitment to racial equality and justice. And so every American must invest themselves in ensuring that Congress does its job—which in this case, means not considering any nominee this year, and voting down any nominee who does not represent the ideals of our democracy or is otherwise unqualified to serve on the highest court in our nation.”

To ensure that the Senate engages in its “advise and consent” power to ensure Kennedy’s successor will “uphold the rule of law and equal rights for all Americans” she advocates that you contact U.S. Senators and demand that the incoming Senate—those for whom Americans will vote for in the midterms—gain the opportunity to vote for the confirmation of the next Supreme Court justice.

I agree that we cannot sit on the sidelines. We must take action. It will not be easy but we must constantly prod our representatives and make our voices heard.

To take a chapter from history, in 1987, Reagan nominated Robert Bork, considered an “ideological extremist” replacement for Lewis F. Powell Jr., another retiring, swing-voting justice. The nomination of Bork, who was considered unqualified and had derided judicial redress to racial discrimination as being “wrong,” ignited a firestorm of protest among civil rights organizations, women’s groups, and students, among others, as well as full-throated condemnations from Democrats and other progressive politicians. The result was that the nomination was rejected in committee, political support had evaporated and the confirmation was ultimately scuttled.

The replacement nominee for the Supreme Court: Justice Anthony Kennedy.

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Disney will sell the 22 regional sports networks it will acquire from Twenty-First Century Fox as part of a settlement that won it regulatory approval of its $ 71 billion purchase of most of Fox’s assets, the Mouse House said on Wednesday. The agreement to sell the RSNs was disclosed as part of a consent decree…
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These are the stories making headlines in fashion on Thursday. Gisele covers Vogue’s July issueVogue’s July cover stars Gisele Bündchen. For the cover (shown above), the glowing model, mother and nature enthusiast poses in a lush, tropical paradise shot by Inez and Vindoodh. Inside …

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Must Be Nice! Beyoncé Wore a $10,000 Victorian-Inspired Gown to Renew Her Vows [Photo]

When Beyoncé and Jay-Z kicked of their ‘On the Run II’ tour last week in Cardiff, England, fans were treated to footage of The Carters dressed in white and surrounded by their children, Blue Ivy, 6, and twins Rumi and Sir, 11 months.

It appeared to be a vow renewal ceremony,.

Designer Galia Lahav confirmed in a press release that the ceremony was indeed a “vow renewal” and that Beyoncé wore the label’s “Thelma” style wedding dress.

It’s a stunning dress. Now, we just need Beyoncé to drop photos (and more video) of her in it so we can see her in all her glory.

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Tesla must fix ‘flaws’ in Autopilot after fatal crash: U.S. consumer group

WASHINGTON (Reuters) – A consumer advocacy group on Friday urged Tesla Inc to fix what it termed as “flaws” in the automaker’s driver-assistance system Autopilot after a preliminary government report said a driver did not have his hands on the vehicle’s steering wheel in the final six seconds before a fatal crash.


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‘Hereditary’ Review: A Punishing Horror Film That Must Be Seen

Horror is often viewed as a genre that exists only to entertain. Some audiences watching a horror movie only want a thrilling experience that allows them the fun of being scared with none of the actual danger that fear represents. Hereditary shirks that approach and delivers a horror experience that is genuinely uncomfortable. This isn’t a fun time at the movies.

That doesn’t mean it isn’t necessary viewing. Because it is.

Emotional Horror


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Steve (Gabriel Byrne) and Charlie (Milly Shapiro) attend Ellen's funeral.

Hereditary centers around the Graham family shortly after the death of the family matriarch, Ellen. Her daughter Annie (Toni Collette) is trying to cope with the loss. She’s afraid of the mental disorders she’s possibly inherited from her mother and she’s starting to sense a presence in her old home. There’s also Steve (Gabriel Byrne), Annie’s sympathetic but frustrated husband, and their two children Peter (Alex Wolff) and Charlie (Milly Shapiro).

Much like The Exorcist and Rosemary’s BabyHereditary isn’t a film that is centered around big jump scares. Instead, it focuses on intensely emotional moments to drive home its feelings of terror and dread. This is a film where people reacting to a tragedy is as skin-crawling as a possible specter lurking in the shadows. A lot of credit goes to the superb cast, especially Toni Collette who gives a performance worthy of all the awards.

Nightmare Logic


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Annie (Toni Collette) builds miniature dollhouse models that reflect moments in her life.

Another impressive element of Hereditary is its ability to present surreal imagery without coming across as pretentious or obtuse. For example, there are multiple times in the film where a strange light pulses across the screen. We aren’t told what this light is but we get a sense of its intention. It’s off-putting and bizarre but not in a non-sensical way. Because of this, it feels both creepy and strangely understandable.

And just wait until the movie ramps up as it heads towards its climax. The levels of hysteria and insanity in Hereditary reach such a fever pitch that you start to feel as if you’re going mad. Considering the film is using its story as a metaphor for mental illness — particularly dementia — this is an appropriate escalation. And boy, it works too well. By the end of the film, it feels like you’ve woken up from a nightmare.

Characters You Cry For


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The Graham family is not alright.

Honestly, the strongest part of Hereditary is its success in creating truly human characters. The Grahams feel achingly real. You’ve known these people and they are probably in your family. What’s great is that none of them are heroes or villains. They are just people. That means they have interesting qualities — Annie is an artist who makes miniature models — and believable flaws. There are moments of devastation and danger that will have you gasping for these people. That’s powerful.

And it bears repeating: the actors in this are at the top of their game. Toni Collette is doing work that most will pass off as pure histrionics. Those people would be missing how gut-wrenching her character’s perspective is during the film. Her reactions and fears come across at completely genuine. And young Alex Wolff has a difficult job in presented Peter as an apathetic teen whose relationship with his mother is more disturbing than we first know. Plus, young newcomer Milly Shapiro is the secret, sad heart of Hereditary and she demonstrates an emotional intelligence that few child actors ever reach.

The Nitpick

Okay, so there is one thing about Hereditary that doesn’t quite click but it’s not possible to talk about in depth without spoilers. So, in the interest of keeping this review spoiler-free, we’ll just say that Hereditary is very vague with its motives for most of the film. It’s towards the end that an explanation begins to take shape. And honestly, it feels somewhat out-of-place for the movie you’ve been watching.

It doesn’t sink the film at all but it does try and give a clear-cut reason for the supernatural shenanigans going on. The film works without this explanation and that’s a testament to its narrative strength. The ending actually makes things more confusing by trying to give a somewhat easier answer. It works but it’s not nearly as interesting as when things were kept unknown.

Is Hereditary Good?

Full of nightmarish imagery and emotional terror, Hereditary has the makings of a horror classic. There is true evil lurking inside this film. The acting is superb, the atmosphere is unsettling, and the tension is nigh unbearable. When it comes to making an unabashedly horrifying experience, writer/director Ari Aster has knocked it out of the park. See this immediately but don’t expect to sleep well that night.

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Gymnast Who Was Abused by Larry Nassar Says MSU Must Do More Than Pay $500 Million. It Must Change

Michigan State University announced a $ 500 million settlement with the victims of gymnastics team doctor Larry Nassar this week. For Lindsey Lemke, an MSU student who was abused by Nassar, that’s not enough.

“That is a good start,” she says. “[MSU] thinks that’s enough. And it’s not enough. No amount of money can ever change what we had to go through.”

The settlement will go to more than 300 victims. It allows for $ 425 million to be paid to current claimants, and $ 75 million to future claimants who may come forward.

In January 2018, more than 100 gymnasts and athletes that Nassar had sexually abused, including members of the 2012 gold-medal winning U.S. national team, provided victim impact statements over several days at Nassar’s sentencing hearing. Lemke was one of them. And while she sees the settlement as a first step, she says MSU still needs to go further to redress wrongs when it comes to sexual abuse.

“Part of the issue I’m still struggling with is that they keep saying that they are working on changing the culture, and enforcing different policies but we really don’t know yet what those are. Especially for students at MSU — if someone said to me, ‘Where do I go to report sexual abuse, or who do I talk to,’ I still wouldn’t know what to tell you,” she says. “I would like to see the accountability go even farther.”

As part of the settlement, the 322 plaintiffs agreed to drop law suits against MSU and against former and current employees at the university, including board members, says Jamie White, an attorney for one of the plaintiff groups. He said in such settlements, a third party arbitrator typically uses a set of criteria, including the merits of each individual’s legal claim, the amount of damages, including financial losses, suffered, and makes allocation recommendations for each plaintiff.

While MSU may hope that the settlement closes the door on the Nassar scandal, Lemke says the survivors of his sexual abuse will continue fighting. There are more than 30 bills in front of the Michigan state legislature that propose extending the statute of limitations for reporting sexual abuse, as well as removing government immunity protections for states if state employees engage in sexual abuse. Nassar is currently serving an up to 175 year prison sentence.

One provision of the settlement requires anyone who receives a payout from MSU to stop advocating for two of the bills before the legislature, attorney Vince Finaldi, who represents about 175 victims, told the Detroit News.

The news of the settlement was followed by even more turmoil at USA Gymnastics, the beleaguered national governing body for gymnastics.

On Friday, USA Gymnastics (USAG) announced that Rhonda Faehn, head of the women’s program, “is no longer with USA Gymnastics.” The organization only added that “This is a personnel matter that we will not discuss in detail.”

Faehn is reportedly among the first people at USAG to be informed that Nassar, was sexually abusing gymnasts. Olympian Aly Raisman and national team member Maggie Nichols were overheard at a training camp in the summer of 2015 discussing Nassar’s unusually intrusive pelvic procedures, which he claimed was part of his treatment of the gymnasts. The coach who overheard them reported the discussion to Faehn, who reported it to then USAG president Steve Penny.

Penny did not report Nassar to the police, but instead hired an investigator who questioned Raisman, Nichols and Olympian McKayla Maroney. It was not until six weeks after the coach’s initial complaint that Penny reported Nassar to the FBI.

Kerry Perry, who succeeded Penny as USAG president when he stepped down in March 2017, has been called to testify before Congress next week to explain USAG’s handling of sexual abuse complaints, including many involving Nassar, which gymnasts said they reported before 2015.

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Excuse This Disruption: #MeToo Must Not Neglect Race

Attorney General Eric Schneiderman’s political fire turned into smoldering ruins last week as allegations by his former partners of emotional, physical, verbal and sexual abuse came to light in an article in The New Yorker. It is now clear that the former head of law enforcement for New York state strategically assumed the rhetoric of the gender equity and justice movements for political gain—while in private, according to the allegations, his behavior consisted of intimate partner violence that derived from exercising unequal power and control to the point of physical assault and emotional abuse.

Since the news has broken, the analysis of his alleged behavior has rightfully been framed within the lens of domestic and sexual violence—but it is important that we do not ignore the racial elements in the allegations against Scheniderman.

Tanya Selvaratnam, a Sri Lankan artist and activist, claims that he called her a “brown slave,” forced her to say that she was his property and hit her until she complied. This behavior hearkens back to the painful colonial past that many South Asians carry with them, and reflects the belief that white people are racially superior to brown and black people.

This moment is a pivotal one for our movement: Schneiderman’s racism should provoke just as much disgust and demand for accountability as his misogyny.

Undoubtedly, the cosmic shift occurring in our national socio-political landscape by way of #MeToo and #TimesUp is refreshing. Collectively, we are exhuming and ripping open the fastened coffins of abuse and sexual violence. But in spite of the presence of and need for active participation in these social movements, they do not offer an identifiable space for a significant segment of survivors. For women who do not occupy positions of power or privilege, much of this has been a conversation that is unrelated to their lives.

The experiences of women of color in situations of abuse do not occur in gender silos—and our movements for social change must not treat race and gender separately. It is not a far stretch to wonder whether Selvaratnam would have been believed without additional narratives by a white woman against the same powerful man. For women of color, speaking up and coming forward can be extremely dangerous—we are often not believed, and we face a brunt of victim-blaming.

During this moment of reflection, it is necessary to hold a mirror to our unified face to share the complexity of the allegations against Schneiderman. The experiences of survivors cannot be sanitized in a gendered construct; in fact, overtly being viewed as “other” is yet another thread in the narrative of sexual violence. Limited frameworks for these revelations and conversations only perpetuate the racism, sexism and classism that has deeply saturated the fabric of our culture and divides our collective experiences.

The very nature of a survivor is to be resilient; to face adversity in spite of challenge. We can stand with them by putting structures in place that stop them from experiencing any additional abuse. In order to do so in this moment, we must support survivors beyond listening to their stories—and acknowledge the racial impact of violence.

Kavita Mehra is Executive Director of Sakhi for South Asian Women.

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Expecting Class-Action Cash for Cruise Line Robocalls? You Must Read This


Sail away, sail away, sail—

Not so fast, captain.

That cruise line class-action settlement we told you about last year just got a little more complicated.

Originally, if you received an unsolicited robocall between July 2009 and March 2014 offering you a free cruise, you may have been eligible to receive up to $ 900 as part of a class-action settlement against Resort Marketing Group, the company accused of violating the Telephone Consumer Protection Act.

Turns out, more than 2.6 million people filed claims, causing concerns about fraud — oh, the irony.

The flood of claims meant that the $ 7 million to $ 12.5 million settlement fund would dwindle to a few dollars each for claimants, nowhere close to the $ 900 maximum previously established.

Now, claimants are being asked to complete one more step before receiving their class-action cut.

How to Get Your Slice of the Cruise Line Class-Action Pie

If you submitted a claim before the Nov. 3, 2017, deadline, you still need to submit additional documentation to prove you actually received one of those annoying robocalls peddling a free cruise.

You should have already received an email notice from Charvat v. Resort Marketing Group if you filed a claim last year. However, many of the notices bounced, so claimants may not be aware they have to complete one more step.

The notice asks claimants to submit documentation, like a phone bill or page from a phone directory, that ties them to their number during the July 2009 to March 2014 time frame.

Visit the settlement website for notices, details on documentation and questions.

Documentation submissions can be emailed to administrator@rmgtcpasettlement.com or uploaded to the settlement website.

Let’s just hope you’re a paper or phone book hoarder or can access your 2009 to 2014 phone bills, or maybe you have an old internet or cable bill with your digits on it.

The upside is if you happen to have the paperwork, you may get a bigger chunk of the settlement fund; but if you don’t, you may be left class-actionless.

Stephanie Bolling is a staff writer at The Penny Hoarder. Bruise rhymes with cruise, and this is a total “ouch!”

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Manage Your Money, You Must: 10 Money Lessons We Learned from ‘Star Wars’


The Force will be with us – always.

Because “Star Wars” has embedded itself so deeply into our cultural DNA, it continues to shape the way we think about life.

Over eight movies and counting, “Star Wars” has taught us about overcoming obstacles, about dealing with family drama, about friendship, about patience, about beating the odds – and even about money.

Because this is The Penny Hoarder, we’re especially interested in the part about money.

Even though the epic saga of Luke Skywalker & Co. played out a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, the financial wisdom we gleaned from it applies to the here and now.

Now, prepare to make the jump into hyperspace! Here’s what we’ve learned:

1. Always Pay Your Debts – Or Else

Bingo. This is always the first one everyone thinks of.

Han Solo owes money to the giant slug-like crime boss, Jabba the Hutt. When he doesn’t pay up, Jabba sends bounty hunter Boba Fett after him — basically a debt collector with blaster pistols and green Mandalorian armor.

Instead of declaring Chapter 7 bankruptcy, Han ends up frozen in carbonite. Then Princess Leia, Luke, Lando and the iconic droids have to infiltrate Jabba’s lair to save him in a sequel.

Just like with Solo, the longer you don’t pay off your debts, the bigger the problem gets. The interest piles up.

Your first step should be to figure out what you’re dealing with. Map out exactly what kind of debt you have. For example, which companies do you owe money to? Are any of your debts in collections? What are your minimum monthly payments on each credit card or loan?

An easy way to start doing this is to sign up with a free service like Credit Sesame. This tool shows your balance on any unpaid bills, credit cards or loans. It also offers tips on reducing your debt and raising your credit score.

2. Used Vehicles Offer the Best Value

The Millennium Falcon takes its share of verbal abuse in multiple “Star Wars” films.

“You came in that thing? You’re braver than I thought,” Princess Leia says upon first seeing the starship. And in “The Force Awakens,” Rey calls the ship “garbage.”

But the Millennium Falcon gets the job done. (Did we mention that it made the Kessel Run in less than 12 parsecs?) Turns out you don’t always need a shiny new vehicle.

Used cars are often a better deal than new ones. Consumer Reports recommends buying a car that’s two or three years old. For tips on buying a used car, go here or here or here.

You’ll need to take care of your ride, though. (The Falcon’s hyperdrive keeps breaking down despite Chewbacca’s best efforts in “The Empire Strikes Back.”)

According to a recent AAA survey, 1 in 3 U.S. drivers can’t pay for an unexpected auto repair. Consider creating an emergency fund with a high-yield bank account.

3. Negotiate the Best Deal You Can

Early in “A New Hope,” Luke and Uncle Owen are bargaining with some creepy little jawas over the price of some used droids.

When an R2 unit they’d just bought immediately breaks down, Uncle Owen aggressively questions the quality of what the jawas are selling: “Hey, what are you trying to push on us?”

The result: Luke’s family gets the best droid ever, R2-D2.

Negotiating isn’t just for markets and cars, any variable expense can be negotiated to a lower price — you just have to know what to look for.

4. “Do or Do Not. There is No Try.”

Yoda’s admonition to Luke in “The Empire Strikes Back” is probably the biggest zen moment in any of these movies.

As always, Yoda is right on target. You’re either going to do it, or you’re not. Don’t just try.

If you’re going to make financial changes, commit to them and be consistent. Don’t just try once or twice and then forget about it. Sticking to it is the key to success.

For instance, saving money is hard. Consider trying an auto-savings app like Acorns.

Once you connect it to a debit or credit card, it rounds your purchases up to the nearest dollar and funnels your digital change into a savings or investment account.

Because the money comes out in increments of less than $ 1, you’re less likely to feel an impact in your bank account.

5. Don’t Let the Little Details Blow Up On You

The Empire spared no expense on the Death Star, don’t you think?

You’ve got to figure that moon-sized battle stations capable of blowing up planets don’t come cheap (especially two of them).

But they overlooked that pesky little design flaw that allowed the Rebel Alliance to destroy the whole thing. Whoops!

Don’t neglect the details like that, because they’ll burn you. Don’t skimp on maintenance and repairs for big-ticket items like your home and car. If you blow that stuff off, you’ll just end up paying more in the end.

Another lesson from the Death Star: Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. The Empire sure had a lot riding on its supercool Death Star, didn’t it?

Don’t depend on just one thing. Diversify your investments. Here’s how one woman used an app to make sure her 401(k) was in balance.

6. Get Rid of Your Old Stuff

The “Star Wars” universe looks different than Star Trek and other sci-fi settings. “Star Wars” has that “lived-in” look – there’s junk everywhere. You know, just like your house.

And in the “Star Wars” movies, people make money selling that junk – just like you should.

In “The Force Awakens,” Rey is a scavenger on the planet Jakku, feeding herself by salvaging parts from ships.

On Luke’s home planet of Tatooine, those jawas we mentioned earlier appear to be scavengers, too.

In “The Phantom Menace” — hey, here’s our first and only mention of the prequels! — Qui-Gon Jinn and Obi-Wan Kenobi meet young Anakin Skywalker in a junk shop where he fixes things.

Meanwhile, here on our planet, a number of apps are making it easier than ever to sell your old stuff online.

To free up space and earn some extra cash, use apps to sells your stuff. Listing the right stuff in the right marketplaces means you’re more likely to sell it for the right price.

7. Beware of Scams. Know What Things Are Worth.

Toward the beginning of “The Force Awakens,” a hungry Rey nearly pawns the droid BB-8 in exchange for 60 portions of inflatable food. She’s sorely tempted, but senses something is wrong and backs off.

That’s the surest way to spot a scam: If a deal looks too good to be true, it probably is.

Whether you’re selling a droid or shopping for shoes online, you’ve got to watch out for rip-offs. Here’s how to protect yourself from imposter scams, credit repair scams, identity theft, senior scams and online mobile shopping scams.

As long as identity theft remains a huge problem you need to keep an eye on your credit and transactions.

8. Embrace the Gig Economy

When Luke and Obi-Wan need transportation to Alderaan, they basically catch an Uber. A space Uber. They pay for the Millennium Falcon to take them there.

Here on Earth, you can make like Han and Chewie in your Honda or Chevy by driving with Uber or Lyft and make extra money each week on your own schedule.

There are other entry-level ways to make money nowadays that you can do on your own time – and from your phone – thanks to the growing gig economy.

Craigslist is an easy place to sell your services under the “Gigs” section. Pay and tasks will vary, of course. And if you don’t trust Craigslist, check out TaskRabbit or Fiverr – to name just a few.

9. If the Deal Turns to the Dark Side, Cut Your Losses

Here at The Penny Hoarder, we’re always looking for good deals.

We’re always asking, Is this a good deal or not a good deal? And when we hear the words “deal” and “”Star Wars”,” we can’t help but think of Lando Calrissian in “The Empire Strikes Back.”

Lando … Lando did not get a good deal.

When Han, Leia and Chewie first turn up in Cloud City, Lando tells them, “I’ve just made a deal that’ll keep the Empire out of here forever.”

Of course, the deal involves betraying his friends. Later, Darth Vader menacingly informs Lando, “I am altering the deal. Pray I don’t alter it any further.”

Still later, when Vader threatens Lando further and mistreats his friends, Lando fumes, “This deal is getting worse all the time!”

That’s when he switches sides.

If you make a deal and the reality doesn’t match what you were promised, be prepared to walk away. Cut your losses and move on.

10. Sand People Always Walk in Single File to Hide Their Numbers

You see, from this we can learn that … no, no, wait. That’s not a good example at all. We learn no financial truths from that.

We’ve got nothing for you here.

Let’s try this instead. One of the most important lessons we learned from “Star Wars” is:

10. Make Sure You Have a Long-Term Plan

The heroes and villains of the Star Wars” universe are seriously into some long-term planning.

Emperor Palpatine’s master plan takes several movies to unfold. After he reveals himself to be Darth Sidious and strikes, Yoda and Obi-Wan lay low for a couple of decades after the prequels, waiting for their chance to return the favor.

Of course, when we first meet Obi-Wan and Yoda, they’re chilling in a cave and a swamp, respectively. Apparently the Jedi Council didn’t have much of a 401(k) match.

The sooner you start saving, investing and paying down your debt, the better off you’ll be.

A confession here: We can’t come up with any financial lessons from “Rogue One.” All we remember right now are the cool space battles.

All told, that’s everything that “Star Wars” has taught us about money over eight movies and counting. Take it as you will.

Do, or do not.

There is no try.

Mike Brassfield (mike@thepennyhoarder.com) is a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder. His “Star Wars”-loving co-workers helped out with this post.

This was originally published on The Penny Hoarder, which helps millions of readers worldwide earn and save money by sharing unique job opportunities, personal stories, freebies and more. The Inc. 5000 ranked The Penny Hoarder as the fastest-growing private media company in the U.S. in 2017.

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Trump: Voters must support GOP in Pittsburgh-area House race

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IDS ’18 Must See List

Find out what our Editors are excited to see at this year’s Interior Design Show in Toronto! Don’t forget to follow @hometrendsmag on Instagram for live highlights from the show January 18-21, 2018!

ARD Outdoor

Each year, the ARD Outdoor booth showcases the newest and hottest design ideas for your outdoor living spaces. This sneak peek at the new collection being unveiled at IDS this year has us excited to see more! – www.ardoutdoor.com

 

ACO Systems

The QuARTz by ACO booth is much like the product line: simple, functional and stunning. Here you will discover options that turn something that is normally an afterthought into a work of art for your bathroom floor! Shower drains with intricate designs, built-in lighting or even customizable to match the tile on your shower floor are on display, opening up a world of possibility right at your feet! – www.acocan.ca

Satin Flooring

Satin Flooring is continuously innovating and each year their booth showcases some of their newest and trendiest offerings. This year, Satin Flooring will be showcasing some hot trends for 2018 including herringbone patterns, wide planks and longer lengths. We look forward to seeing new collections like the White Oak line in a Band Sawn finish and the Genesis collection, a luxury vinyl collection with amazing color, texture and surface treatments. – www.satinflooring.com

Beauti-Tone

Each year, Bev Bell, Creative Director at Beauti-Tone Paint and her team put together a stunning display with a focus on the creative use of color! This year, you can expect to see a creative display focused on the National Parks of Canada Collection which features 48 colors pulled from nature in Canada’s National Parks. We are also excited to see how they will interpret this year’s color of the year, Green Peace! www.beauti-tone.ca

Fleurco

Fleurco will be showcasing a brand new bathtub collection along with their two newest door collections: Horizon and Skyline. We’re also excited to see the new matte black finish being offered in some of their collections! – www.fleurco.com

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Women Will Keep Speaking Out—And The World Must Keep Listening

I know where the Weinsteins and Cosbys of this world come from. I know one personally.

A few years back, a student at the school I attended, and now work for, raped another student, who I am also related to, and stalked me and my young daughters.

I didn’t hesitate to speak up. I detailed my experiences in police reports. I attempted to get a restraining order—twice—on behalf of my daughters and myself. I talked to my colleagues, the security department, the president of the school and pretty much anyone who would listen about the concerns I had for the safety for my family as well as for the students and faculty at his new school. I even wrote about them for Ms.

But while he was expelled for the sexual assault, that same student continued to come back to campus until the police got involved; eventually, he easily transferred to another school close by, where his parents are alum and his father teaches. I was denied both of those restraining orders. And it wasn’t until after he was arrested for indecent assault of a minor and banned from yet another campus that victims from the student’s second school started to come forward to publicly tell their stories.

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These women’s stories were the same: The same student had raped them. They had reported it to campus police. The administration had done nothing. They had been speaking out for years—but it was not enough to keep them or their peers safe. A rapist was thus allowed to remain on campus, growing his list of victims year after year.

His arrest was a turning point, an incredible #MeToo moment of relief and grief, the formation of a group none of us wants to be a part of. Just like when we are growing up and told not to go out alone, women still find safety and strength in numbers. We find ourselves a bit braver, our voice a little louder and our hearts a little stronger because we are able to see that the fight is no longer just about ourselves.

Having seen campus rapists like Brock Turner walk out of jail after just a few months, I can’t say I had ever put much faith in the criminal justice system to handle this case. Unfortunately, the system proved me right. The accused student was out on bail but monitored with an ankle bracelet, and the case never even made it to trial—dismissed due to “lack of prosecution.” The arc of justice rested solely on the shoulders of a child.

What comes next for that student and for his victims remains to be seen. I have asked the same question over and over: not if but when will be the next time. Will this young man in his mid-twenties attempt to go back to college for the third time to finish his degree? Will he choose another underage victim? Am I and my daughters still at risk? How many women will be hurt before he is held accountable? I have no answers, but I refuse to be silent in the meantime.

Some women do not speak out because they are not yet ready. Some choose not to. Some are threatened by their perpetrators. Shame is strong, and typically those who are being accused have more power than their accusers. In many ways, our culture discourages truth-telling and accountability—after all, no one wants to known that the producer who makes their favorite movies, or, in my case, the successful pastor and family counselor’s son they once trusted, is capable of heinous things. Unconsciously, and perhaps consciously at times, we would rather reject victims because they threaten our sense of safety and security—we would rather not believe them, and go on believing we are safe instead.

It is a false sense of security that sexual assault and harassment “couldn’t happen here,” perpetrated by people we know and might even like. In rejecting the narratives of victims, we reject the truth—and put ourselves and those we love further at risk.

Women speak out anyway, against all odds. Women report sexual harassment and assault even when their job may be on the line. Women go to the police even when they know they may not be believed. Women go through the grueling process of investigations and trials, reliving their pain and trauma, even though they know the system might fail them. Women speak out against powerful men only to have their reputation questioned and their character maligned. Women have spoken when no one is listening and women have spoken when the whole world is listening.

A narrative persists that women who come forward about sexual harassment or assault years after the crimes are doing so out of malice—perhaps for financial or political motivations. If the #MeToo moment we’re experiencing has taught us anything, it’s how badly we must scrub that narrative from our canon. If we scrutinized the accused as thoroughly as we do the accuser, we might actually get somewhere in changing the culture and systems that have allowed this conduct to go on for far too long.

Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby have over 80 accusers each, with allegations spanning decades. These men, and other men like them, do not just come from nowhere. Rather, the constant failure to hold them accountable leaves a wide and long path of destruction in their wake.

Their victims, along with many other survivors, are speaking out right now. Listen to them, and let them know that you believe them. It just may be the push we need to make this moment a tipping point.

Ashley Clark is an adjunct social work professor, bleeding heart and reluctant academic. She lives and works on Boston’s south shore. 

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It’s important to travel and see the world as much as possible. They say travel broadens the mind and enriches the soul, and they’re absolutely right. It’s essential to experience all forms of cultures and customs, and find out how diverse and different our world can be sometimes. If you’re planning to jet off to some faraway land, you need to make sure you go with some idea of what you’re going to face.

Yes, traveling abroad is a good thing, an essential thing even, but it can also be perilous. You have to prepare for where you’re going, and make sure you know a little about the area. When it comes time for your vacation, you want to get the most amount of enjoyment possible from it. So, here are a few of the key things to consider when it comes to traveling abroad – consider this your Bible!

Be sensible

It’s so important that you are sensible when traveling abroad. Don’t forget that many countries in the world have different customs and cultures to what you might be used to, and you have to make sure you use common sense. Be careful about who you let into your life, and understand that not everyone who’s being nice is being nice for the sake of it. As a tourist, you might be an attractive prospect for criminal behavior, so be on your guard. Most places you will be fine, you’ve just got to be careful about the people you encounter.

Educate yourself about the local culture

Make an effort to educate yourself about the culture of a specific country or people. This is important for helping you understand and appreciate the country you’re visiting much more. It will also help you out if you don’t know the language. Some things that are considered appropriate in your culture may not be appropriate in others, and you need to figure this out. Also, if you’re abroad, you want to experience the culture of a new place and immerse yourself fully – that’s how you have an unforgettable experience. Oh, and, if possible, learning a bit of the language will help as well.

Always check in with someone

Being careful and vigilant is important, and one of the best ways of doing that is to make sure you always check in with somebody. Each day make sure you call or message someone and let them know how your day was, and that you’re okay. This is a good way of helping you to stay safe and means that if anything happens, and you miss a day, people will have an idea of where you are. Checking in with someone is safe and sensible, but also lets you share your adventure and experience with others.

Going on vacation should be a fun and exciting experience, and you want to make the most of it. That means completely embracing another country or continent, and experiencing things you would never be able to experience at home. These are some of the important things you absolutely must do when you travel abroad. They will help you to stay safe, blend in, and share your wonderful adventures with others as well.

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NFL owners will meet next week to consider changes to a game manual that says players “should” stand during the national anthem, a guideline the league has left to the discretion of players who kneeled in large numbers after criticism from President Donald Trump.

Commissioner Roger Goodell told club executives Tuesday in a memo obtained by The Associated Press that the anthem issue is dividing the league from its fans. He said the NFL needs “to move past this controversy.”

NFL spokesman Joe Lockhart said the guidance will be “front and center on the agenda” when owners meet in New York next Tuesday and Wednesday.

The movement started by former San Francisco 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick last season over his view of police mistreatment of black males had mostly subsided when Trump told a rally in Alabama last month that owners should get rid of players who kneel during the anthem.

In his memo, Goodell reiterated the league’s belief that everyone should stand for the anthem and outlined plans to highlight efforts of players trying to bring attention to the social issues behind the game-day protests. Goodell said those plans would be presented to owners next week.

“The controversy over the anthem is a barrier to having honest conversations and making real progress on the underlying issues,” Goodell wrote. “We need to move past this controversy, and we want to do that together with our players.”

Lockhart said he wasn’t sure if players would be included in discussions during the league meetings. Most teams practice on one or both of those days. Houston and Detroit are the only teams with byes next week. The NFL Players Association didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment.

The game manual says that during the anthem “players on the field and bench area should stand at attention, face the flag, hold helmets in their left hand, and refrain from talking.” It is the NFL’s only known guidance on the subject.

The manual also says anyone not on the field by the start of the anthem can be fined or suspended. Lockhart said the league so far has chosen not to discipline any players. He sidestepped a question of whether “should” would be changed to “must” next week.

“I think there will be a discussion about the entire issue including the policy, including all of the various elements that have been raised over the last four weeks,” Lockhart said. “I’m not going to predict what might happen.”

The anthem issue flared again Sunday when Vice President Mike Pence, a former Indiana governor, left Indianapolis’ home game against San Francisco after about a dozen 49ers players knelt during the anthem.

A few hours later, Jerry Jones of the Dallas Cowboys became the first owner to declare publicly that he would bench any players for what he saw as disrespect of the American flag. Jones’ comments drew a swift response from union Executive Director DeMaurice Smith, who said Jones was contradicting assurances from Goodell that players could express themselves without reprisals.

Jones said on his radio show Tuesday that he considered anthem protests a workplace issue, giving him the right to punish his players. He said he was trying to keep the Cowboys out of the debate by declaring that they would all stand.

“I don’t want our fans to sit there and have angst over those type of issues,” Jones said. “I’m not going to have a situation with the flag that there is a debate over whether we’re respecting it or not. I’m clearing that one up.”

The Cowboys always stand for the anthem while lined up on the sideline. Two weeks ago before a Monday night game in Arizona, they kneeled arm-in-arm before the anthem — with Jones — then stood during the singing when the flag was displayed. It was three days after Trump’s comments in Alabama.

Trump tweeted his support of Jones after the owner made the threat to bench players following a loss to Green Bay. They spoke by phone after the game in Arizona.

“We would certainly support the NFL coming out and asking the players to stand, just as the president has done,” White House spokeswoman Sarah Huckabee Sanders said Tuesday. “We support the national anthem, the flag and the men and women who fought to defend it.”

Goodell wrote to league executives about “unprecedented dialogue with our players,” saying those discussions helped build the plan that owners will discuss next week.

“Everyone involved in the game needs to come together on a path forward to continue to be a force for good within our communities, protect the game, and preserve our relationship with fans throughout the country,” Goodell wrote. “The NFL is at its best when we ourselves are unified.”


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NBA Issues a Memo Reminding Players and Coaches They MUST Stand During the National Anthem, Per League Rules [Video]

The NBA sent a memo late Friday to teams reinforcing its existing rule that players and coaches are to stand for the national anthem.

The memo also suggested other ways in which those who chose to might address the recent protest movement sweeping across the NFL and other sports.

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The memo, a copy of which was obtained by ESPN, was distributed by deputy commissioner Mark Tatum. It instructs teams that “the league office will determine how to deal with any possible instance in which a player, coach, or trainer does not stand for the anthem.”

The memo states that individual teams “do not have the discretion to waive” the rule that players, coaches and staff stand for the anthem. The league has the discretion to discipline players who violate the rule. It is not clear if the league would exercise it in the event of any protest. The league also does not want teams independently disciplining players, sources say, and has encouraged open dialogue within teams.

In the memo, Tatum suggests teams might address the current political climate by having players and coaches give a joint pregame address at their first home games.

“This could include a message of unity and how the team is committed to bringing the community together this season,” the memo states.

The memo also suggests teams might prepare a video tribute or public service announcement featuring “team leadership speaking about the issues they care about.”

The memo comes a day after commissioner Adam Silver said he expects players to stand for the national anthem.

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We Must Confront Gendered Violence in War to Achieve Peace in Afghanistan

“During times of conflict, men and women experience war different,” Megan Corrado wrote for Ms. in July, delineating the need to include women at the negotiation table in Afghanistan. “These [gendered] traumas impact every aspect of the social fabric and must be recognized in the creation of accountability and reconciliation mechanisms in peace agreements.”

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Later in August, Suzie Abdou critiqued the Trump administration’s new “path forward” in Afghanistan by pointing out how current U.S. foreign policy fails to consider—no less protect the rights of—Afghan women, while Leila Milani urged the U.S. government to stop ignoring gender when constructing foreign policy.

More recently, Miguel Howe and Farhat Popal reported at The Hill about the gendered violence of war and why centering Afghan women in post-war efforts is vital for creating sustained peace and equality:

Importantly, Afghan women’s inclusion in the process of building this future is essential to the effectiveness of peacebuilding, and advancing security interests. Evidence shows that women improve the process and outcomes of peace talks by promoting dialogue and trust, bridging divides and mobilizing coalitions, raising issues that are vital for peace, and prioritizing gender equality. Gender equality and women’s economic empowerment are also strongly tied to prosperous and peaceful societies.

Unfortunately, a 2014 study by Oxfam found that in 23 rounds of peace talks between the Afghan government and the Taliban since 2005, only one woman from the government was present on two occasions. No women have been included in discussions between international negotiators and the Taliban, and it is unclear if, or to what extent, women’s interests were represented by others.

These pieces suggest the importance of recognizing the gendered nature of war, specifically the heightened violence women experience at the hands of both the state and patriarchal norms, and call on the Trump administration to include women in (re)building process. After all, Afghan women should be the architects of their own futures.

To read the full report in The Hill, click here.

Taliah Mancini was born in Hawaii, spent her tween years in Los Angeles and graduated from high school in San Francisco. Currently living in East LA, she is taking a gap year from Pitzer College where she is pursuing an undergraduate degree in Political Studies and Sociology. She now writes a lot, volunteers at a prison abolitionist organization and works at a restaurant. In her free time, Taliah reads (usually about feminism, anti-racism and accountability), rock climbs and eats food with loved ones.

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Court says DreamHost must give information on Trump protest site to the DOJ

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The web hosting company DreamHost has been told to hand over information on a website that organized protests against President Donald Trump on inauguration day.

A Washington, D.C. court order issued Thursday compels DreamHost to hand the Department of Justice information about the people behind DisruptJ20.org. This information is far more narrow in scope than the DOJ’s original request for the 1.3 million IP addresses of those who had visited the site, but it still raises a few First Amendment eyebrows.

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President Donald Trump Comments on Deadly White Supremacist Rallies: ‘We ALL Must Be United’

UPDATED Aug. 12, 12:45 p.m. PT: Donald Trump said that he condemns “in the strongest possible terms this egregious display of hatred, bigotry, and violence, on many sides.” He called for unity, but he did not specifically name any of the hate groups involved in the violent clashes during a white supremacist rally in Charlottesville. “It’s… Read more »

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‘Detroit’ Tells A Gruesome, Horrifying Story That Must Be Seen

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Detroit is a powerful film that uncovers a series of events that led to the killing of three unarmed, black teenage boys by white police officers. The movie is set during the 1967 Detroit riots, where outraged communities destroyed public and private property in protest against unjust social and economic conditions in the Motor City.

Rather than digging into the impact of the riots, a large portion of the film is spent recounting the real-life horror that a group of young black men and white women experienced inside of the Algiers Motel on July 25, 1967. Police believed that a sniper was hiding out in the motel and tried to force the victims into a confession by viciously interrogating and beating them. These scenes of brutality are severely uncomfortable and raw to the point of nausea. By the end of the movie, I (and others I watched the film with) was left feeling angry and unresolved, especially in light of the recent acts of police violence against black bodies in the age of smartphones. Still, that didn’t deter me from seeing the film twice. For me, the film was a painful reminder of why we cannot forget, neglect, or trivialize the systems of oppression that continue to kill African Americans. It exposes the grit of racism in a way that cannot be erased from memory and reinforces the need for us to fight for freedom. It also gives voice to the real-life victims—Carl Cooper, 17, Fred Temple, 18, and Aubrey Pollard, 19—who never received justice.

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In an interview with Black Enterprise, actor John Boyega talked about his role in the movie as Melvin Dismukes, the black security guard who volunteered to assist police in finding the sniper at the Algiers. Nevertheless, he found himself in a compromising position that night, feeling helpless while watching the brutality.

“I relate to the character in a sense that he is a man that is open to several different perspectives, he’s open to several different views,” said Boyega, who starred in Star Wars. “He was a working man, but at the same time was pushed into a situation in which he was trying to protect other black men.” He added that Dismukes “had to kind of stand up to racial injustice but in a very subtle and depressing way.”

 

BE also spoke to actors Algee Smith and Jason Mitchell who talked about how hard it was to make the film due to its heavy context.

“It affected me a lot,” said Smith. “We had a hard time decompressing, I had a hard time letting that go [once] leaving the set.” “It was uncomfortable,” added Mitchell. “Sometimes you just need an emotional draining to let it out.”

 

 

“Detroit” is currently playing in theaters around the country.

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Must Read: American Apparel to Relaunch Website, ‘SNL”s Kenan Thompson Is Starting a Clothing Line

These are the stories making headlines in fashion on Friday.American Apparel prepares to relaunch website  American Apparel — our go-to shop for body-hugging theme-party basics — closed down all of its stores in January. But after Gildan Activewear bought the controversial brand …

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Bikini Fit Hacks: 3 Things You Must Do as Soon You Put on Your Swimsuit

By Leah Melby, Glamour

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According to bathing suit expert Kirsten Sarkisian, you never put on a bikini top only once. “First, you put it on–simply put it on your body,” the founder of Belusso swimwear tells Glamour, “but do not assume it’s ready to go at this point.”

Here’s why a perfect-fitting suit can require a little bit of adjusting–and three easy steps to making sure everything is shimmied into place.

Per Sarkisian, getting the perfect fit can be broken down into three quick steps.

1. Right away, handle the straps, making them tighter or looser so that they feel secure but aren’t digging into your skin.

2. Then, manually arrange your breasts by picking them up and pulling them gently toward the center of your torso–they should be fully enclosed by the structure of the bikini top.

3. Finish by checking yourself in a mirror to see if the top is riding up too high in the back or on the sides and make slight coordinating adjustments to the straps.

If you find you’re rarely pleased with how your curves look in a bikini, there could be a sneaky suspect to blame.

“Padding can sag when it gets wet and takes longer to dry than the rest of the suit,” Sarkisian said. “A suit with a little bit of it can be a good call for women with smaller breasts, but beware. Look for suits with removable pads so you can pull it out if need be.”

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5 Things the Bride and Groom Must Do for Themselves Even if They Have a Wedding Planner

A wedding will not plan itself with little attention from the bride and/or groom, even if you hire an experienced, professional wedding planner. I’m sorry, but that’s the facts of life. You can find the best planner in the world and pay her a ton of money and give her an unlimited budget (which rarely, if ever, happens), and she can do the vast majority of the planning for you; however, there are some decisions the bride and groom must make.

Some couples reading this must think it sounds crazy that some brides and grooms have so little interest in their own wedding details because they’re up to their necks in every last detail of their own wedding plans. But some engaged couples don’t have time — legitimately — to take on the minutia of dealing with all the decisions, contracts, vendors, etc. They want to hire somebody to do everything for them.

And we can do most of it. While it makes me uncomfortable to choose certain things on behalf of a client whom I’ve never met that lives thousands of miles away, if they tell me it’s my choice and they don’t want to deal with it, it’s my job. With that said, there are five things that brides and grooms MUST do for themselves, even if they have a wedding planner:

1. You must plan your own wedding ceremony. We give our clients a planning guide that’s easier than Mad Libs but some of them still put it off to the very last minute and are surprised they have to do it themselves. I cannot choose the vows a couple will exchange during the wedding ceremony. These are serious promises you’re making before your friends and God (or whatever/whoever you believe in) and you have to decide what you want to say. The “charge to the couple” — basically the instructions for married life — is something else important for the couple to select based on their own beliefs about marriage. The one and only time I was left with absolutely no vows from a groom, the bride and I substituted some Dr. Seuss vows that were hilarious. It worked, but did it really mean anything for their lives together?

2. You have to decide whether you’re taking your spouse’s last name or not, and how you want to be introduced to your guests at the conclusion of the ceremony and when you make your grand entrance at the reception. I can name you if you want me to, but seriously folks, that’s a pretty major thing. If she’s not taking his last name, there can be blowback from older, more traditional guests if we make it obvious so there are ways around that. And with same-sex weddings, it’s even trickier because they have more options. I have to know what you want to be called or I can’t do it properly at your wedding. Neither can the minister.

3. Even if you don’t know anything about flowers, you have to show me a picture of a bridal bouquet you like, and give me some sort of clue about how you want your wedding décor to be planned. There are literally thousands of example pictures on our Facebook, Instagram and other social media pages — look and pick something you like. You can really send me a picture of anything from anywhere and I’ll work with you on that, but telling me that you want it to be “simple” and you “hate pink” does not give me enough information to plan a “dream wedding” you’ll have to look at in pictures for the rest of your married life.

4. Honorees who are being asked to give toasts at your wedding must be selected by the bride and groom, in advance. Otherwise, you’ll have a never-ending, round robin of wasted guests jumping up to grab the microphone and add their two cents about you in front of all your family and friends. After a few cocktails, everyone thinks they’re a comedian. Toasts become roasts. And it can go on forever, burning up precious dance and party time at the reception. Obviously, as the wedding planner, I have no idea who you’d like to have toast and without that information, I have no way to control what will actually go down at your wedding. You should discuss your selections AS A COUPLE and give your wedding planner the exact names of who you’d like to have say a few words. If this is hard for you, stick to tradition and have the best man, maid of honor, parents of the groom and parents of the bride offer toasts, in that order. And of course, the bride and groom should toast and thank their guests when everyone is finished.

5. Your wedding planner cannot choose your wedding music. I will not take responsibility for selecting the songs you will process and recess to at your wedding ceremony. I won’t choose your entrance or first dance song for your reception. If you forget a last dance, I’ll figure something out, but the others are too meaningful for a complete stranger (because that’s really what I am even if you have met with me once in person when you visited the island) to choose them for you. Beware the wedding planner who leaves your blanks in the hands of a bad DJ — you could suddenly hear “Pour Some Sugar on Me” blasting after you cut the cake, or bonafide stripper music during the garter removal and toss. Funny as we think it is, you don’t want “Closing Time” to be your last dance song even if that’s how the staff is feeling when your event finally ends. But if you didn’t take the time to fill out the music request forms (and the “do not play” list) ahead of time, you just never know what you’ll hear playing at your wedding.

Trust me when I say this blog is oversimplified — I have a lot of clients who eventually do want to make decisions they initially put into my hands. And then we have to redo all the work we’ve already done. Be sure that you truly don’t care when you say you “don’t care” or you’re putting everybody through hell planning, and re-planning, your wedding details.

And just for the record, the next time a bride tells me that she “doesn’t care” what her wedding cake looks like or what flavor it is, I’m going for something incredibly weird and whacky just so I can blog about it and prove a point. Maybe chocolate with peanut butter filling, decorated with their names and wedding date spelled out in mini Reese’s cups would be fun? Enough of me being nice and finding them neutral cakes I can decorate with pretty flowers. They said it was up to me, right? I’m going to have some fun with it.

Until next time, happy wedding planning from Weddings in Vieques and Sandy Malone Weddings & Events.
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Russell Crowe Comes Under Fire For Saying Actresses Must Act Their Age

In an interview with Australian Women’s Weekly, Russell Crowe made some inflammatory comments about actresses and age-appropriate roles. Crowe’s remarks appeared online two weeks ago, but caught a wave of attention on Monday morning which resulted in accusations of sexism.

Crowe was promoting his directorial debut, “The Water Diviner,” when he spoke about portraying a father of three grown sons in the movie. Saying he couldn’t have played the role 20 years ago, Crowe launched into a sermon about women’s place on the big screen:

The best thing about the industry I’m in — movies — is that there are roles for people in all different stages of life. To be honest, I think you’ll find that the woman who is saying that [the roles have dried up] is the woman who at 40, 45, 48, still wants to play the ingénue, and can’t understand why she’s not being cast as the 21-year-old.

Meryl Streep will give you 10,000 examples and arguments as to why that’s bullshit, so will Helen Mirren, or whoever it happens to be. If you are willing to live in your own skin, you can work as an actor. If you are trying to pretend that you’re still the young buck when you’re my age, it just doesn’t work.

I have heard of an actress, part of her fee negotiation was getting the number of children she was supposed to have lessened. Can you believe this? This [character] was a woman with four children, and there were reasons why she had to have four children — mainly, she lived in a cold climate and there was nothing to do but fornicate all day — so quit arguing, just play the role!

The point is, you do have to be prepared to accept that there are stages in life. So I can’t be the Gladiator forever.

A slew of vitriolic headlines popped up in response to the actor’s remarks. Slate, for example, wrote Russell Crowe Says Older Women Don’t Get Movie Roles Because They Refuse to Act Their Age, while Jezebel published its reaction with the headline Always Full of Shit Russell Crowe Says Actresses Should Act Their Age. Here’s Everything Russell Crowe Got Wrong About Women In Film, Australian site Junkee wrote.

HuffPost Entertainment contacted Crowe’s rep for further comment but did not receive an immediate response.

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