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National Cancer Survivor’s Day just passed June 2nd, but the urgency to ensure Black women are aware of the signs and symptoms of breast cancer is an ongoing challenge/ Advocates like Dr. Robina Smith, help to spread awareness through her partnership with Ad Council’s, “Know Your Girls” campaign. Dr. Smith is a fellowship-trained breast cancer surgeon with over ten years of experience in the field. We spoke to Smith about how Black women can become more aware of their risks, so we can decrease the disproportionately high mortality rates for Black women with breast cancer.

MN: In the past few years, we have been made aware of how breast cancer disproportionately kills Black women even though our white counterparts are more frequently diagnosed. Why is that the case that Black women are disproportionately affected?

Dr. Smith: Breast Cancer affects all populations in the world. However, Black women are disproportionately affected with higher breast cancer deaths, due to advanced stages when discovered (diagnosis), younger age when identified, poor access to and receipt of quality healthcare, more aggressive types of breast cancer (Triple Negative), refusal to adhere to the treatment plans outlined by the Oncologist and higher uncontrolled or poorly controlled personal medical problems (such as Diabetes and High Blood Pressure).  All of these factors significantly affect the survival rates of breast cancer and are prevalent in minority women with Black women being the most severely affected.

MN: What can Black women do in order to help ourselves and each other bridge the survival gap?

Dr. Smith: Since there isn’t any way to prevent breast cancer from forming, for women who are at average to moderate risk, the best way Black women can help themselves and each other is to become active participants in their own health breast health and screening process. Adhere to the screening recommendations […] (annual Mammograms at the appropriate age determined by your doctor, annual clinical breast exams with your doctor and routine evaluation of your own breast for any new or changing findings). Know your family history and ask if there are any cancers on both your mother and father’s side of the family.

MN:  What made you enter this field of work? Are there any women in your life who have gone through this?

Dr. Smith:  Black women have the highest mortality rates of any race – even in the early, potentially curable stages. Being a black woman, I wanted to make a difference in my community and within my race because it is personal to me.

MN: Who is considered high risk?

Dr. Smith: Risks for developing breast cancer are based on the knowledge and evidence that there are controllable and uncontrollable factors which can cause mutations or changes in the normal cells that make up the structures of the breast[…]. These changes or mutations in the cells within the breast are called cancerous changes or carcinoma.

The two biggest uncontrollable risk factors for developing these cancerous changes are 1) being a woman with breasts and 2) getting older.

Breast cancer originates in the breast and the longer we live we are exposed to different controllable risk factors such as chemicals, radiation, hormones, medications, alcohol, smoking etc. The average lifetime risk for any woman to develop breast cancer in her lifetime is 10-12% depending on ethnicity. If you are a woman and you live to an average lifespan to 85 this is your basic risk.

Some women will have other risk factors that can increase their lifetime risk to 15-40%, such as a personal history or breast cancer, years of exposure to estrogen for postmenopausal women, high risk lesion (precancerous) within the breast seen on biopsies, or positive family history of two or more first-degree relatives [like a parent] with premenopausal breast cancer.

Women who are considered to be high risk for breast cancer have an increased lifetime risk of at least 60-80% such as those with Inherited Genetic Mutations (BRCA1/2, PALB, TP53) passed down through the family with a strong history of cancers on the mother and/or father’s side.

MN: We know a lot of Black women are victims of medical neglect. If you have a lump that your doctor isn’t taking seriously, what should you do?

Dr. Smith: Black women must be proactive and be an active participant in their healthcare. It is important to communicate your concerns to your doctor. If he/she isn’t taking your concerns seriously then seek a second opinion from another doctor. If it is necessary, find a different clinic or medical office for that second opinion.

MN:How can we all be better allies for women who have been recently diagnosed with breast cancer or are undergoing treatment?

Dr. Smith: Help spread the word about breast cancer, the risks associated with the Black women and screening guidelines. Education and awareness about Black women and breast cancer can help change our statistics and our story.

MN:  Why was it important for you to get involved with Know Your Girls?

Dr. Smith: The Know Your Girls campaign is a valuable resource to help with the education and awareness that Black women need in order to make changes in their lives and be inspired to take charge of their breast health.

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Michael Phelps has done it again. No, not another Olympic medal: but another viral face.

During Wednesday’s episode of Today, the most-decorated Olympic athlete of all time spoke about what it was like to watch Tiger Woods’ iconic comeback as he won the Masters on Sunday for the fifth time, but the first time in over a decade.

Phelps, who had an amazing seat for the championship, called Woods’ win one of the “coolest things I’ve ever seen live in sports, and definitely in golf.”

Phelps’ excitement definitely was visible. Some viewers of the Masters in Augusta, Georgia, which Phelps says was the first he’d ever attended, caught a pretty excellent (and soon viral) moment on camera. Phelps had a seat just behind Tiger for his shot at the 16th hole in the tournament.

Phelps told Today just how special that moment felt. “I mean, just watching Tiger come back, watching him be able to do that and get back on top of the mountain, it’s so cool.” And it was even cooler, the swimmer said, because he didn’t have his phone on him during the Masters. Afterwards, he did receive some texts from people who noticed him during the broadcast. His wife, Nicole, captured the moment in an Instagram post as she watched with their son, Boomer, on TV.

During the 2016 Olympics in Rio, the internet fell in love with the #PhelpsFace, an intensely meme-able mug he had on before competing against Olympian Chad le Clos.

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Jorah Mormont Explains Why He’s ‘Basically Supportive’ of Jon Snow and Daenerys’s Love

If there’s anyone who’s been a figure of unrequited love on Game of Thrones, it’s been Ser Jorah Mormont, who will do anything for his queen, Daenerys Targaryen, despite seeing her romantic interludes with others.

So it’s fairly significant that the Westerosi knight (or rather, Iain Glen, the actor who plays Jorah) has weighed in favorably on her latest romance with none other than Jon Snow.

In an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Glen shared that he thinks that Jorah has now made peace with never being seen as a viable romantic partner for Daenerys.

“I don’t know what people perceive,” Glen said. “But in my mind, there was a significant shift when he lost her love and made this journey to try and win it back; once he won her favor again and was in her orbit. Of course, there has always been a profound love there but him wanting a reciprocal physical love has gone and he was just happy to be with her.”

He also said that he believes that Jorah generally approves of Daenerys and Jon being together.

“He believes in Jon Snow like a lot of people do and has gotten to know him in their travels together last season,” he said. “He thinks he’s a good match with Daenerys best interests in mind. It’s a complicated emotion, but I think he feels that they would be a good unification and he’s basically supportive.”

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Kanye West has been experimenting with his hair color lately. So of course, someone tracked down the hairstylist responsible for the Skittles bag-worthy hues Yeezy has been coloring his hair.

Page Six tracked down Daniel Moon, owner of HAIR Salon, where West goes to color his non-wavy ceasar.

“This time, I was allowed to be more detailed, which made me super happy because with more time I can create a more original, multi-dimensional piece,” said Moon of Yeezy’s latest, rainbow-flavor dye job. “Making [it] look real and believable from every direction of the head can be a challenge, but we accomplished that really nicely. The energy in the room was vibrating.”

Was it now? More details on the inspiration:

Moon was inspired to create the splatter-painted style after visiting LA art fairs the weekend before, and wanting “to push the prior two styles that we had collaborated on and take them to the next level. Knowing how inspired Kanye is by color and light and artists like James Turrell helps guide the collaborations.”

It all clicked, he continued, “[once] we found that lava red, which we started using with the last time we worked together. [It] felt like a spirit color for him. When you have your spirit color it tends to ignite something inside, and that’s when the magic happens.”

“Personally, I really enjoyed the final outcome and felt like Kanye did too, so I think everybody is pretty stoked,” he added.

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Vanessa Hudgens explains her soul connection with J-Lo and the importance of having strong women in your life

‘We can be in it to win it but we should be supporting each other’

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Second Act is hitting cinemas this week, undoubtedly set to become the feel-good film of the season.

The high fashion office wear and career inspiration make this a millennial must-see, but it’s the two strong female leads, coming in the form of Jennifer Lopez and Vanessa Hudgens, that make it a really important watch.

‘I think it’s great for women of all ages,’ Vanessa Hudgens told Marie Claire‘s Jenny Proudfoot. ‘I think that you’ll leave the film feeling inspired to reassess and go after what you really want and know that you aren’t a victim to your life. You are in control of it. And you decide how you live it.’

This is the film’s chief takeaway – a huge dose of career inspiration and an example of why women should support other women.

Jenny Proudfoot sat down with the lovely Vanessa Hudgens to talk all things Second Act, her surreal connection with J-Lo and why we should all surround ourselves with strong women on (and off) screen.

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What was your first impression when you read the script?

I mean, my biggest thing reading the script at the beginning was, ‘Oh my gosh – Jennifer Lopez is going to crush this role and I want to watch her doing it.’ I grew up with her films. I remember watching The Wedding Planner over and over again and how charming she was and I was just so excited to see what she was going to do with this script because it’s so well-written and supportive of women.

Were you nervous meeting Jennifer Lopez?

I had met her once before in passing, and I was just really excited to have the opportunity to work with her in the room, and once we did our read together we connected in a way that was kind of crazy. Every now and then I feel like you meet people that you feel a soul connection to. It’s kind of weird and unexplainable but it’s a very real thing and you just feel it. That’s what happened with us. I remember calling my boyfriend afterwards and going, ‘Babe – even if I don’t get this part, I am so grateful for the experience that I just had because me and Jennifer connected on such a deep, real level that it just felt magical’. We read the big emotional scene. There were lots of tears between the two of us which I guess is what made it so special. It was emotional for me but it was also emotional for her. And afterwards she apparently said that she wanted me. I mean, only she can vouch for that but I feel like because our connection was so real, it just felt like it was right.

Do you hope this film will push women to boost each other up in business?

Yes. I think that it’s something that is really special and important. I feel that it’s such a sensitive time right now that women are really afraid of stepping on someone else’s toes, and it just goes to show with this – it’s ok as long as there is motive to support each other. We can be in it to win it but we should be supporting each other. I have always surrounded myself with strong women – I 100% think that who you are is a reflection of the people that you surround yourself with. It’s so important to be surrounded by people that challenge you and lift you up and are always there for you. I think it’s so important – that’s why my friendship group is so small!

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What’s your top career advice?

I think people should lean into their interests. I feel as though we are at a point where it’s like “Work hard, go after what you want and be focused on that”. While that’s very true, it can give you tunnel vision and you lose sight of what brings you joy. It’s most important to lean into your interests – especially as an artist. I feel that there’s no right or wrong direction. Just follow your bliss and fully lean into it.

What career advice did Jennifer give you on-set?

Jennifer says herself that she loves being a mentor. She has been in this industry for so long and she knows the ropes – she has kind of done it all. So we would talk about trajectory and image and stuff like that. I mean, she was just super open with me and was down to talk about whatever.

What was your favourite scene that you filmed together?

It is really random. There was one scene when we were walking through Central Park together around the big classic Central Park fountain while we were filming in New York. It was a walk and talk scene and at one point it literally felt like someone had turned on a massive fan and put leaves in front of it. There were just leaves blowing all around us. But no, it was just Mother Nature doing her thing. And I remember looking up at Jennifer and looking around at Central Park and all these leaves blowing and it was just one of those real life movie moments, which is so funny because it turned into a real life movie moment.

Did playing VP Zoe inspire a career change of your own?

I’m an actor because I love stepping into other people’s shoes and then I feel that I get to bring a part of that person into my own personal life. And I think that there was something very empowering about playing this character, being the VP of the beauty department and having authority and power in an office space. Granted, that was fun but I would not be down for an office job. I don’t think I would survive. I like pretending, but not in real life.

What was your favourite Second Act look?

Zoe’s wardrobe was really nice. I love the winter layering – like the big winter coats with the thick scarves – I felt like they were such statements and so chic. I do like A/W fashion and I definitely enjoy seasons for short stints of time, but being a native Californian – I just want the sun the whole time. I mean, I’ve literally just been complaining about how I want it to be summer so that I can wear a dress.

What is your pre-audition prep?

I went to an acting class and they said before you do any audition you owe it to yourself to feel your body. By doing that you lie down and breathe, take account where you’re holding tension and pick a colour and put that colour in that place of tension. You breathe into it and therefore walk into the room feeling centred and grounded and completely present, giving yourself the best shot of getting the job.

While Zoe doesn’t have a British accent, how did you nail Lady Margaret’s voice in The Princess Switch?

I had a dialect coach that I worked with religiously. I obviously listened to a couple of the royals but at the end of the day it was all about thinking how I would be as a Duchess and practicing it. I was very self conscious about it and it would get to the point where I would have to do it all the time – in real life as well – so it would start to feel less foreign to me. There would definitely be days where I would go around all day with a British accent to everyone, even my mother.

Second Act comes to UK cinemas on Friday 25 January.

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Why do we go back to people who hurt us? A sexologist explains this unhealthy (and common) habit

Shelby Sells is an artist, photojournalist, and sexologist known for her exploration of modern sexuality. She has produced numerous videos, interviews, and articles on the subject, and is a sought-after speaker on matters of love, sex, and relationships. Sells is finishing her degree in Psychology with a Human Sexuality focus in hopes of becoming a sex therapist.

We see it time and time again in media, in our friend and family groups, and sometimes even in our personal decisions: The resurrection of painful and toxic relationships. The question is, “Why do we go back people who hurt us?” From a third-party perspective, it’s easy to point the finger and identify the harmful patterns in a person’s behavior, but is it that simple from an insider’s perspective? Not always, and here’s why.

We, as humans, are creatures of habit, meaning that once we develop a routine, it can be hard for us to break free from it.

The instability of an unhealthy relationship provides some folks with a sense of ease, and that’s why they’re drawn to it. There’s nothing to risk or lose when you know the end game is always the same.

For some, familiar pain is a source of comfort, so it comes as no surprise that those people find themselves in a constant cycle of hurt. Where this pain pattern stems from is unique to each individual. It can be related to childhood traumas or variations of abuse at any age. When pain is all you know, it can be challenging to seek alternative behaviors.

There’s also the instances in which we are blinded by love. It’s easy to get caught up in a relationship, even when it’s toxic. Later, we’ll tell ourselves “Maybe they’ll change” or “Maybe things will be different this time” in order to justify going back. Frankly, the drama itself can be addicting for some people. One friend told me that she gave her ex another chance because she believed he had to make up for how he had mistreated her in the past. While people do have the capacity to change, more often than not a person won’t change their innate nature.

Another reason people go back to partners who have hurt them? Because it’s easy.

Investing time and energy into a relationship is a lot of work, and the thought of starting over can seem daunting. Dating takes a lot of effort. Opening ourselves up to someone new inevitably comes with the potential to be hurt again. It’s scary, and that fear alone is enough to keep people at bay. Plus, why start over with someone new when our hurtful partner already knows us so well? It’s especially easy to run back to someone familiar if we are going through an emotional rough patch. When we’ve made ourselves vulnerable to someone and labeled them as a person who knows us, it can be hard to categorize them as unsafe. When you’ve had some distance from a partner, it’s also easy to romanticize the good memories until, suddenly, the bad memories are less significant. After all, repressing negative memories is a tool we use to protect ourselves from re-experiencing trauma.


Lastly, reviving relationships with people who have hurt us has to do with self-worth issues. Trying to break free from a toxic relationship, and then returning to it, feeds and fuels an unhealthy cycle of low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness. These feelings can make us believe that we are undeserving of, unworthy of, or not good enough for a better love. This idea is heartbreaking—we are all deserving of love and healthy companionship.

Sometimes we go back to unhealthy relationships to seek validation from a partner who was unable to give us what we desired.

We fight to try and gain what they could never provide us the first time around. Also, it’s not uncommon for people in toxic relationships to experience a sort of “Stockholm syndrome” in which they begin to favor their abusers. Many people in this situation are convinced (either by themselves, by their partners, or both) that this is the “best” relationship they’ll ever have. Of course, this is untrue, and a tactic used to justify abuse and neglect.

The good news is that if you or a loved one find yourself in a situation like this, there is hope.

While it may be difficult to leave an unhealthy relationship, there are an abundance of resources out there to help you through the process. Ask yourself if your needs are being met in this relationship and if the pros outweigh the cons. Therapy is a vital outlet in working through the pain, letting go, and unlearning toxic patterns and behaviors. A colleague of mine, Crissy Milazzo, created a website called youfindtherapy.com that helps people access affordable therapy.

Besides therapy, there are a number of support groups, books, and online resources available to those who are trying to make changes in their relationship routine. Remember, a healthy relationship is one where your partner brings out the best in you, where you feel safe and secure, where you have shared goals and values, and where you are both equally emotionally invested in each other and in your future together. It’s never too late to break free from pain and embrace love.

If you or someone you know is an abusive relationship and needs help, check out these resources from The Center For Relationship Abuse Awareness or The National Domestic Violence Hotline. You can call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or chat with a counselor online here

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Just days after Jersey Shore: Family Vacation star Ronnie Ortiz-Magro and his girlfriend Jen Harley announced that they were happier and more in love than ever, the two got into a vicious social media war with Instagram stories. And, it all started when Ortiz-Magro accused Harley of neglecting her kids, so she could go out and drink.

In a series of now-deleted posts, Ortiz-Magro accused Harley of leaving her 12-year-old son home alone while she went out partying with friends.

“Left 12yr old son alone while she went to drink” read an Ortiz-Magro snap taken at 6:38 am on October 21st. “This is why i had the baby bc she wasn’t home at 630 am and her son alone until 930 am.”

It wasn’t long before Harley started firing back, writing that her daughter was screaming and crying under Ortiz-Magro’s care, and she was scared because she never cries like that.  “I’m so heartbroken,” wrote Hartley.

According to Radar Online, it was at this point that the feud started to escalate. They brought up their fight on Jersey Shore when Harley made a scene and stormed off after a night of drinking with Ortiz-Magro and the rest of the cast. And, Harley accused her boyfriend of never wanting her to be part of the group.

All of this played out on the most recent episode of Jersey Shore. They were all enjoying a night out at Harrah’s in Vegas to see DJ Pauly D, but a hotel rep showed up to let Harley know the property had banned her. But, Ortiz-Magro convinced the rep that everything would be calm, and they allowed her to remain on the premises. She ended up getting drunk and fighting with Ortiz-Magro before ditching him and the rest of the cast.

Back to their social media feud, Harley also asked via text (Ortiz-Magro posted screenshots) for the reality star to give her $ 20,000 so she would leave him alone.

“Pull out 20K, and I’ll go,” wrote Harley.

After accusing his girlfriend of giving him a black eye, Ortiz-Magro then posted a creepy video (which he has since deleted) where fans could hear harsh sounds inside his home. In the caption, he wrote that the sounds were of an assault with a weapon and hands. He added the hashtags #BatteredMen, #MenLivesMatter, and #AbuseOrNah.”

Harley and Ortiz-Magro have tried to make their relationship work after the birth of their daughter in April. But, even with counseling and anger management classes, they still can’t seem to get along. She even claimed on Instagram that Ronnie Ortiz-Magro took their daughter a few days ago and has refused to give her back.

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Last year, Joe Scarborough went on The Late Show to declare his independence from the Republican Party (after hyping Trump for most of the campaign). This week, he urged voters to put a check on Donald Trump in the midterm elections.

Discussing the president’s unconscionable response to the apparent murder of Washington Post columnist Jamal Khashoggi, Scarborough’s Morning Joe co-host Mika Brzezinski said, “That can’t be our reality, and at some point this has to end one way or another.”

“You know a great way for it to end is for everybody to get out that gives a damn about this republic and, 19 days from now, go out and vote,” Scarborough said. “Whether you’re a Republican, whether you’re a Democrat, whether you’re an independent, you have to agree that Donald Trump needs to be checked.” Without exactly spelling it out for viewers, he was telling them to vote for Democrats who will be that check, adding, “This is the most important election of our lives.”

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