Daring to Remember: Two-and-a-Half Illegal Abortions

This post is part of Daring to Remember, an ongoing series of stories about life in the years before Roe v. Wade and in the face of contemporary attacks on the right to abortionIn these uncertain times, we are fighting for Roe and safe, legal abortion access with our own testimonies about life without choice. We are daring to remember what a nation without safe, legal abortion access looks like. Submit a story here.

In 1968, I had two and a half illegal abortions for the same pregnancy. I was 19. Back then very few doctors were willing to give you birth control pills and there was no sex education for women or men, except that which we gave each other. No one was supposed to be having sex. You certainly didn’t tell anyone if you were.

My boyfriend did everything right. He asked me to marry him and was relieved, though he didn’t say so, when I said no. How is it possible that I was smart enough to say no? He then offered to pay for it, which he did. $ 250 was a heck of a lot of money back then and we were both paying our own way through college. I don’t know where he got the money. I never asked him.

A friend knew of a guy in town who did abortions. The guy had been a medical resident who got addicted to morphine following a car accident and kicked out of his residency. He now traveled the country, going from college town to college town, doing abortions for terrified and naive young women. At least that’s what he told us. He did what was called “packing” for me. It was, as I remember it, a bunch of gauze pads inserted in my vagina that had been soaked in something that caused a spontaneous abortion a few days later. I think abortionists liked to do that because it wasn’t such an invasive procedure, which meant less chance of problems for them.

Activists protesting anti-abortion candidate Ellen McCormack at the Democratic National Convention in 1976. (Warren K. Leffler / Wikimedia)

The next day I had bad cramps, bled a bunch and thought it was over. I called the abortionist like I was supposed to, and he was surprised at how little pain I had had. That was the end of it—until a couple days later I was at the public library downtown, a few blocks from my apartment when I started bleeding very heavily and having excruciating pain. I was having contractions, although at the time I had no idea that’s what they were. I knew I had to get home and I knew I couldn’t ask for help or tell anyone what was happening. I managed to get out of the library and walked diagonally across two huge parking lots, stopping at each row of meters to hang on and bend over in pain. I was terrified the blood was going to drip down the legs of my jeans and out onto the sidewalk and I would get caught and arrested for breaking the law.

When I finally made it back to my apartment, still bleeding heavily, I tried to call my boyfriend but he wasn’t home. Thank heavens one of my roommates came home. We decided I needed to go back to the abortionist to get help. We called him and drove to the farm where he was staying. There, in this lovely old farmhouse, was an all white “operating room” with an operating table and all sorts of medical equipment. This wasn’t the “operating room” used for the first procedure—that was close to my apartment where lots of students lived in run down old houses that had been cut into two or more apartments. He checked me and said I was still pregnant, so he did a D&C, which meant he scraped out the inside of my uterus. It hurt like hell.

When I got back to my apartment, there was a note on my bed, in the middle of all the blood, from my boyfriend—saying he had stopped in to see how I was doing. He was pretty worried about the entire idea of an abortion being done by a morphine addict. But he hadn’t turned on the lights in the apartment, so he didn’t see all the blood all over the floor, in the bathroom, on my bed, even on the walls. I loved him so much. I have always been so grateful he didn’t turn on the light.

I risked going to a licensed doctor a few days later. He told me I was no longer pregnant—and offered me birth control pills.

I’ve never written this down before. No one has ever asked me about it. I honestly don’t know how I feel now about having had an abortion so many years ago. I do know it’s all wrapped up in shame. Back then, nice girls didn’t have sex. Back then nice girls did not get pregnant.

After it was all over, I put together a list of licensed doctors who would perform safe abortions. There were lots of them—some who believed strongly in the right of women to choose and some who did it for the money. There were doctors in Madison, Minneapolis, Chicago, New York, even a clinic in England where it was legal. Airfare was so cheap; one could fly to England, have the abortion, stay in a hotel for a few days and fly home for what it cost to have an illegal one in the states. All kinds of “nice girls” contacted me, desperate for help. I felt good about that. They wouldn’t have to go through what I did.

I know that if I had it to do over, I’d do the same thing. I have never regretted doing it, not once in all these years.

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“I genuinely do not believe I wrote those hateful things because they are completely alien to me,” she said, “but I can definitely understand based on things I have tweeted and I have written in the past why some people don’t believe me.”

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Since former President Barack Obama handed over the presidential mantle to Donald Trump, a day hasn’t gone by without controversy. While the Republican Party deals with a credible threat of losing the majority of its Senate seats in November, Trump is dealing with a scandal that could leave his presidency in ruins.

In a televised interview with 60 Minutes on Sunday, former adult film star, Stephanie Clifford, popularly known as Stormy Daniels, confirmed to Anderson Cooper that she did receive a $ 130,000 payout from the personal lawyer of President Donald Trump’s just 10 days before the 2016 presidential elections. She claimed she was pressured by Trump to have sex with him, even revealing to have spanked the president with a magazine with his face on it. 

Although the interview didn’t reveal any new information that hadn’t already been reported in the press, Daniels said she had been pressured and even threatened after she made multiple attempts to tell her story.

So what’s the big deal with an adult film star having consensual intimate relations with Trump over a decade ago? Well, for one, America holds whoever occupies the executive office to the highest of moral standards—for present and past actions. That wasn’t enough to impeach former president Bill Clinton who was had numerous sexual misconduct allegations leveled against him. The liability of President Trump, however, is that his deal with Daniels could be seen as an election expense which violates campaign finance laws.

The scandals and controversies that Trump and his allies are embroiled in seem a far cry from any of the missteps Obama made while he was in office. Obama’s political opponents, however, will have the American public believe otherwise. As a reminder of simpler times, here are five controversial moments during ex-president Obama’s term:

1. The Button-Down Rule:

A week after President Obama was sworn into office in January 2009, he didn’t waste any time landing on Fox News’ controversy radar with his implementation of the “button-down” rule—a deviation from his predecessor’s ironclad rule of a coat and tie in the Oval Office at all times.

“I don’t care if it’s warm enough to grow orchids in the Oval Office. Put your suit jacket on,” Andrew H. Card, a former Bush White House official, told the New York Times at the time.

Ken Langone, co-founder of The Home Depot and a well-known Wall Street figure said on CNBC at the time:

“Let me make it very clear, and I’m sure I’m going to get a lot of hate mail because of this, and that’s okay,” Langone said. “I think our sitting president is acting so unpresidential …. He is dividing us as a nation. He is not bringing us together. He’s willfully dividing us. He’s petulant.”

2. The Coffee Cup Salute

In 2014, while boarding Marine One, Obama offered what CNN called a “less-than-formal salute,” to a Marine standing guard as he exited the presidential helicopter. Critics were quick to pounce on Obama’s coffee cup salute deeming it disrespectful to the traditions of the military.

“Wait—did President Obama just salute the Marines with a LATTE in his hand?!” the National Republican Congressional Committee wrote on Twitter.


While the Daily Caller, a Washington-based conservative new website, said saluting in general is “the “most important of all military courtesies,” citing the U.S. Navy manual on customs and courtesies, it recommends not saluting when one is “carrying articles with both hands or being otherwise occupied as to make saluting impractical.”

3. His Tan Suit:

Remember when President Obama wore a tan suit to a press briefing and Republicans lost their minds? Simpler times.

While Obama had his fair share of missteps in office, the “tan suit scandal” was blown out of proportion as the president pushed forward the “Obamacare” agenda and as citizens protested the unarmed killing of Michael Brown. Talking heads on Fox News debated if the suit was tan or beige. Even GQ said, “it can’t let this terrible khaki suit fly.”


4. The Beer Summit

On July 16, 2009, Henry Louise Gates Jr., a Harvard professor, was arrested in the front of his own house in Massachusetts by local police. Gates Jr. told his story, which is all too familiar to African Americans, even affluent ones, who get profiled and in many cases, arrested. It became a national story.

President Obama was just six months into his first term, focused on stabilizing the economy and passing “Obamacare” when the news broke. A week later, during a press conference about healthcare reform, the D.C. bureau chief for the Chicago Sun-Times asked Obama his thoughts about the Gates Jr. incident. The president spoke candidly:

“Now, I’ve—I don’t know, not having been there and not seeing all the facts, what role race played in that. But I think it’s fair to say, number one, any of us would be pretty angry; number two, that the Cambridge police acted stupidly in arresting somebody when there was already proof that they were in their own home. And number three, what I think we know separate and apart from this incident is that there is a long history in this country of African-Americans and Latinos being stopped by law enforcement disproportionately.”

“To make such an off-handed comment about a subject without benefit of the facts, in such a public forum, hurts police/community relations and is a setback to all of the years of progress,” James Preston, president of the Fraternal Order of Police Florida State Lodge, said.

Former Republican Congressman Thaddeus McCotter said he would introduce a resolution in the House of Representatives calling on the president to apologize to the police officer who arrested Gates Jr. The story dominated airways and hallways, mounting pressure on Obama to apologize.

Then President Obama hosted Gates Jr. and Sgt. Crowley in what is now deemed the “Beer Summit.”

5. The Selfie Stick

In 2015, President Obama teamed up with Buzzfeed to sell “Obamacare” to the online publisher’s enormous young audience. The video, titled, “Things People Do But Doesn’t Talk About,” featured Obama in front of a mirror making various expressions. He was shown drawing the picture of a little girl, even using a selfie stick and a “Thanks, Obama” joke. Cool, right?

Well, Fox News deemed it unpresidential.

Leland Vittert said that it could be interpreted as Obama “not taking his job seriously.” He drew parallels between the selfie stick and Obama going golfing after the brutal beheading of James Foley. Angela McGlowan, a black commentator on Fox said although she understands the president’s desire to connect with millennials, “it’s unacceptable behavior in the Oval Office and for the president of the United States.”

Simpler times.

 

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Remember When We Were Sidekicks? – BLACK PANTHER and COMIC BOOK POLITICS

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This isn’t so much a review as a reflection. It’s well documented how I feel about Black Panther. I pushed for Black Panther’s inclusion in the Avengers years ago. In April 2013, I wrote “It’s Time For Black Panther On The Big Screen.” If you’re just tuning in, you can look back through my archives for my previous Panther posts. Here’s Cary Darling’s Houston Chronicle article I was featured in “Houston fans are pumped for ‘Black Panther’ superhero movie with virtually all-African-American cast

Well, I saw it.

Black Panther was one of the best movie experiences of my life.

First, this film isn’t “homework.” Typically, movies featuring a black cast feel as if they need to instruct audiences about the ills of society past and present. Black creatives know we may never have the media mic again, so we don’t waste any moments. In my humble opinion, you’re grown, and it’s unrealistic to burden a mainstream movie with responsibility to make you a better person. That cake is baked. The only hope for a better tomorrow lies within the children. Which is why the stories they see and hear about heroic people that look like them, and don’t, are vital. Blissfully, there are no sermons in Black Panther. White colonizers never even knew the technocratic marvel of Wakanda existed, so Wakandan society flourished atop a mountain of the most precious metal on earth, unmolested.

But, to director Ryan Coogler’s and Marvel Studios’ credit, Black Panther doesn’t shy away one iota from speaking truth to power about the broader consequences of isolationism, classism or societal injustice. Thematically, the tone of the film is a tasty gumbo of an Aesop fable and James Bond political pot-boiler with a side of Game of Thrones court intrigue and a dash of hot sauce. The strongest nations throughout history learn the greatest threats are not from without but within; Wakanda is no different. No one can escape the consequences of the choices they’ve made, whomever you are, from a lowly orphan to a mighty King, to a nation of millions, as Malcom X said famously, “Your chickens will always come home to roost.”

There has been some buzz by angry white fanboys with absurd notions regarding Black Panther. They’ve declared comic book characters or stories must somehow be “apolitical”. And that the political agenda surrounding this film makes them “uncomfortable.”  (Aw, pobrecito!)

However, black folks continue to celebrate the creative, cultural and financial success of the only big budget comic book movie featuring a black cast and crew undeterred.

The tone-deaf reaction of some can be expected. Wonder Woman debuted to similar trolling about sexism (against men) and uproars about Alamo Drafthouse Theaters’ woman-only screeings. Racism, sexism and pop culture fandom aren’t mutually exclusive, in fact, any female, non-gender specific person, Bleek, cosplayer, collector, or actor of color can relay incidences of racism, sexisim or homophobia they’ve encountered. This harassment both online; like John Boyega for the crime of being a black stormtrooper in “The Force Awakens” or at cons where “Cosplay is not Consent” has to be repeatedly drummed into grabby Comic Con attendees.

I’ve been trolled by white men I don’t know from Adam with the caucasity to tell me I had “no right to speak about Black Panther because I’m not a real comic book fan.”  Now, not liking or even hating Black Panther doesn’t make you a racist. Telling me I can’t love it does. And using the fig leaf of “political agendas have no place in Comic Book Movies” to hide your bigotry only exposes your own political agenda.

As hard as it may be for you to believe, Jimothy, this movie isn’t about you…

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In his Forbes’ article chronicling Black Panther’s unprecedented success, Scott Mendelson (a white guy so you can trust him, Jimothy) titled “Box Office: ‘Black Panther’ Crushes Conventional Wisdom With Record $ 218M Debut” had this to say regarding Black Panther:

This isn’t just a blow to conventional wisdom about minority-led blockbusters, it’s a blow to conventional wisdom concerning the MCU. One of their more outside-the-box offerings, one of their most director-driven films and one of their most overtly political pictures yet, one that plays more like a drama than an action spectacular, is now on pace to be one of their very biggest movies. Like Pixar, I hope the MCU is realizing that its (stereotypically) riskiest bets turn out to be their biggest wins. Playing it safe is no longer the safe choice.”

Let’s talk a little about “politics in comics” before we move forward. Because this will come up more often as women, blacks, Asians, non-binary folks and others underserved in the pop media landscape take the lead on both sides of the camera and all phases of production in Hollywood. Let’s look at an example of how political thought not only has always been a part of comics, it grounds the greatest heroes and drives the best stories.

Captain America was created by cartoonists Joe Simon and Jack Kirby, his first appearance was Captain America Comics #1 published in 1941 by Timely Comics, a predecessor of Marvel Comics. Captain America was designed as a patriotic supersoldier who fought the Axis powers of World War II and was Timely Comics’ most popular character during the wartime period. Steve Rogers, “the skinny kid from Brooklyn” that became America’s enduring champion and the “First Avenger” in Marvels MCU, was 4F but wanted desperately to serve his country like his only childhood friend Sgt. Buchanan “Bucky” Barnes. Steve endured bullying with courage and tenacity, he knew what it meant to be powerless, which is why Dr. Erskine, the lead scientist of the super soldier program, believed Rogers was the ideal candidate.

Dr. Abraham Erskine: The serum amplifies everything that is inside. So, good becomes great. Bad becomes worse. This is why you were chosen. Because a strong man, who has known power all his life, will lose respect for that power. But a weak man knows the value of strength, and knows compassion.
Steve Rogers: Thanks. I think.
Dr. Abraham Erskine: [he pours two drinks] Whatever happens tomorrow, you must promise me one thing. That you will stay who you are. Not a perfect soldier, but a good man.”

Rogers, now a super soldier, dressed in red white & blue named Captain America quit touring with the USO selling war bonds, went to the front lines and punched Nazis in the face on a daily basis.

That’s a political statement.

It’s endemic to who he is. Rogers believes in, if not America as it is, the aspirational ideal of what America SHOULD be for all her people. He’s such a patriot, once he leaned the truth about what the American government was doing in our name? He helped take down SHIELD, fought Iron Man, and became a fugitive from justice. Can you separate Captain America’s political views or core beliefs about freedom and justice from his character?

Of course not. Nor should you. That’s WHY we love Captain America. It’s what makes him a hero.

-Amnestic fanboys must have forgotten political stances made in The Avengers and all three Captain America Movies. SHIELD/HYDRA. Steve Rogers RAFT breakout after Civil War. The Sakovia Accords; UN oversight of “enhanced” individuals that split the Avengers. The political asylum granted by Wakanda. The entire X-Men comic run since Mutants were allegories of blacks during the Civil Rights Era of the 1960’s. MUTANT REGISTRATION ACT. TRASK Sentinel Program. The Legacy Virus that decimated fictional mutants concurrently during President Reagan’s silence on the spread of HIV in the 90’s that cost millions of real people their lives. Or, the second episode of Superfriends that spoke out against man-made climate change and promoted ocean conservation in the 1970’s.

I could go on.

Decades of the politics of the day driving comic book stories that no one cared about, that is, when blacks were sidekicks. This changed last Thursday.

Black Panther is a movie about the heir to the throne of a fictional African nation who wears the hereditary mantle of both monarch and protector of his realm “The Black Panther.” Is it possible to ignore or separate his blackness and his unique Afrocentric culture or world view from this character? Should every narrative he’s a part of ignore the plight of black people that do not enjoy the privilege of Wakandan citizenship?

Of course not.

One of the most powerful Black Panther comic book stories was the Jungle Action series of the seventies featuring Black Panther vs. The Ku Klux Klan. How do you de-politicize a black king taking on the the Klan? Why should we even want to? Like Cap’s political stance and core beliefs, Black Panther’s ethnicity & culture are central to his narrative and endemic to the character.

Black Panther is a powerful, resonant, self-reflective exercise that pays homage to both the source material and the African diaspora. It represents with unconditional love, deep respect, unique style, and an effortless flourish, yet still remembers to be a hell of a good time at the movies!

Black Panther was more than I could possibly ask for and one of the best examples of what a comic book movie can be. Period.

#wakandaforever

Editor’s Note: This article is excerpted from a longer piece. Read the article in its entirety at The Good Men Project 

 

 

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OHMYGOSSIP — It feels so exciting when you fall in love and start a new relationship! New relationships are about hope, some expectations and fresh feelings. But sometimes a new relationship collapses when they hardly starts.

Remamber, a good start determines the further outcome of your relationship! When you just start dating someone it’s very easy to make mistakes and scary the person away. Sure, every relationship is highly individual and unique, but here some universal tips to remember when you start a new relationship.

1. Don’t pursue your boyfriend
I always found it difficult. When I fall in love with someone I want to spend every second with this person to get to know him better. I become literally obsessed with the guy and it’s often the main cause of all my unsuccessful relationships. Such an excessive attention is the sure way to frighten the person off. Try to avoid calling him every hour or typing romantic messages if you’ve just started dating. Guys love when a girl can take the first step, but they cannot stand when the girl is persistent or even annoying. On the other hand, try not to hold him back. Avoid these two extremes and find the golden mean in your communication.

2. Don’t pretend to be someone else
When you like someone it’s natural that you want reciprocity. You want to gain the person’s approval and try hard to correspond to his expectations and preferences. However, you cannot make a different version of yourself. Sooner or later you’ll get tired to play this game and when he gets to know your true self, it’ll break your partner’s heart. When you pretend to be someone else, your guy cannot appreciate your real personality. If you know that your guy loves blue-eyed blondes, but you have beautiful brown tresses, you shouldn’t even think to dye your hair color! Try to be honest and open from the very beginning.

3. Your new boyfriend isn’t your previous one

Never ever try to compare your current boyfriend with your previous ones. Moreover, you should never discuss your previous relationships with your guy. It’s the easiest way to make him suspicious and jealous about all your male friends, which will surely lead to a breakdown. This rule works both ways. While you should keep silent about your previous guys, try not to ask him about his girlfriends as well. You don’t really need to know the person’s past to get to know him better. While dating him you’ll have plenty of opportunities to see everything with your own eyes.

4. Avoid being too fast
You’ve just started dating, but you’re already imagining your wedding and a happy family with 3 kids and a dog. Wait for a second, aren’t you too fast? Don’t cherish illusions as for your common future; everything is very uncertain at the beginning of your relationship and you still need a lot of time to explore each other. If you hint that you have some plans as for your future, be sure your relationship won’t go too far. I’ve noticed that most of my successful relationships occurred when I thought I had no chances with the guy. Remember that your relationship should develop its natural way. Your boyfriend shouldn’t tell you ‘I love you’ on the third date.

5. Don’t be the center of attention
When you want to impress your new boyfriend, you can go too far boasting about your personality, interests, hobbies or whatever else. However, you can get too tiresome and boring. Instead, try to talk about his personality. Take an interest in his work, hobbies, family and past. When he’s talking about something, be a careful and active listener. Guys will never tell you that, but they like to be complimented! Compliments will raise his self-esteem and dignity. Say some kind words about his achievements or personal qualities.

6. Don’t gather information

If you have common friends, don’t try to question them about your boyfriend. This is of crucial importance when it comes to his previous girls and relationships. If your guy finds out that (be sure he’ll find out), you will have a great difficulty trying to explain the situation to him. You shouldn’t rely on his social accounts either. What the person pretends to be online and what the person actually is are two totally different things. The best way to understand your partner is communication and spending time together.

7. Don’t be a perfectionist

Many relationships fail simply because you expect too much from the person. Several years ago I composed the list of features I expected from my potential boyfriend. There were nearly fifteen traits of character, if I’m not mistaken. No wonder all my relationships collapsed very soon since I was too high-maintenance and any man could hardly satisfy my needs. However, I’ve realized that I’m not ideal either, so it’s rather dishonest to expect perfection from someone else. Both of you are human beings and it’s natural that you have some shortcomings and imperfections.

A new relationship always gives you a chance to start everything anew. Even though the outcome of your relationship depends on many factors, you can still do a lot to make a good start. Follow the aforementioned tips if you want to start a successful relationship and get married.


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Remember back in November when the new face of ABC Dallas news, Demetria Obilor, was slandered by Facebook user Jan Shedd for “being a size 16/18 in a size 6 dress?” Jan even threatened to boycott the station and all. Well, although it’s always encourage that we spread love and not hate, Jan’s slander quickly went viral and poured in a wave of support for Obilor. Take that Jan! From celebs such as Chance the Rapper tweeting his support, to women against body shaming and men who are pro-curves, it was clear that Obilor aka #TrafficBae quickly became a social media sensation overnight.

Fast forward, and the hype has yet to die down for the ABC new-hire. The beautiful anchor was recently spotted ringing in the new year with some celebrity friends in Vegas, including the likes of rapper French Montana. She’s also been spotted on panels for ‘My Black is Beautiful,’ United Negro College Fund (UNCF) and many more. Oh, not to mention she is still thick, and still on TV, per her thriving career as a traffic ensemble reporter on ABC.

Sorry Jan! We guess the saying “There is no such thing as bad publicity,” is true!

How you gon’ hate from behind the TV screen when you can’t even get on! #Bloop!

 

Man, I’m tryna kick it wit ya 🎶🙌🏽

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Tom Petty: Country Stars Remember the Rock Icon

When Tom Petty died on Monday at age 66, the leader of the Heartbreakers left behind a catalog of songs essential to classic rock.

But whether he intended it or not, he also had an enormous impact on today's country music. His jangly guitar sound and classic song structure is all over country radio, which is why so many Nashville artists felt the weight of his loss.

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In the clip, he starts off by showing Bey ‘her city’ before diving into a quick anecdote about the day she was born.

It’s a sweet message, but also an odd one.

Check it out below.

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14 Real Wedding Moments That Will Make It A December To Remember

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Our readers who said their “I dos” this weekend filled their big days with lots of love and holiday cheer. See some photos from their celebrations below:  

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Getting Psyched to Not Remember Who Won the Oscars Next Week!

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The excitement is building, as it does every year around this time. Soon, the eyes of the world will be on the glitz and glamour that only Hollywood can provide. The 86th Academy Awards are upon us! The stars will file in on the red carpet, the fashion choices will be scrutinized and the honorees will be feted in grand style.

I can hardly wait to see it all, and then forget who won, like, a few days later.

Forgetting who won the Oscars is such a long-standing tradition that it might conceivably be called a part of the human experience. We wake up each morning, we go to work, we spend time with those we love…we can’t for the life of us remember who won the Oscars. It’s all part of the great continuum, woven into the fabric of our existence.

Sure, the celebrities themselves who win the Oscars are not likely to forget the moment they clutch that gold statuette and thank their agents and current spouses. However, it is not beyond the realm of possibility that they, too, will totally blank on who won in the categories not associated with their productions.

In this way, we, each of us, are not that different from the rich and famous people who supply our big-screen entertainment. They, too, could easily be at a party a couple of weeks from now and, when quizzed on which film was given the award for Best Adapted Screenplay, give the same vacant stare that you or I might give if asked the same question.

The only difference is that the famous person forgets who won what Academy Award because he or she is preoccupied about how to remain famous by prepping his or her next deal, whereas you and I forget because we have jobs and don’t care. These are small, inconsequential differences. The fact is that everybody, in all walks of life, has the memory of Oscar’s winners wiped from their brain pan almost immediately after the ceremony. And this year, as with every year, I am really looking forward to it.

Weirdly enough, we can all still remember the names of the teachers who made indelible impressions on us, even going back ten, twenty or thirty years. But an awards show for teachers would be pretty damn boring. They make crap money, and they have no idea how to dress.

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Reasons to Drink Number Two: We Drink to Remember

We live in a world that dances to a liquid soundtrack of alcohol, and it’s a beautiful if bitter sweet song ruined occasionally by a harshly discordant note that sounds a lot like someone falling head-first off a table, or projectile vomiting up the side of a completely defenseless building.

Alcohol has the power to make life memorable, which is not always a good thing, but explains why our celebrations are so steeped in it. There is, quite simply, nothing we won’t celebrate with a drink. We toast life, we toast death, marriage and birth, farewells and returns. Just as when we suffer we drink to forget, when emotions run high in the other direction, we drink to remember and the same thing that will make you forget your own mother in large enough quantities is used to lubricate that joy. This lubricant will probably be champagne, the world drink of celebration and I guess by proxy what happiness tastes like. We’ve even made it a part of our very own coming of age; Voting, Consent, Driving and Drinking, the ages at which we can legally use the four most useful things in the world; wheels, political choice, a nice cold beer, and our own penis/vagina.

Some occasions are particularly soaked in alcohol and occasionally just as flammable. Prior to the wedding that we will undoubtedly celebrate with a drink to the sound of popping corks, we embark on one of the most hedonistic nights of our lives where we ritually say goodbye to the us that was and welcome in the us that will be, all to the sound of snapping G strings, the smell of some kind of bronzing agent and the taste of alcohol; lots and lots of alcohol. At Christmas we put brandy in the butter and drink beverages that taste like the holidays themselves; be it nog, or mulled wine. Personally I’m amazed a drinks brand with a particularly duplicitous marketing department hasn’t come up with a tenuous link to Mothers day or Valentines in the way Baileys Irish Cream has wormed its way so successfully into Christmas. Perhaps in the future these other days will taste of Chartreuse or, god forbid, Sambuca, who knows.

Nothing however compares to New Year. New Years Eve has grown to become a booze-fuelled celebration dedicated to memory; to remembering those past, lost or forgotten, to mark the end of another year with hope for the next while we raise a cup of kindness to the lilting melody of Auld Lang Syne, probably singing the same verse over and over again because no one has taken the time to look up the second verse on Wikipedia or ironically have once again forgot it.

What it all comes down to is liquid punctuation. The drinking isn’t the occasion itself, just a handy excuse. It doesn’t form the backbone, but can cap it off beautifully like a drinkable full stop. It can add a moment of drama in the form of a raised glass, help us pause for a moment and take stock like a handy comma, pose a question, or hashtag a shared memory communally forever.

Whatever, wherever or whoever we want to remember we can do it just as well if not better with a glass in hand and sometimes we owe it to them to do just that.

Which only leaves me to pour a glass myself and toast a happy Christmas and a magical New year to all of you, you’ve earned it I’m sure.

Here’s to you.

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And surely you’ll buy your pint cup,

And surely I’ll buy mine

And we’ll take a cup of kindness yet, for auld lang syne

For auld lang syne, my dear. For auld lang syne

We’ll take a cup of kindness yet. For auld lang syne.
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