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Does Anyone Else Hate Having Barbershop Convos?

A few weeks ago, Uber rolled out their premium black car service Uber Black, which gives passengers the option to not only upgrade their vehicles but also shush drivers with a mute button. The program is Uber’s attempt to provide passengers with a more customizable experience, as well as address the ambiguity surrounding the relationship between drivers and passengers. Unlike taxis, calling an Uber means getting into someone’s personal car. Do you talk? What if the driver doesn’t feel chatty? What if you don’t feel chatty? No matter how many times I’ve gotten into an Uber, I’m never quite clear whether I should chat — and whether the wrong amount of chatting will bother the other person.

Predictably, when the program rolled out, everyone on Twitter had opinions. Some said that it was destined to failure; others said this came by the grace of God (pro tip: I’ve found that Uber Pool, strangely, is an excellent way to get a quiet ride by default. The more strangers there are in the car, the less social pressure there is for you to talk). All the debate made me wonder: should barbershops also have a mute option?

It turns out, I’m not the only person who prefers a quiet barbershop experience. In a super scientific Twitter poll, over half our readers said that, if given a choice, they would prefer to sit silence (almost double the number of people who said they like to talk). Which is odd since there’s so much romance around the idea of barbershop conversations: the long and close relationship between a man and his barber, the communion over sports and politics, and the catching up. I chat to be polite, but if given a choice, like many other people, I’d rather sit peacefully.

Unlike other commercial relationships, such as getting coffee from your barista, getting a haircut is strange. You can’t start and end with a simple “hello, how are you today?” The experience lasts about thirty minutes — up to an hour if you’re in some place fancy — and sitting that long in silence can be, well, awkward. But that doesn’t stop my fellow introverts from wishing they just didn’t have to engage. “I hate being rude, but I also hate being captive to small talk,” says Jay Arem. “If it were a new barber each time, I’d shoot the shit out of curiosity. But over time, it feels like you’re having the same plodding conversation.” Jared Sylvester says he enjoys the silence. “When I don’t have to talk, it’s a very meditative experience.” Steven Lerner adds: “It’s strange to have a conversation while looking at yourself in the mirror. Sometimes I wonder if the other side is chatting just to be nice.”

 

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Social theorists call this affective labor, which is closely associated with the Marxist critique of alienated labor. It posits that service workers in highly advanced capitalist societies — namely those in Western countries — are expected to foster certain affective states that have little to do with the real job at hand. A mechanic or gardener or baker, for example, may be highly competent at fixing or planting or baking, but he or she is also expected to generate the right feelings in their customers. In this sense, the person isn’t just selling a service or product, but also a part of their personality.

I started thinking about affective labor a few years ago when I visited China and Russia, where service workers don’t engage in what we would deem to be basic customer service. If you go somewhere to get your hair cut, the barber performs the job without a smile. At first, it felt alienating, but then I started wondering about my own assumptions. When a McDonald’s employee hands us our burger and says, “my pleasure,” do we really believe them? Do we engage in these things because both sides want to? Or is the service provider trying to make us, the person who determines their livelihood, feel nice?

The idea of affective labor allows us to think about our relationships with drivers and barbers in a few ways. Who are these conversations for? Are service workers chatting for their pleasure or ours? Do these relationships actually extend beyond economic life, or are people talking because they want a better rating and/ or higher tip? As we know, such service workers aren’t employees — they’re often independent contractors who rent access to commercial spaces. Drivers use Uber as a marketplace; barbers frequently rent chairs in barbershops. A mute feature can make a customer feel like they’re an employer, giving them control over whether the fiction of affective labor is a pleasure for all parties involved.

 

 

Wes Duncan, a PTO reader who goes to black barbershops, says he can’t imagine going without the convo. “Silence is not an option,” he jokes. “There have been a lot of articles written over the years about the importance of barbershops in the black community. For me, it’s a social gathering place where men talk about sports, politics, and relationships. I’ve only had two barbers in my life, and have been with my current one for almost fifteen years now. So we have a great relationship. He also worked in the same industry that I’m in now, so he’s always giving me solid career advice. Some compare the experience of going to a black barbershop as therapy. I don’t know if I would use the word therapy — mental health is important and should be handled by professionals — but I see it like those old social clubs. A barbershop is a place where men can go for interesting conversations and heated debates, especially about sports. A lot of people will go just to be around other people and talk, even if they’re not getting a haircut.”

David Coggins, the style writer who penned the book Men and Manners, has some practical advice for introverts such as me. “My feeling is that there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in silence if you’re sitting at the barber. If you don’t want to talk just say (in a polite way of course), ‘I’m just going to relax and close my eyes, if that’s alright with you.’ Usually, they’re happy they don’t have to make small talk. If I’m in a car, I also tell the driver from the airport I’d just like to relax after a flight. When you’re done, you still smile and say thank you, and I think that’s a fine equation.”

For Coggins, respect is key. Treat others as you would want to be treated, so goes the Golden Rule. “If you’re actively looking at your phone in the barber chair that’s different,” he says. “That communicates that you have something more important to do and that your mind is somewhere else. That’s less appealing to me. You might quickly check a message if it’s urgent (and tell your barber first), but I put my phone away. Getting a haircut is about a half-hour without the phone — it’s probably a good thing.”

Whether you like to have conversations or not, most of us visit the same barber every two or three weeks. “Naturally, you want to have a good relationship with the person. That’s a basic human instinct,” Coggins adds. “If you want to look at it more cynically, don’t you want to be on good terms with someone who has that much control over the way you look?”

Damn, looks like I’m going to be chatty now.

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Remembering ‘10 Things I Hate About You’: The Movie That Made Us Fall in Love With Heath Ledger

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Your favorite classic teen movie says a lot about you. It’s a statement about your preferred aesthetics and your taste level. One single reference tells new friends and first dates everything they need to know, from how popular you were in high school to how likely you are to currently own a Cher Horowitz-style cropped plaid skirt suit. Clueless fans have a CliffsNotes understanding of the classics and a deep-seated belief in the transformative powers of a makeover (they love Queer Eye). Superbad aficionados think they’re a lot funnier than they are, and secretly wonder if #MeToo has gone too far. John Hughes diehards have unhealthy romantic relationships, The Craft enthusiasts live in Bushwick, and Cruel Intentions stans have FetLife accounts and ship Cersei and Jaime Lannister.

And then there’s 10 Things I Hate About You. Twenty years later, this movie is still by far the best classic teen flick to associate yourself with. It’s less basic than Mean Girls, more highbrow than Fast Times at Ridgemont High, and isn’t totally cringeworthy by 2019 standards (see: Grease, Sixteen Candles). Identifying with 10 Things I Hate About You tells the world that you also know who The Raincoats are, and that you can appreciate the rarified delights of a high school rom-com that culminates in a Shakespearean sonnet. Just don’t be that guy who feels the need to point out that Kat’s final homework assignment isn’t in iambic pentameter.

The iconic 1999 adaptation takes Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew and gives it a riot grrrl twist. The clunky plot finds two Seattle sisters, Bianca Stratford (Larisa Oleynik) and Katarina Stratford (Julia Stiles), being wooed, respectively, by a very fresh-faced Joseph Gordon-Levitt and breakout star Heath Ledger. Kat is an outspoken feminist and literal ball-buster, which apparently makes her the most undateable senior at Padua High, despite the fact that she is literally Julia Stiles and a thousand times cooler than the “unwashed miscreants” she goes to school with. The Stratford sisters’ comically-overprotective dad (Larry Miller) decrees that the boy-crazy Bianca can only date when Kat does. Gordon-Levitt’s Cameron convinces the most popular and odious boy in school (Andrew Keegan) to pay Ledger’s Patrick Verona to take Kat out, at which point Cameron plans to swoop in and romance Bianca himself.

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‘Captain Marvel’ throws back to the ’90s with optical illusion posters designed to make you hate yourself

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The Captain Marvel marketing team is back on the nostalgia hype train with the release of five “Magic Eye” posters. 

These 3D optical illusions were first made popular through the Magic Eye book series known to pretty much any ’90s kid with a library card, and now continue to haunt those of us who could never see their hidden secrets in the first place.

The pictures’ colorful, abstract patterns are supposed to reveal hidden images when stared at long enough, but personally they make me feel like Star-Lord at the end of Infinity War – that is to say, a disappointment to every living being on this planet including and especially myself. Read more…

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Jussie Smollett just made it that much harder for the United States to have an honest conversation about anti-LGBT violence. What’s especially painful is how urgent that conversation remains.

On Wednesday evening, the Empire actor was charged with felony disorderly conduct for allegedly filing a false police report. The openly gay actor had claimed in late January that two men attacked him late at night on a downtown Chicago street, yelled racist and homophobic slurs, poured bleach over his body, and wrapped a rope around his neck. In a follow-up interview with police, Smollett claimed that the two men shouted “MAGA country”—a reference to President Trump’s 2016 campaign slogan.

Despite mounting questions about the veracity of Smollett’s account, it wasn’t until this Saturday that the Chicago Police Department publicly confirmed that Smollett was no longer being investigated as a victim but as a suspect in an investigation as to whether he had staged the attack. And now, the charge has been filed. It’s not the last step by far—but it does mean that police could not substantiate Smollett’s claims.

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Jussie Smollett Hate Crime Investigation Update — Chicago Police Are Expanding Their Search, Unable to Find Video or Photos of Assailants

The Chicago Police Department has issued a statement with an update on their investigation into Jussie Smollett’s racist and homophobic attack. 

The FBI has taken over the investigation related to the threatening letter Jussie received last week, but as far as the actual attack itself police have been canvassing the area looking for surveillance footage.

TMZ reports that police visited a Target store near where the incident happened and they were able to retrieve some footage. A source says the footage shows just one person — presumably Jussie — walking down the street.

Anthony Guglielmi, Chief Communications Officer, tweeted that the department is expanding its search radius after being unable to find video or photos of the alleged attackers or any vehicles.

We’ll keep you updated as the investigation unfolds.

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Chicago Police Investigating Possible Hate Crime Attack Against Empire Actor

Chicago police say they are investigating a possible hate crime against Empire star Jussie Smollett early Tuesday.

Smollett reported that he was approached by two men as he was walking down a Chicago street. The men allegedly began yelling racial and homophobic slurs at him and beat Smollett’s face with their hands, according to the Chicago Police Department.

Police said Smollett told them that the attackers poured an “unknown chemical substance” on him and wrapped a rope around his neck.

The two attackers then fled the scene and Smollett took himself to Northwestern Hospital. He is in “good” condition,” police said.

Smollett, an openly gay actor, is best known for his starring role on the FOX hit Empire, where he plays the role of Jamal Lyon. His character on the show is also gay.

Police said they are taking the allegations very seriously as they continue their hate crime investigation.

20th Century Fox said the studio was “saddened and outraged” to learn of the alleged attack.

“We are deeply saddened and outraged to learn that a member of our EMPIRE family, Jussie Smollett, was viciously attacked last night,” the statement said. “We send our love to Jussie, who is resilient and strong, and we will work with law enforcement to bring these perpetrators to justice. The entire studio, network and production stands united in the face of any despicable act of violence and hate — and especially against one of our own.”

Celebrities are weighing in on the incident. Empire co-star Vivica A. Fox tweeted she is angry and hurt over the attack and said “THIS MUST STOP!! SPREAD LOVE NOT HATE!”

Actress Zendaya tweeted that the attack is “heartbreaking and terrifying.”

Television producer Shonda Rhimes asked if anyone knew who was responsible for the attack to report them to the police.


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There’s no denying that Mindy Kaling is goals—she’s a show runner, actress, and best-selling author, and she seems to genuinely love the skin she’s in. Which—as she noted in a recent speech—isn’t always easy, or even encouraged, among women. During Glamour’s 2018 Women of the Year Summit on November 11th, the Mindy Project star noted that some people are “turned off” by her confidence.

“It’s not that I’m into myself,” she said. “It’s that I don’t hate myself. In my career, a lot of people have a problem with being around women who don’t hate themselves. Never hate yourself.”

We are so here for Kaling’s observation. Women are still socialized to downplay their accomplishments, to apologize before contributing in meetings, and to generally take up as little space in a room or situation as possible. And when they don’t? They’re hit with labels like “conceited,” “arrogant,” and, yes, “bitchy.” And it has got to stop.

Kaling’s advice for women looking to build their confidence and make their dreams come true is to always feel prepared. “I always just did the legwork, and it meant I never came to anything unprepared. The only reason I was able to be confident was because I literally couldn’t not be confident with the amount of research and preparation I did.”

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Pittsburgh Steelers Quarterback Ben Roethlisberger Honored Shooting Victims With ‘Stronger Than Hate’ Cleats

Pittsburgh Steelers Quarterback Ben Roethlisberger wore specialized cleats Sunday to pay tribute to the victims of last week’s shooting at the Tree of Life Synagogue in the city’s Squirrel Hill neighborhood.

The cleats featured a Star of David inside the Steelers logo and were decorated with the words, “Stronger than hate.” Roethlisberger wore the cleats during pregame warmups, then switched to standard cleats during the game against the Baltimore Ravens to avoid an NFL uniform violation.

On Tuesday, Steelers players and staff also attended the funeral of brothers Cecil and David Rosenthal, who were among the 11 victims of the shooting on Oct 27. Michele Rosenthal, the sister of Cecil and David, is the former community relations manager for the Steelers.

Robert Bowers, the suspected gunman, has pleaded not guilty to 44 federal charges that include murder, hate crimes, obstructing the practice of religion and other crimes.

The “Stronger than hate” image has been widely shared on social media.

“It was tough, it was crazy tough, especially with Michele and the closeness we have with her,” Roethlisberger said last Sunday, according to ESPN. “We’re thankful for the victory, but we all understand, there are bigger things, there’s life.”

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What Household Tasks Do You Love and Hate?

what household tasks do you love and which do you hateI was intrigued by some reader responses to recent posts on household tasks, including last week’s post on how to iron less (where many readers noted they loved to iron!) and our discussion on CorporetteMoms of how their families handle laundry (where many readers noted they personally do 90% of it)household tasks maternal gatekeeping. So here’s a fun little question for today: what household tasks do you love and hate? What chores are you surprised you do (that you may have sworn in your youth you’d never do)? Are there household tasks that you outsource not because you hate them, but because they’re easiest to outsource? Finally, for those of you who have partners or roommates, how do you split household tasks — and have you had to adjust your standard of “clean” in exchange for someone other than you doing the chore or task?

For my $ .02, I got into this a bit with our discussion of making the bed every day — in my youth I couldn’t have thought of a more pointless activity, and swore up and down I’d never do it. Of course, these days I make my bed every morning — but now I swear up and down that I will let my kids’ beds be messy. I’m also surprised by how much I love things like grocery shopping. In terms of adjusting the standard of “clean” — my husband and I are a great match in that we have largely similar ideas of what’s dirty and clean; if there’s a 10-point scale I may be a 4 on some things where he’s a 6 on them, and vice versa, and those tasks naturally fall to us. I’m grateful I read Lean In fairly early on as a wife and mother because I’ve totally taken Sandberg’s advice to heart — she advised women to avoid “maternal gatekeeping,” which she described as the fancy term for “‘Ohmigod, that’s not the way you do it! Just move aside and let me!’”, and specifically noted

[w]henever a married woman asks me for advice on coparenting with a husband, I tell her to let him put the diaper on the baby any way he wants as long as he’s doing it himself. And if he gets up to deal with the diaper before being asked, she should smile even if he puts that diaper on the baby’s head. Over time, if he does things his way, he’ll find the correct end. But if he’s forced to do things her way, pretty soon she’ll be doing them herself.

YES. So even though in my family we’re past the diaper stage (thank goodness), one of those things that I sometimes find myself swearing that I will or won’t do with regard to household tasks relates back to Sandberg’s advice — I will let him put the diaper on the baby’s head.  I find it to be true of everything, from sorting laundry to dishes to more.

Ladies, what about you — what household tasks do you love, and which do you hate? (Do you outsource anything you love just because it’s easiest to outsource?) Are you surprised about any of those tasks — things you maybe swore you wouldn’t do in younger years? Which tasks do you let your partner or roommate do, but grit your teeth (because she or he is putting the diaper on the baby’s head)? 

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‘Un-Networking’ For People Who Hate the Other Word

Not long ago, I received a call from the chief of staff (CoS) of an officer at my company, inviting me to speak to her mentoring circle about networking. Now if you are like me, I shun the idea of classic networking. I believe that I have something in my DNA that is just simply diametrically opposed to the idea. I just wasn’t built for it. I’m certain it works for someone because people continue to push the idea. A self-proclaimed introverted extrovert, I really don’t like the idea of entering a room full of people that I do not know and striking up conversations that I feel can only be superficial at best.

Some people make excuses for not networking. Some of the most popular ones, according to The Career Experts blog, are that people fear rejection, they aren’t comfortable talking to people they don’t know, or they simply just don’t know how to do it.

My approach to networking is a little different, after more than 20 years in my career. I outlined five tips for that mentoring circle that has worked for me over the years. They seemed to be well received by the group. Hopefully, you’ll find them useful as well.

5 Networking Tips for People Who Hate Networking

Slay every day.

No need for embellishments here: this tip really is focused on performance. While it is important to look your best because first impressions can make or break you, you must complete each and every task or assignment with excellence. In other words, kill it every time, whether the initiative is big or small. Every. Single. Time. This is how good reputations are built and positive buzz about you is created inside and outside of your company. In other words, let’s give them something to talk about. The chance for a mutual spark between you and the new connection you want to make will increase the better your buzz.

Be attractive.

Again, this isn’t about the outward appearance as much as it is about ensuring that your good reputation precedes you and your personal brand is well executed so that people want to meet you and know more. There is science behind the rules of attraction. in fact, being available as a resource in business is extremely attractive, according to some research. That same research says that you can’t be boring, which means you must be memorable. Our discussion in the mentoring circle centered around the difference between brand and reputation. Your brand is what you put out into the universe proactively. These are the things that you want people to know about you. Your reputation is what people say about you when you aren’t in the room. Both can attract people to you or do the exact opposite. Take an assessment of what makes your brand a good one. Consider what is said in rooms where you are not. Do the two things add up? Is there some tweaking to your brand that may impact your reputation? Slaying every day will help.

Leverage social media for networking.

If you want to blow off that 8-minute networking event, how about spending more time on platforms like LinkedIn that actually provide you with a way to engage and connect with people without being too bold too soon? The algorithm makes this really, really simple. Every engagement affords you extended reach. So try liking content that someone in your network shared. Your entire network will see it, but be deliberate about it. Is the content aligned with your brand? Then, yes…give it a thumbs up. If you want to get a little more out there, try commenting. You don’t have to post updates or even provide long-form posts to shape your positioning. Engagement can take you places and create connections that you may not have even considered. The ultimate compliment that you can pay someone on LinkedIn? Share their content on your page. Tag them while you are at it. Then watch your reach expand to not only your network but theirs too. Their positive response won’t hurt either. By the way, if you haven’t given a thought to your digital footprint, you should. Ask yourself, “what do people see when they Google me?” Then be proactive about shaping those search results based on your one-sentence value proposition. The FairyGodBoss suggests sharing great articles online that may be applicable to the person you’d like to network with or inviting them into your Slack community.

Build a community.

So about the word community: this is where I heed the great advice of Ted Rubin: a network expands your reach, a community gives you power. So let’s look at why a community can offer you so much prowess. Communities gather around shared values, and very loosely (as is extremely obvious in social media) shared content. And those connections are made stronger by the conversations those people have about topics with which they all align. This implies that your community has more than just a passing knowledge of you. Your network may be familiar with you, but your community will vouch for you. So how about starting with the people you already know? The people who already know your work? The people who you know will actually answer when you call. Start here…see where it gets you.

Establish a great rapport.

A rapport is the very beginning of a relationship, and sometimes, a chance meeting or even a planned one can only afford you a few moments to achieve an interaction that can lead to a more fruitful exchange. Solid relationships are how business gets done. I shared the example of how I even wound up speaking to the officer’s mentoring circle, and it truly demonstrated how the first four tips led to the fifth and ultimately found me sitting before the group to which I was speaking. The CoS asked HR D&I who they recommended to share with the mentoring circle. HR D&I is one of my clients within my company. I try to slay all day for them. Apparently, it impacted their recommendation. The CoS went to the officer and provided their suggestion and said that she didn’t know me. The officer said, “You have never heard L. Michelle speak? I have.” I had been in the room with the officer twice–each time, I was presenting my work. The CoS looked me up on LinkedIn, and the post she saw first was the endorsement from my university, and with that, she picked up the phone.

The result of that conversation could have gone another way had the officer said, “You know, I’ve been in meetings with her, and I really don’t think she is a fit.” Boom…no invitation.  Establishing that rapport initially kicked down a door that may have been shut had I not performed well.

Next time we’ll further explore business relationship building for the networking averse.

 

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Common, Regina Hall, and Russell Hornsby Share Lessons from ‘The Hate U Give’

Based on the book by Angie Thomas, the new film The Hate U Give shares the perspective of a teenaged black girl torn between two worlds. The novel’s film adaption speaks to a wide range of audiences and experiences as it addresses the challenges of 16-year old Starr Carter. Starr’s problems cross boundaries and provide lessons that can be applied to our personal and professional lives as it relates to our diverse and often polarizing political environment.

The film addresses myriad topics such as code-switching, covering, discrimination, diversity, police brutality, gun violence, trauma, voting, and activism. Film director George Tillman and the cast addressed these issues at a recent forum sponsored by the 48th Annual Legislative ConferenceCongresswoman Val Demings of Florida’s 10th District, and the Multicultural Media Correspondents Association (MMCA). Actress Regina Hall, actor Russell Hornsby, and hip-hop artist/actor/activist Common also provided valuable insight around a plethora of timely themes found within the emotionally charged film.

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Russell Hornsby, Regina Hall, and Common (Photo Credit: Patricia McDougall Photography)

Code-Switching in The Hate U Give 

Code-switching is the practice of switching between languages or dialects in conversation to suit the setting. Starr is continually switching between two worlds; the poor, predominantly black neighborhood where she lives and the wealthy, mostly white prep school she attends. The uneasy balance between these worlds is soon shattered when she witnesses the fatal shooting of her childhood best friend at the hands of a police officer. Facing pressure from all sides of the community, we witness Starr struggling with communication issues we often face in our daily work lives, as we determine the suitable language and vernacular to communicate with colleagues. Starr must find her voice and decide to stand up for what is right.

‘Covering’ and Other Themes 

Covering is the act of downplaying or hiding certain aspects of yourself so as not to appear different. The Deloitte University Leadership Center for Inclusion report, Uncovering Talent, reveals that 61% of all employees “cover” their identities in some way by downplaying specific attributes, for fear of drawing unwanted attention or making others uncomfortable. Too often, covering does not provide the positive consequences we hope to achieve and is often detrimental to our self-esteem and performance. Taking cues from Starr, we understand covering is unhealthy and does not provide the results we hope for. Eventually, we remove the veil as the pressure to hide becomes unbearable and we show up as our authentic selves.

Starr encounters and manages blatant discrimination and negative treatment based on her race throughout the film. Many workplaces are plagued with discrimination and the lack of opportunities for people of color. In fact, the United States Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) announced 84,254 workplace discrimination charges were filed with the agency nationwide in 2017. By recognizing a lack of diversity in the workplace, we can aim to ensure people of color are in decision-making roles with decision-making power. Hornsby said it best when he stated, “the diverse stories we are able to tell from a black perspective are stories that are from opportunities. We show that we can do the work. We show that we are capable. We show that we are talented. We just need to have an opportunity.” Providing opportunities is a step toward combatting discrimination.

There is not one character in The Hate U Give exempt from some level of trauma based on events in the film. In the same way, we are not exempt from the trauma we experience directly or indirectly in daily life. According to studies, 66% of the general population has been traumatized at some point. Eighty percent of workers feel stressed on the job, and approximately 1 million workers are absent each day due to stress. It is essential to be aware that the incidents that occur in The Hate U Give are not limited to the movies but that we are encountering people who have these experiences in our professional lives on a daily basis. Empathy and sensitivity to the experience of others are needed more than ever in our professional and personal lives.

Diversity

When discussing The Hate U Give, Hall eloquently explained how images reflect who we are, how we are perceived, and how we are received in the world: “Those images shape how the world is shaped and affects us when we apply for jobs.” When asked about diversity and his role in the film, Common explained how art gives us more insight into life. “Every time I get a new character, I start to understand human beings more. That’s why I want to play characters that are not like me, and that do not think like I think,” he expressed. Being exposed to people, experiences, and places that are not like us or that are different from our everyday lives is the key to diversity. Common and the cast agreed that when it comes to diversity we have a long way to go, but it is important to acknowledge the growth and recognize there are people on the front lines who are moving forward and being leaders in the area of diversity.

The Hate U Give reminds us that it is not only about diversity of color and gender, but also diversity in thought. As art imitates life, we continue to recognize that people come from all walks of life and that we are not monolithic as a people.  As Hornby expressed, “There is no right or wrong, there is only truth.”  As business owners and professionals, we must join efforts with organizations like the MMCA to ignite and sustain a call to truth and action that results in a significant increase in diverse representation in all areas of industry. At the same time, we must be keenly aware of the effect the lack of diversity and other factors have on our health and our productivity. The Hate U Give is a powerful tool that can be used to continue the dialogue and to challenge misconceptions that prevent progress.

The Hate U Give is in select theaters on Oct. 5 and everywhere on Oct. 19.

 

 

 

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‘The Hate U Give’ screenwriter dies day before film’s release at age of 58

The screenwriter behind the brand new film, “The Hate U Give” died following a years-long battle with cancer a day before the movie’s release. She was 58.

Audrey Wells succumbed to her illness on Thursday, according to The Hollywood Reporter.

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‘Last Jedi’ hate was ‘weaponized’ by Russia, says study

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The Brexit vote. The 2016 U.S. presidential election. And … the online reaction to The Last Jedi. 

What do all these events have in common? All were allegedly skewed by Russian trolls. 

The Last Jedi accusation comes in a new paper by Morton Bay, a Research Fellow at the University of Southern California (George Lucas’ alma mater). Bay analyzed all tweets sent directly to Last Jedi director Rian Johnson over a seven month period after the movie’s release. 

His conclusion? More than 50 percent were “bots, trolls/sock puppets or political activists using the debate to propagate messages supporting extreme right-wing causes and the discrimination of gender, race or sexuality,” Bay writes. “A number of these users appear to be Russian trolls.”  Read more…

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