Date nights are the worst, and I have the receipts

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Maggie Downs

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Last week was date night, so my husband and I had a romantic night in which we gazed deeply into each other’s eyes, our hearts practically beating as one, and it felt just like falling in love all over again.

Just kidding. We went to Target, and I walked the aisles alone while he pooped.

It sounds like the set-up to a joke, but this was too real. Of all the adjustments I’ve had to make during post-baby life, Date Night has been one of the most difficult. 

I almost can’t believe there was once a time when my husband and I, if we felt the need to reconnect or spend time together as a couple, we could do just that — dinner by candlelight, a night at the movies, a weekend getaway in which we never leave the hotel room. It was so easy. Now we compartmentalize love, wedge it into our Friday nights like just another appointment on the shared family calendar. 

A couple holding hands, although you can only see their torsos and legs and one set of arms.

 

It’s not just that the logistics of Date Night are difficult, although they do pose a challenge. My husband and I have no family in our area, and we don’t have a regular babysitter. It’s also hard to justify the expense of hiring child care on top of the expense of going out. So the light and easy bliss of Date Night is already a burden.

But here’s the real issue: Date Night is too much pressure.

It’s like prom night or a bachelorette party, an event hyped to the point where it has reached epic status — anything less than, and it feels like a failure somehow. Plus on top of expectations running high, all of this is happening on the clock, usually while paying a babysitter and wondering if your child is behaving/eating/sleeping/breathing.

Date Night means squeezing a love life into a 3-hour window in which you’re shouting at the waiter for the check so you can have 5 minutes to make out in the car before driving home and handing over all your cash to a teenager. 

Ah, romance.

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Besides, my husband and I always end up talking about our kid the entire night anyway.

Last time we went out, I established a rule that we could talk about anything in the universe — politics, music, astrophysics, whatever — as long as we didn’t talk about our son.

“Every other moment of every day is focused on our child,” I reasoned. “Let us have this dinner as two adult people who exist in the world and can discuss things beyond our household.”

We lasted 10 minutes.

So we’ve given it a fair shot. My husband and I have done regular date nights for the past several months, because I thought these outings were essential to the care and cultivation of our relationship, but each one has ended up grimmer than the last. And now this, aimlessly wandering Target and purchasing a box of blue hair dye, (even though I’m pretty sure it’s going to look terrible with my complexion).

The truth is that our relationship thrives, and our nights are better when we just stay home.

That’s why next month we’re going to stay in. Maybe he’ll even help me dye my hair blue. It’s not a Date Night, and it’s not epic, but it’s ours.

Do you hate date night too?

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Falling asleep (and staying asleep) can be a real struggle. Maybe you’ve tried everything, from counting sheep to guzzling sleepytime tea. Well, we have some good news! Having sex before bed could be the secret to a good night’s sleep — but only if you time it right.

There is new research to suggest that getting frisky immediately before bedtime could help you sleep.

According to Men’s Health, ‘Michele Lastella, Ph.D., a sleep researcher at Central Queensland University’s Appleton Institute for Behavioral Science in Adelaide, Australia, recently found that two thirds of people slept better after getting it on.’

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We’re guilty of making plenty of pre-bedtime mistakes (like staring at our cell phones until the minute we turn out the light or suddenly remembering that serial killers exist as we close our eyes). But this sounds like the perfect distraction from all that.

It’s actually not the first time that a possible connection between sleep and sexy time has been pointed out.

Back in June, CNN reported on a different study that found ‘women over age 50 who get fewer than seven hours of sleep are less likely to report being sexually active than their peers who sleep more.’ It’s somewhat of a vicious cycle, since, as the CNN article reports, having sex can help you doze off.

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Unfortunately, the orgasm aspect appears to be key. The Advertiser (via Men’s Health) indicates that people who experience orgasms will have the best results. The reason for this is likely chemical — as CNN reports, ‘After orgasm, our bodies release significant amounts of the “cuddle hormone” oxytocin, which lowers levels of the stress hormone cortisol, resulting in deep relaxation.’

Considering that, as NBC reported, ‘While 75% of men always reach orgasm during sex, only 29% of women report the same,’ that could be frustrating to hear. But, on the bright side, it’s not all about the finish.

Lastella told The Advertiser (via Men’s Health), ‘When you’re engaging in sex, you’re not thinking about what to do the next day, you’re not going through your phones. It distracts you.’

So there you have it. Sex sets up you up for better sleep because it forces you to chill TF out. Who would’ve thought, right?

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Rolling Stones legend Mick Jagger, 74, spends several nights in Paris and ‘hooks up’ with sexy film producer Noor Alfallah, 22

MICK Jagger spent several nights with a sexy film producer 52 years his junior when the Rolling Stones played in Paris.

The rocker, 74, and Noor Alfallah, 22, first hooked up at a private flat in the suburbs two Sundays ago.

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Mick Jagger is pictured in Paris with sexy film producer Noor Alfallah, who is 52 years his junior
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Noor Alfallah is a film producer from the United States

The next day a chauffeur drove her back to her hotel. They repeated the routine on Tuesday and Wednesday.

US-born socialite Noor, 22, watched the Stones perform at the city’s U Arena the next night and they enjoyed three more dates last week.

A source said: “Mick still has his ­legendary charm but even the band were surprised someone as young and beautiful as Noor came to Paris to see him.

“They are both single and seemed to have a lot of fun together, so everyone just let them get on with it.

 

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Noor Alfallah, 22, watched The Rolling Stones perform in Paris and has been on dates with Mick Jagger
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Mick Jagger ‘still has his legendary charm’ and spends time in Paris with sexy producer
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Noor Alfallah, who has hooked up with Mick Jagger, is pictured by a car in Paris as she heads back to flat
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Noor Alfallah walks through Paris in stylish black boots and ‘wows Mick Jagger’ on date
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Noor Alfallah, whose dad is Kuwaiti, is pictured on holiday in a bikini

“Mick is showing absolutely no sign of slowing down. He certainly had a smile on his face and famous twinkle in his eye.

“Noor is very confident and well educated so she fitted in well at all the upmarket places they went together.”

Great-grandad Mick was seen arriving at her hotel the day after she watched him perform.

A week ago they had dinner with his backing crew at the Caviar ­Kaspia.

 

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Noor Alfallah, pictured soaking up the sun, ‘fitted in well’ with Mick Jagger in Paris

The following night they dined alone at La Stresa.

Noor, whose dad is Kuwaiti, was ­pictured in leather jacket, skirt and thigh-length boots as she left behind Mick, who was flanked by guards.

The Stones finished their 14-date No ­Filter tour in Paris on Wednesday.

Jagger is believed to have met film graduate Noor through a mutual pal, producer Brett Ratner.

The private Paris flat is where Mick often stayed with his ex L’Wren Scott, who killed herself in 2014.

 

Mick is dad to eight children with five women.

His youngest is ten-month son Deveraux by ballerina ex Melanie Hamrick, 31.

Last night Noor declined to comment.



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Comfortable Workwear for Late Nights at the OfficeReader A wrote in with a great question that we haven’t talked about in a few years: What is the most comfortable workwear for late nights at the office? Here’s her question:

I’m starting my first biglaw job at a business formal law firm in NYC and would love to see a post about “comfortable” workwear, especially for late nights and weekends. For example, I bought the Betabrand dress yoga pants and am a big fan. I’m curious to hear about particular fabrics or brands known for being less constricting/more “cozy”. I would love to hear thoughts as to HOW casual is appropriate for late nights (e.g. can I change into leggings and a cardigan at 1am?)

Great question. We talked about working late and professional clothes before, what comfy clothes to keep at the office, and what to wear for a weekend in the office — but it’s been a while. Readers just had a great threadjack about super comfortable work clothes, as well, so let’s discuss.

My default rules, at least when I was junior, were that a) as soon as my secretary left for the day, I could get more comfortable, whether that was to take off heels and happily pad to the printer in flip flops if I needed something, or to take off skirts or dresses entirely and put on yoga pants and a black t-shirt. A couple of points that should probably be noted: a) my office culture was one of a lot of closed doors, so it really was just trips to the printer or the bathroom where I might run into colleagues, and b) everything I changed into was black, opaque stuff — no crazy patterns or mesh cutouts. This isn’t to say that you CAN’T wear that stuff, just that when selecting the default stuff you keep at the office, maybe choose the conservative option. It’s probably also worth noting that I didn’t change into more comfortable clothes every night at work, because I didn’t consider every outfit to be so uncomfortable that I needed to get out of it, and there were definitely differences between nights when I knew I had 6 hours ahead of me of document-intensive work and would need to stretch out on my office floor surrounded by piles of paper and highlighters and notes; regular nights where I thought I could get out by 8 or 9, or was meeting friends afterwards; and nights where I was working in conference rooms with other people or running around and managing other teams where it just didn’t occur to me to go put my comfy pants on.

As for WHAT to wear, I think these days you have a lot of options in addition to the classic yoga pants, from pull-on ponte pants that might be comfortable and appropriate enough to wear all day (readers were just singing the praises of these Lands’ End ones as their “holy grail ponte pants,” as well as NYDJ ones*), to more traditional leggings (I’m a big fan of the Hue leggings* for opacity, durability, comfort, price, etc.), to comfortable jeans/jeggings. (I also have the readers to thank for turning me onto the pull-on JAG jeans*.) Know your office, but I think the conservative take on “I might be going to or coming from the gym” might also work for weekends or late nights — by “conservative take” I don’t mean sports bra + running shorts or “strappy sexy yoga bra + leggings with daring mesh cutouts” — but again, know your office. (I say “daring mesh cutouts” because there are definitely some that seem more… well, daring… but obviously it’s hard to find workout leggings without mesh cutouts of some kind these days.)

Over to you, readers: What do you consider to be comfortable workwear for late nights? What do you think is off-limits — and what factors would influence your decision to change or not change on a particular night? (Slightly off topic, BUT two more Qs: a) what’s your opinion on mesh cutouts/gym looks, and b) do you think it’s ever acceptable to put on a “comfy bra”? The closest I have in my closet to an “18-hour bra” right now is the shorter version* of this one, so I might choose that one at the beginning of the day.)

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Jordin Sparks didn’t kneel, but that didn’t stop her from sending her own message on Monday night.

The “It Ain’t You” singer, 27, had Bible verses references written on her hands while singing the National Anthem before the Dallas Cowboys took on the Arizona Cardinals in Glendale, Arizona.

While holding a microphone, the verse ‘Prov. 31: 8-9’ were visible, a reference to the Book of Proverbs, which reads, “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.”

Many on social media took the star’s Bible quotes to be taking aim at President Donald Trump for not doing more to support people of color and those struggling in America.

Sparks’ father is nine-year NFL veteran Phillippi Sparks. The singer wasn’t the only star to stand up to the president.

During Monday’s football game in Glendale, the Dallas Cowboys dropped to one knee before standing and locking arms to sing the National Anthem. The Arizona Cardinals did the same.

The team’s owner, Jerry Jones, joined his players in solidarity. Jones had previously donated $ 1 million to Trump’s inauguration committee.

The owner spoke out against the man he back in a postgame news conference.

“Our players wanted to make a statement about unity and we wanted to make a statement about equality,” Jones told reporters. “They were very much aware that statement, when made or when attempted to be made in and a part of the recognition of our flag, can not only lead to criticism but also controversy.

“It was real easy for everybody in our organization to see that the message of unity, the message of equality was getting, if you will, pushed aside or diminished by the controversy. We even had the circumstances that it was being made into a controversy.”

Grey’s Anatomy actor Jesse Williams questioned the necessity of having the National Anthem in sports during an interview on MSNBC.

“It’s also important to realize this anthem thing is a scan,” he said. “This is not actually part of football. This was invented in 2009 from the government paying the NFL to market military recruitment to get more people to go off and fight wars to die.”

Pharrell Williams got down on two knees as he performed at a charity concert in Charlottesville, supporting a gesture by NFL players who have started kneeling during the national anthem to draw attention to racial injustice.


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Let’s be honest, we all need a good night’s sleep. There’s nothing worse than waking up from just a couple of hours sleep as you feel groggy, grumpy, gross and completely unmotivated to do anything. Normally, sleeping in our own bed lets us get a good night’s sleep to wake up well-rested and raring to go. However, sleeping in a different bed can disrupt your sleep pattern, meaning you’ll need about ten strong coffees in the morning. So how do you have a good night’s sleep in a hotel?

Lower the temperature

We all know that in the heat of summer, we all struggle to get to sleep. We toss and turn, we stick all of our limbs out of the covers, but we just can’t get comfortable – which means we’re definitely not getting any sleep. Thankfully, we live in the 21st-Century, and we can now control the inside temperature of a room. Result! If you’re struggling to get to sleep in your hotel room, it’s always best to check the thermostat or the air conditioning; as it may be too hot for your body to relax. The National Sleep Foundation has researched room temperature and sleep patterns and found that the optimum room temperature is between 60 and 70 degrees Fahrenheit.

Make it quiet

There’s nothing worse than choosing a hotel that is right next to an airport, a train track or a busy road – especially if the walls are thin! In fact, the World Health Organization have found that too much noise in a hotel room is directly correlated to lack of sleep. According to their research, they have found that your bedroom or hotel room should not have audible noise louder than 30 decibels if you want a soundless sleep. This equates to around the same amount of noise as a whisper. However, when you don’t choose your room, it can be difficult to distinguish whether too much noise is making its way into the room. Many hotels now offer the use of white noise machines which can prove vital in a good night’s sleep. If not, take some earplugs just to be safe.

Keep it dark

Many people opt to have blackout drapes or blinds in their bedrooms, as this blocks out natural sunlight or artificial light. If you have too much light pouring into your room, it can disrupt your circadian rhythms and trick your body into thinking it is the daytime. Because of this, your body will start to wake up and not allow you to fall asleep – and if we want a good rest, this is not ideal! Many hotels nowadays will be equipped with dark or blackout drapes, but this is not always a certainty. For your own peace of mind, always take an eye mask with you whenever you travel so that you can block out any external light.

Make sure you relax

If you’re staying in a hotel, you often let your inhibitions and your normal routine go. You may be on vacation, or staying overnight for a business meeting and disrupt your natural patterns by going for drinks or a late-night show rather than reading your book or watch TV. Although there is no problem in having fun while you’re away, you do need to give yourself time to relax. If you come in from your evening and go straight to bed, you may find that you are unable to sleep straight away as your brain is too hyped up, and your adrenaline is pumping. If this is the case, you can just adopt your normal pattern. Read a few pages of your book, or watch an episode of your favorite series to settle your emotions down and make you much more calm and relaxed.

So next time you’re sleeping in a hotel, make sure you adopt some of these ways to have a good night’s sleep.

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