Single Black Mothers You Are Capable Of Helping Black Boys Evolve Into Black Men, I Did

I am a black man not a nigger

Some of our greatest moments begin in despair and end in joy. This is my truth about becoming a mother. I was a 21-year-old college student, still attempting to find my way in the world when I became pregnant with my son. I had no idea how to care for a baby, I was still mastering caring for myself. I had plans, I had goals, and a baby wasn’t a part of any of them, but there I was pregnant, afraid, and embarrassed.

Honestly, my fear connected to motherhood wasn’t about being a single mother. My mother and many of the other amazing women in my family are and were great mothers who happen to be single. Some were divorced, some widows, and some found themselves in the baby mama category courtesy of bad decisions, just as I had. I had witnessed their strength, and I knew I had the potential to be a great mother despite what daddy decided to do. I knew that I had to make adjustments because I refused to be one of those girls who had a baby and passed it off to their mother while they resumed their regular life. The real fear came months later when I found out I was having a son. I felt as though I could navigate my way through motherhood with a daughter. I could teach her about womanhood (even though I wasn’t a woman yet) and life from a female perspective with ease. I had heard all the “It takes a man to raise a boy into a man” sayings and, honestly, I believed it.

Boys need male energy, they need examples and role models that look like them. That being said, I couldn’t see myself “giving” my son to his father to raise. Still, I questioned what I could offer a boy regarding manhood. I had nothing and I felt my son’s father also had nothing because he lacked many of the characteristics of a “real man” and was more young and dumb than I was, if that was possible. I was no more confident in him raising our son to be a man than I was about me doing so, but I did know that I would give our son the roots he needed to grow and the wings he’d need to soar. I also knew that I would love him with every ounce of my heart and make sure he was cultured and educated, which is precisely what I have been doing for the past 20 years.

Through the struggles of living in public housing and receiving state assistance, I raised my son, Zay, to be intelligent, God/fearing, respectful and strong. I, too, leveled up and became a better person. I became a better woman because my son deserved to experience the magic of a Black woman. Sometimes we lose sight of what our children really need from an emotional standpoint while trying to provide. Children aren’t born with an understanding of material things, we introduce that to them. Children are born craving love and that’s free sis.

I also encourage single mothers to avoid making motherhood about the absent parent. No sis, you are not the mother and the father, you are a damn good mother, period. Oh and, if co-parenting is possible, give it a try because your child needs daddy too. Yes, I have issues with my children’s father even now, but I have never allowed any of those issues to deny him the privilege of being an active part of their lives. Clearly, their daddy wasn’t the man for me, but my children love and respect their father and Zay has learned many lessons from him.

I made it a habit to always be very open and honest with Zay about life. I knew that as a Black man he needed the truth about the world. I found ways to address his questions about his body and the changes he was experiencing. We dealt with masturbation and sex head-on despite my discomfort. I emphasized the importance of using his discretion wisely when having sex and building relationships. I wanted him to know that he didn’t have to conquer every woman he encountered and that sex could prove to be deadly, plus God forbid he get stuck for life with some random he made a mistake with.

I emphasized the importance of knowledge, control, and respect of self because many men have deficiencies in these areas and their activities reflect it. My son had a front row seat to the toxic show of immaturity between his parents, and I needed to assure he was clear that the acts and attitudes he witnessed were wrong. I attempted to undo the effects of our bad behavior by dissecting situations in a manner that stressed the avoidance of certain things and amplified the importance of others:

  1. Making himself his top priority.
  2. Never disrespecting a woman with his words or actions.
  3. Always exercising self-control.
  4. Removing anyone or any situation from his life that doesn’t serve him well.
  5. Nurturing every meaningful relationship he has.

Two years ago, I was flooded with emotion when I dropped Zay off at college. I was so proud that he had graduated with honors and without incident (except getting caught kissing when he was supposed to be in class). I felt like a winner. Despite every hardship, we made it. That baby that my college professor soothed in her office so that I could complete my final is now a junior in college himself, excelling academically at Georgia State University. Not bad for a Black boy raised by a single black mom.

Single mothers, stay encouraged and do the work, sis. It will be hard and it damn sure won’t be perfect, but It will be worth it. Give your sons love and education. Namely, tell them the truth about who they and how to navigate this world and develop a healthy sense of manhood. Below are six of those truths, I’d encourage you to share with your son.

  1. The world has enough niggers. You are a Black man; you were created with purpose, and it is vital that you consider that purpose in all that you do.
  2. You are strong. Life may not always be kind and your strength will be tested but know that your light is brilliantly shining. Always understand the fall doesn’t make you weak and getting back up makes you stronger.
  3. Your greatest assets are wisdom and knowledge. Every black man should be guided by the wisdom and knowledge not just of his own understanding but of those who came before him and those around him. That wisdom and knowledge are never to be dumbed down because it is a part of your gift to the world.
  4. Your voice is vital. There are so many that need to hear your voice. There are so many that need to be fueled by your strength. Most of all, the foundation you lay will empower the next generation of strong, proud Black men.
  5. Your most reliable ally is the Black woman. Always love and respect the Black woman as you do yourself. Hold her in the highest regard, protect her and she will do the same for you.
  6. Align yourself with other Black men. Never allow social or economic differences to separate you from your brother. You are a much mightier force together. Don’t just be your brother’s keeper, see yourself in your brothers.

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Four Black Single Mothers Blessed With Pre-Owned Cars At a Maryland Church [VIDEO]

Beyond making history as the first African American Lamborghini and McLaren dealer in the United States, Thomas Moorehead, President and CEO of Sterling Motorcars, is also establishing a legacy of giving back to the communities he serves. Recently, the Sterling Motor Cars Community C.A.R.E program surprised four single-parent moms with cars during church services held on Sunday, April 28, at the First Baptist Church of Glenarden in Upper Marlboro, Maryland.

Sterling Motorcars is a longtime member of the BE 100s, Black Enterprise’s listing of the largest black-owned businesses, and was named Auto Dealer of the Year back in 2007.

According to a statement, each of the unsuspecting mothers was gifted with a vehicle at the 8 a.m., 10 a.m., noon, and 6:30 p.m. services, making them the first recipients of the Sterling Motorcars’ Community C.A.R.E. Program. The community-based initiative, which stands for “commitment, assurance, reliability, and excellence,” targets school, local organizations, and faith-based organizations.

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Pastor K. Jenkins Sr. of First Baptist Church of Glenarden said the moms were selected based on their economic hardships and faithfulness to the church. “We have identified four single parents based on their financial needs, having young children, and being active members of the First Baptist Church of Glenarden,” he said in the statement. “Our recipients are faithfully involved in our ministries and are single parents who recognize that their lives are bigger than themselves. They give generously by serving outside of themselves by helping other people.”

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Although they were not named in the statement, each of the parents was described as follows:

  • Parent One: Husband passed leaving her to raise eight children, ages 8-15
  • Parent Two: Involved in an automobile accident with uninsured motorists where her car was totaled. This parent volunteers with FBCG’s Special Needs Ministry and has a 15-year-old child.
  • Parent Three: Uses public transportation and has two children ages 7 and 9. Despite various hardships in her life, she continues to serve in the Kids World Ministry and the Children Bible Study Ministry for the last five years.
  • Parent Four: Volunteers their time working with the dance ministry youth ages 13-18.  They have a 9-year-old son, who is also actively involved in the church.
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Russell Wilson Surprises His Mom with a Brand New House for Mother’s Day [Video]

Russell Wilson, fresh off of becoming the highest-paid quarterback in the NFL, used his newfound coin to make this Mother’s Day extra special for his mom.

He surprised his mom with a brand new house!

“All these years you have never asked me for anything… only thing you ever wanted is for me to LOVE. Well thanks for loving us the way you do. This ones for you. I love you momma,” he captioned a video of her reaction.

Watch the touching moment below.

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Americans Will Spend a Ton of Money to Spoil Their Moms on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is right around the corner. Have you purchased a gift for your mom yet?

From flowers and perfume to manicures and meals, Americans plan to spend a bunch to spoil the special ladies in their lives on May 12.

The National Retail Federation reports consumers will spend a record $ 24.95 billion this holiday — up from last year’s $ 23.1 billion.

To break it down, that’s an average of $ 196.47 per shopper. I’m sure your mom is worth much more than that, but it’s really the thought that counts.

Mother’s Day Spending by the Numbers

Here’s the breakdown of where those dollars will end up going:

  • Jewelry: $ 5.2 billion
  • Special outings like brunch or dinner: $ 4.6 billion
  • Flowers: $ 2.6 billion
  • Gift cards: $ 2.6 billion
  • Clothing: $ 2.3 billion
  • Electronics: $ 2.2 billion
  • Personal services like spa treatments: $ 2 billion

Spending on bouquets and brunch are most popular among consumers. Sixty-seven percent surveyed said they’ll purchase flowers, and 55% replied they’d splurge on special outings, like going to a restaurant.

It’s not all about giving “stuff.” Thirty-nine percent of people surveyed said they’d be giving their mother presents that create a “special memory.” Experience gifts are most popular with people under 35.

Show Your Love for Mom Without Breaking the Bank

Now, just because the average consumer may be dropping close to $ 200 on the moms in their lives doesn’t mean you have to. We’re Penny Hoarders, after all!

Here are few sweet — and affordable — gift options:

Nicole Dow is a senior staff writer at The Penny Hoarder.

This was originally published on The Penny Hoarder, which helps millions of readers worldwide earn and save money by sharing unique job opportunities, personal stories, freebies and more. The Inc. 5000 ranked The Penny Hoarder as the fastest-growing private media company in the U.S. in 2017.

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How To Manage Expectations And Really Enjoy Your Mother’s Day

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Whether you’re nearing your third trimester or you’re two teenagers and a toddler into motherhood, it’s no secret that Mother’s Day can bring pressure and expectations typically from those who think motherhood should appear or be experienced a certain way. Honestly, I’m not all that excited by thoughts of brunches with bottomless mimosas, nor am I desperately craving a day of self-care surrounded by bath bombs and my spouse making dinner. The truth is I prefer to make my own damn baked mac and cheese. Honestly, with working and maintaining a balance of my responsibilities at home and work, I don’t really mind a day of napping and cuddling with my kid or blowing bubbles with her in the backyard. I don’t want the pressure of putting on clothes or doing my hair to be surrounded by strangers celebrating in our shared responsibility of care giving. Call me anti-social, but I’m willing to bet what most moms want for Mother’s Day is to be unbothered. Like most holidays, I believe these times are just special moments to acknowledge family, friends and those we love, particularly if we haven’t been able to show them the appreciation and time they really deserve all year. Often times the bare minimum is more than enough, and more than anything moms want and need support and appreciation all year round.

Like most holidays, Mother’s Day has a way of creating expectations of how the day should go which depending on every individual’s experience can bring a whole lot of disappointment when what actually takes place is departure from what we may have anticipated. All too often we get caught up in the excitement of flowers, cards and spa days that we actually forget to enjoy ourselves and focus on what the day is truly about. In fact the day as we have come to know it was started in 1908 by Anna Jarvis, a woman who was unmarried and had no children. Jarvis started the day as a continuation of the work her mother had done to unite mothers in times of war. Jarvis had a simple intention in the early 1900’s to set aside a day to recognize the sacrifices women made for their children and actually spent much of her latter life denouncing the commercialization of the day and even attempted to have it removed from the calendar.

So before you go getting worked up over bouquets and breakfast-in-bed, know that outside of all of the gifts and kind words, at the heart of it all Mother’s Day is time for mothers to feel seen and supported. Here are few tips for enjoying your day even if doesn’t exactly meet your expectations:

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If you’re like us, you celebrate your mother all year round, but make an extra effort to make her feel special on Mother’s Day. It doesn’t have to be expensive, in fact mom probably just wants your company. Take her to church or send her to the spa, here are some last-minute gift ideas for the last-minute person in all of us.

4th Annual Mother’s Day Good Festival Weekend

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Is it us or does your mother love Jahiem? If you’re on the East Coast, you can treat her to his concert. Spend this Mother’s Day at the Barclay’s Center in Brooklyn with your mom while enjoying acts she’ll absolutely love (and you shamelessly love too). Jaheim, Monica, Joe, Avant, Raheem DeVaughn with special guest star Ashanti headline night one while Erykah Badu and H.E.R will command the stage on the day two. Tickets star at $ 50. Get them, here.

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Flowers never get old and it’s not too late to send them. And depending where you are located, ProFlowers has a 50% discount on Groupon. Get 62% off at FTD.com. All of which will help with that overnight shipping you’re going to need (so judgement, life comes at you fast).

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Mom works hard; reward her with a trip to the spa. Groupon almost always offers discounts to local spas, so check your city’s listings to see what might be available. Tiffany Haddish was right – you can score some great Mother’s Day deals there.

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But not just any makeup, Pat McGrath makeup. Support Black business and Black entrepreneurship when you gift mom with Pat McGrath makeup. It may be too late to order online in time for Mother’s Day, but you’re in luck because Pat McGrath’s makeup is available in your local Sephora.

A Gift Bag With Her Favorite Movies

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Most of all, moms just went to spend time with you. Pick up her favorite movies from Wal-Mart or order on Amazon using Prime and spend the day watching your mom’s favorite flicks. You can order out and save some money while building invaluable memories.

If all else fails, you can always put on your best and attend that 11 a.m. service with mom. It’s the little things that matter.


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Emma Thompson got a little help from fellow mothers Tina Fey and Amy Poehler during the Mother’s Day episode of “Saturday Night Live” she hosted on May 11. Thompson brought the former “SNL” cast members out during her monologue to help teach the audience how to decipher “mother-speak.” The trio kicked things off by pointing […]

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Gift Ideas for Mother’s Day: Reader Favorites

If you haven’t bought your mom a Mother’s Day gift yet (or a gift for any mother you’re buying for this year), we figured you could use a post today on gift ideas for Mother’s Day. We drew from our post “What Things Do You Own That You Heartily Recommend As Gift Ideas?” from late last year — and if you haven’t seen it, definitely check out the comments for some great ideas for any occasion, in all sorts of categories.

This year, we’re getting my mom a ticket to Hamilton for a combination birthday/Mother’s Day gift (and that option was mentioned several times in the gift ideas post linked above). My mom, my husband, and I are actually going on Mother’s Day, which wasn’t really on purpose but will be nice.

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Before we get to our reader recommendations, here are some suggestions from some of the Corporette/CorporetteMoms team for moms of various ages/stages:

Kate: A class you can take together, theater tickets gift certificate, a book t-shirt (example) from Out of Print ($ 28, XS–3X)
Kat: Caudalíe lip conditioner ($ 12), Nixplay WiFi picture frame ($ 149–$ 289) 
Rebecca: Letters to My Baby ($ 6–$ 14), birthstone jewelry, baby handprint/footprint kit, spa gift card

And now, here are several reader favorites that make great Mother’s Day gift ideas: 

Mother’s Day Gift Ideas – Category: Clothing

Pictured: Short Sleeve Sharkbite Hem Pajama Tee & Grosgrain Trim Crop Pajama Pants

We’ve recommended Soma’s Cool Nights sleepwear line before — Kat mentioned it in pajamas for grownups, for one — and several readers have praised them in the comments over the years. They’re designed to be soft, comfortable, and breathable, and to feel cool against your skin. (Note: These are nice for any mom but are especially good for older women you know who are going through perimenopause/menopause.) The line offers separates, sleepshirts, chemises, nightgowns, and robes in sizes XS–XXL. Prices range from $ 21 (sale price) to $ 78; the pictured tee and pants are each $ 38. Online orders may not make it in time (unless you pay $ 16.95 for two-day shipping); otherwise, visit one of the 300 Soma stores in the U.S.

Other Reader Recommendations for Clothing Gifts:

Barefoot Dreams Circle Cardigan ($ 77-$ 116) (also at Amazon)
Gap’s Softspun line ($ 24–$ 79)
Lululemon leggings ($ 98–$ 148)
Pottery Barn classic terry bathrobe ($ 95)

Mother’s Day Gift Idea – Category: Beauty

Pictured: Kiehl’s Creme de Corps lotion

Another reader favorite is Kiehl’s Creme de Corps line, and this is the body lotion from that collection. It moisturizes with cocoa butter and sesame oil and is paraben-free and not tested on animals. (Check out our post on readers’ favorite cruelty-free beauty products.) It’s a bit pricey; at Nordstrom, prices range from $ 11–$ 78 for 2.5- to 33.8-oz. sizes. (Right now there’s a Gift with Purchase — four samples — with a Kiehl’s purchase of $ 85+ at Nordstrom.) It is also available at Sephora at the same price range.

Other Reader Recommendations for Beauty Gifts:
Ice roller (example: StackedSkincare ice roller, $ 30)
Aquis hair towels ($ 30–$ 45)
Amika Polished Perfection Straightening Brush ($ 120)

Mother’s Day Gift Ideas – Category: Kitchen  

Pictured: Cuisinart 5-in-1 Griddler

If you know a mom who likes kitchen gadgets but doesn’t have many — or doesn’t have a lot of room for them in her kitchen — the Cuisinart Griddler would be a great option. It can be use as a contact grill, panini press, full grill, full griddle, and half grill/half griddle. The nonstick cooking plates are removable and reversible — and dishwasher-safe! Amazon has several Griddler models available; scroll down on each product page to see a chart comparing the one you’re viewing to three other models. Cuisinart’s website has more details on the options, as well as videos. The pictured model is $ 65.99 at Amazon and eligible for Prime.

Other Reader Recommendations for Kitchen Gifts:
Quarter sheets (baking sheets) (example: Nordic Ware Quarter Sheet, $ 22.99 for 2)
Emile Henry pie dishes ($ 27–$ 55)
Swiss Diamond nonstick frying pan ($ 59–$ 109)

Mother’s Day Gift Ideas – Category: Books 

Pictured: Educated by Tara Westover

This book, which was published in 2018, has racked up the accolades: It was a finalist for awards from the National Book Critics Circle, was one of the New York Times Book Review‘s 10 Best Books of 2018, and was an Amazon Editors’ pick for the Best Book of 2018 — just to name a few. It even made Barack Obama’s “Favorite Books of the Year” list. And of the almost 7,000 (!) reviews at Amazon, 92% are 4- or 5-star. The hardcover is $ 14 at Amazon, and the paperback is $ 20; both are eligible for Prime.

Other Reader Recommendations for Gifts of Books:
Becoming by Michelle Obama ($ 13 hardcover at Amazon)
Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng ($ 16 hardcover at Amazon)
Subscription to Audible ($ 14.95/month; cancel anytime) or Scribd ($ 8.99/month; cancel anytime) 

Mother’s Day Gift Ideas – Category: Home

Pictured: Kennebunk Bliss Plush Throw from Nordstrom at Home

This very popular throw blanket at Nordstrom is 50″ x 60″ and is easy-care — machine wash, tumble dry. It’s available in tons of colors (25, to be exact — including olive green, teal, and dark gray), has an average customer review (from 1,000+ reviews) that is close to 5 stars, and is $ 39.50. Nordstrom’s two-day shipping is a reasonable $ 12.

Other Reader Recommendations for Home Gifts: 
Society6 throw pillows ($ 29) (and trays and more!)
Pottery Barn PB Classic sheets ($ 83–$ 159)
Woolrich blankets/throws ($ 89-$ 175)

What are you getting your mother and/or the mothers in your life this year? What gifts have you given for Mother’s Day that have gone over well in the past?

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This Sunday marks Mother’s Day 2019. Not only do we honor the beautiful women who gave us life—but we honor the figures in our lives who nurtured us; be they mentors, teachers, godmothers, aunts, or anyone who stepped into the role and has looked out for our well-being with unrivaled strength and wisdom. Mothers of color in particular often go that extra mile, making whatever sacrifices they need to ensure that their young charges not only survive but thrive. What better way to honor the mothers in your life, and also help support some mompreneurs, than by shopping for Mama from this comprehensive Mother’s Day gift guide. Simply click on the category or image to pull up a list of each black-owned business collection.


 

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Scouted: This Mother’s Day, Get Real and Update Your Mom’s Tech, From Wearables to Doorbells and More

Mother’s Day gifts are hard to figure out unless you stop and consider all the way you could take your mom’s tech to the next level. From what’s in her home to what’s on her person, there are many products that are affordable, functional, and stylish and that will help her in the modern age.

Google and Amazon Smart Home Assistants, $ 29 to $ 100: Whether her home leans Amazon or Google, it’s high time you invested in your mom’s ability to utilize the best smart assistants have to offer. And with increasing competition between the two smart device behemoths Amazon and Google, you’ve got competitive and similar pricing, both of them reducing prices on all the devices. While a $ 100 full-sized Google Home or Amazon Echo is a great deal, you can certainly start her off with a more affordable $ 30 Google Home Mini or Amazon Echo Dot.

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Naomie Harris thrilled to return to her mother’s home country for Bond 25

OHMYGOSSIP — Naomie Harris says it’s “amazing” to be able to shoot ‘Bond 25’ in Jamaica because it is her mother’s home country.
It was confirmed on Thursday (25.04.19) that the 42-year-old actress will reprise her role as Eve Moneypenny for a third time in the new 007 adventure alongside returning cast members Ralph Fiennes, Rory Kinnear, Lea Seydoux, Ben Whishaw, Jeffrey Wright and Daniel Craig – who is playing the British spy for the fifth and final time.
The movie will begin with Bond off active service and living a tranquil life in Jamaica and shooting is already underway.
‘Skyfall’ star Naomie revealed that her family “went crazy” when she told them she’d be returning to the franchise and says they’re “so excited” that the movie is being filmed on the Caribbean island because it is where he mother was born and grew up before she emigrated to London.
Speaking during a live Q&A announcing the cast and confirming shooting is underway, Naomie said: “All I thought about was my family actually I just thought, ‘Oh they’re gonna go crazy.’ And they did go crazy, they threw a massive party and it’s been like a whole celebration. It’s not like I just got the job it’s like the whole family got the job and they’re so excited about it, they’re all huge Bond fans, it means so much to all of us. They’re all so excited because it’s happening here [Jamaica]. I’m Jamaican, that’s where my roots are from, so it’s amazing that it’s being launched here, so amazing.”
The film’s producer Barbara Broccoli added that its “incredible” to be shooting in the country where James Bond author Ian Fleming, lived when he created the iconic character.
She said: “It’s incredible to be here this is where James Bond was created 57 years ago.”
The film will see Bond return to the same beach that featured in 1963’s ‘Dr No’ and 1973’s ‘Live and Let Die’.
Other locations for filming include London, Italy, Norway and Pinewood Studios.

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Ashanti, Ciara, H.E.R. To Honor Moms On VH1 Mother’s Day Special

VH1’s annual Dear Mama: A Love Letter to Mom returns May 6 with special performances and tributes from artists including Ashanti and H.E.R. Both will take the stage to sing and shout out their mothers who have shaped their massive career success.

Ciara, on behalf of #SeeHer, will honor deserving moms who have helped spread the group’s mission of increasing representation of women and girls in advertising and media, Billboard reports.

 

Additional talent will be announced in the coming weeks.

A-listers who have honored the leading ladies in their lives at past “Dear Mama” events include Alicia Keys, Will Smith, Halle Berry, Queen Latifah, Mary J. Blige, Ludacris, DJ Khaled, Kelly Rowland, Robin Thicke, Chris Paul and Maxwell.

Dear Mama: A Love Letter to Mom will take place at The Theatre at the Ace Hotel in downtown Los Angeles and will air on May 6 at 10 p.m. ET/PT on VH1.

In related news, Ashanti is recently opened up about death of her friend and beloved rapper Nipsey Hussle, who was shot and killed on March 31 outside his clothing store in South Los Angeles.

“I’m still little bit in disbelief,” Ashanti shared in a recent interview with ET Live. “Going to the funeral, I think it shocked me a little bit and it became a reality, seeing the casket on the stage. It was like everyone stood back like, ‘This really happened,’ and it just shows you that life is so short and so precious.”

She also recalled his support through her recent battle with an illness, which delayed their plans of hitting the studio together to work on new material.

“Nip was always helpful. It’s funny because I was looking at some of the last texts that we had, and I was recording at his studio and was like, ‘Nip, I don’t think I’m gong to make it tonight. I have allergies, I’m sneezing, I got a headache,’” she shared. “He was like, ‘Oh I got these herbs that are really good for you! I know where you can get some good stuff!’ And he was sending me links and like, ‘Sis, I got you, you gotta try this.’ And it just made me sad because he was such an amazing spirit. His heart was pure and he was always willing to help and always really positive.”

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Celebrate the working mothers of hip hop this Women’s History Month

Celebrate the working mothers of hip hop this Women’s History Month


Celebrate the working mothers of hip hop this Women’s History Month

In honor of Women’s History Month, HG contributor DeMicia Inman honors the women, past and present, who incorporate motherhood into their rap careers.

Women are often forced to choose between having a career and having a family. Our patriarchal society makes succeeding on either path difficult, and in any industry, pregnancy is viewed as the end of a woman’s chances for professional success. For Black women, just surviving pregnancy is a feat in itself. The Center for American Progress reports, “African American women are three to four times more likely to die from childbirth than non-Hispanic white women, and socioeconomic status, education, and other factors do not protect against this disparity. Instead, sexism and racism are primary drivers.”

In spite of this discrimination, working mothers break barriers on a daily basis, and women in the hip hop industry have their own special set of parameters when striving for success.

For starters, moms and dads live two different lives in hip hop.

When men rap about women, they are able to treat them as disposable in lyrics dripping in misogyny and insolence. When they become fathers, however, all transgressions are forgiven with one or two songs about how they did not view women as people until the birth of their daughter. But since women are supposed to be the primary caregivers in our society, being a mother and having a rap career is seemingly out of the question. As is the case in any industry, it is believed that successful women should not have children until after their career peaks.

But when it comes to motherhood and hip hop, these ladies have broken the mold.


One of the most dominant rappers in the industry today is a woman and a mother: Cardi B.

Cardi B’s swift takeover of hip hop and pop music did not slow down once she and husband, rapper Offset, announced daughter Kulture to the world—despite what people predicted on social media. In one of Cardi B’s recent uploaded-and-deleted Instagram videos, which she shared after becoming the first woman in history to win Best Rap Album at the 61st Grammy Awards, the “Bodak Yellow” rapper expressed the fact that many people counted her out when they learned of her pregnancy.

After growing tired of the backlash stemming from her historic win, a visually frustrated Cardi B took to the social media app and said, “[I] locked myself in the studio for three months my ni**a…didn’t sleep in my own bed. Sometimes for four days straight. Pregnant! Some songs couldn’t even get on the fucking album ‘cause my nose was so fuckin’ stuffy from my pregnancy…while everybody was harassing like, you not gonna do it, we know you pregnant, your career is over. That shit dwelling in my fucking mind while I’m working.”

Cardi B at SNL
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Typically unabashed, the rapper had initially shied away from announcing her pregnancy, and as shown above, it was for good reason. Once she revealed her pregnancy on Saturday Night Live, the pressures of motherhood doubled while the spotlight on Cardi B continued to grow. In her June 2018 interview with Rolling Stone, Cardi said that she briefly considered abortion because of beliefs that a baby could ruin her career. In an April 2018 interview with The Breakfast Club radio show, Cardi explained that she knew she had the means to support herself and her baby, adding “Why do I gotta choose a career or a baby? Why can’t I have both? I want both.” 

Despite these naysayers, Cardi B continues to prove that any ideas of motherhood hindering her career are only myths, and she incorporates this new role into her art. The rapper’s Coachella debut featured a glowing and pregnant Cardi twerking in all of her glory, her baby bump made appearances on magazine covers, in TV performances, and on red carpets, and Cardi even breastfed baby Kulture during her video for “Money.”

The Grammy-winning rapper is not alone when it comes to balancing motherhood with hip hop success. Contemporary rappers Bbymutha, Rico Nasty, and Yung Miami all share their different experiences navigating motherhood and rap careers.

Whether through intimate documentaries or precise lyricism, these women offer refreshing perspectives in the genre, proving that young Black motherhood has no limits.

Queen of the sugar trap, Rico Nasty’s refreshing presence in hip hop goes beyond her effervescent style of music. While the Nasty rapper often shares photos of her son, Cam, on social media, the world really got to witness Rico Nasty, mother, during her Countin’ Up documentary with FADER. We see that, for Rico, touring means constant calls back home to catch up with Cam, and she prefaces her pregnancy story with a strong “Whew child!” before going into details of heartbreak and tenacity. Following the death of her child’s father before his birth, Rico Nasty explains in the doc how she was determined to succeed:

“You either die or you keep going, that’s it. You don’t have no other option. The world don’t stop. Your job don’t stop. Your kids don’t stop. Money don’t stop…don’t nothing fucking stop unless you stop.”

Underground rapper Bbymutha embraces motherhood not only in her stage name, but through her art.

Bbymutha as a name itself challenges the negative implications of being a “baby mother” by proudly proclaiming it. The Chattanooga artist has two sets of twins, and the children have even made appearances on Bbymutha’s projects. During a recent interview with The Washington Post, Bbymutha revealed how her children impact her art and how she combats feelings of being a bad parent:

“Most of the time, I don’t really look at them as children. I look at them as people and I look at them as extensions of art. So when it comes to making my music, of course I include them in that…”

The rapper added, “You get told so many times in your life after you have kids that it’s all you’re ever going to be.”

When multiple women in hip hop succeed, it is still considered a rarity, which is why we must celebrate it. In addition to all the women currently making their mark in rap, these aforementioned mothers are also pushing an envelope that had been signed and sealed in past decades. Female rappers of the ’80s, ’90s, and early ’00s have also shared their experience of having children and a music career.

In a 2018 interview with Oprah magazine, Bronx rapper Remy Ma reflected on how the music industry influenced her desire for children. “[F]or female artists, it’s on a whole different level. We’re supposed to be seen as sex symbols. You’re told to appear single so people want you and desire you. All of these things are stuck into your head by the industry. So when you’re in the limelight, it takes a special kind of woman to say ‘I don’t care what anybody says.’”

In the same article, Remy shared her struggles to conceive a second child after experiencing ectopic pregnancy and miscarriage during the filming of Love & Hip Hop: New York, on which she appears with husband, rapper Papoose.  Since then, Remy became pregnant again and the couple welcomed their baby girl, a self-proclaimed “Golden Child,” into the world in December 2018.

Lauryn Hill’s groundbreaking, Grammy award-winning solo album of 1998, The Miseducation Of Lauryn Hill, features the song “To Zion.” The song joyfully celebrates Hill’s first son (she would go on to have six children) and references industry pressures that tried to convince her to delay motherhood: “I knew his life deserved a chance / But everybody told me to be smart / Look at your career they said / Lauryn, baby use your head / But instead I chose to use my heart.”

With a bright future in rap and R&B in the late ’90s, the saga ended after Miseducation; Hill is still hailed as one of rap’s greatest, but she never released another album. When discussing her decision to stop recording music, she told NPR in 2010, “…partly, the support system that I needed was not necessarily in place.”

In 1990, Pepa of all-female rap trio Salt-N-Pepa gave birth to her first son. That year, Salt-N-Pepa was also among hip hop’s biggest stars with the release of their platinum album Blacks’ Magic. This was followed by a 1992 Grammy nomination for Best Rap Performance by a Duo or Group for the song, “Let’s Talk About Sex.” Soon, all three members had become mothers, but their commercial success continued. In 1995, their fourth studio album Very Necessary earned them hit after hit with “Shoop,” “Whatta Man,” and the sexual freedom anthem, “None Of Your Business.” The latter resulted in their first Grammy win, making the three mothers the first women in rap to take home the gold.

In their April 1995 cover story with Jet, group members Salt, Pepa, and DJ Spinderella revealed that being mothers meant no more shortcuts in their career. “With children, we have to think about the future because you have someone depending on you,” said Salt.

Pepa added, “Now we have to be in control. It’s coming to a realization that this career, this life is yours. You have to do what you have to do and take no shortcuts.”

Salt N Pepa at 37th Grammy Awards
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What women like Remy, Lauryn, and Salt-N-Pepa did—and what women like Cardi B, Rico Nasty, and Bbymutha continue to do—is make space for other women so that motherhood will not defer their dreams. Mothers in hip hop can encourage industry standards to change, and through their music, they will flip the script in a male-dominated industry. These women prove that having a child and a career in rap is not only possible, but worth celebrating.

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