‘You’re the Worst’ Final Season: Can TV’s Funniest ‘Anti-Rom-Com’ Really End in Wedded Bliss?

This Wednesday night’s fifth and final season premiere of You’re the Worst opens with a meet-cute at a video rental store between two characters we’ve never met before.

The guitar on the soundtrack and posters on the wall for Speed, The Full Monty and Independence Day—as well as the fact that we’re in a video rental store—let us know that we’re somewhere in the mid-to-late ’90s. “Where’s Space Jam?” one customer asks Jake, a grungy clerk who prefers French New Wave over Hollywood new releases. The romance begins when a young film student enters the store and bonds with him over their shared love of obscure cinema.

Their story, which at first has seemingly nothing to do with the couple at the center of this FXX series, moves through loving homages to movies like Empire Records and Notting Hill before arriving at its unambiguously happy ending. And it was all part of creator Stephen Falk’s attempt to see if he could pull off a classic romantic comedy.

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What men really think about dating apps

From Bumble to Tinder, there’s a whole host of dating apps at our fingertips. But with so much choice on offer, are they helping or hindering us in our quest to find The One? Writer Josh Glancy explores digital dating dilemmas

I was on holiday in Mexico recently with a beautiful, and perennially single, female friend; let’s call her Lauren. We drank Coronas, ate emulsified ants, and visited Mescal distilleries nestled in the hills above Oaxaca. It was a joyous week.

One thing bothered me, though. At every stop, Lauren insisted on having her photo taken – by a cactus, with a donkey, making tortillas. The purpose was not to service her Instagram, but a quest for the perfect Bumble profile pic. This quixotic obsession got me worrying about the effects of app dating and how it’s warping our romantic priorities. Lauren is one side of the coin, anxious and questing, but myself and many men are on the other. I’ve become convinced that dating apps are making many men miserable.

It seems counter-intuitive. What could possibly be wrong with having an endless supply of beautiful women available at the merest swipe of a thumb? 
Sex-infused dating is now more accessible than ever.  We are no longer limited by the confines of our immediate social circle or what bar we happen to be in. I recently attended the wedding of a couple who would never have met without an algorithm to introduce them. Two people from utterly different worlds who now seem ideally matched. It was thrilling to behold. But by solving one problem, apps like Hinge, Bumble, Happn and Tinder have created another. Men are suffering from the complacency of easy access and the tyranny of endless choice.

At a men’s group I sometimes attend in Brooklyn, several guys have complained of how app dating is making them feel worthless. They describe their sex lives as a parade of unsatisfying mini-affairs, their bedposts filled with notches, their hearts empty of love.

What could possibly be wrong with having an endless supply of beautiful women available at the merest swipe of a thumb?

They spoke of being unable to resist the temptation to indulge their libido – which is now so effortless – but of feeling an emptiness during and after these affairs. A niggling fear that they’ve lost the art of finding or maintaining a meaningful relationship. ‘I don’t want to keep fucking different girls every week,’ one of them told me. ‘I just want someone I can be myself with.’

Apps are encouraging men’s worst instincts. Why commit to one relationship when there are so many other potential mates out there? Why be monogamous when promiscuity is so damn easy? Why judge a girl on the deep facets of her personality when you can make
 a snap decision based on the symmetry of her face?

This was my experience of app dating, too, which I tried when I first came to New York. I could feel myself slipping into a superficial, acquisitive mindset, casually dismissing some girls and pining for others based simply on how much cleavage they showed in their profile picture. I hated it and deleted the apps, permanently. I preferred dating the old-fashioned way.

Women such as Lauren – and men, too – have internalised this reality. The shallow among us may enjoy this dynamic, but for many it is unsatisfying. While most men have a voice in their head urging them to sleep with as many women as possible, the truth is promiscuity isn’t for everyone. The most promiscuous periods of my life have often been the least happy.

I have nothing against promiscuity. If you want to shag till you drop, go for it. But now that dating apps are a permanent reality – transforming the way we meet and mate – it’s time we acknowledged this paradox: the more convenient finding love becomes, the more difficult it is to sustain. We’ll be much happier for it.

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Now It Really Looks Like Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth Got Married

(LOS ANGELES) — Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth appear to have tied the knot amid reports the couple got married in a secret wedding ceremony.

Cyrus posted three black-and-white photos of her and Hemsworth on the singer’s Instagram and Twitter accounts on Wednesday. She captioned her photos writing “10 years later …” and “12.23.18,” possibly indicating the day they exchanged vows.

The 26-year-old Cyrus shared another photo of her and Hemsworth kissing. He also posted a photo of them with words “My love.”

In each picture, Cyrus is dressed in all-white while the 28-year-old actor is wearing a tuxedo with white shoes.

Cyrus and Hemsworth’s representatives did not immediately respond to an email requesting comment.

The couple reconnected in 2015 after an on-and-off relationship. They both starred in the 2010 romantic drama “The Last Song.”


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Last week Nas and Swizz Beatz linked up for a mesmerizing visual in “Echo” and today the Queensbridge king returns to assist The Black Eyed Peas on one of their tracks.

In the CGI backed visuals to “BACK 2 HIPHOP” the three man group don old school Hip-Hop clothes and gold while Nas’s verse features a rapping sphinx a la I Am…’s album cover. Pretty clever way to include Nas in the video.

Lil Jon meanwhile comes out of hiding and links up with Kool-Aid Man to get in the Christmas spirit in the clip to “All I Really Want For Christmas.” Whose idea was this?!

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The critics who hated the Dick Cheney biopic ‘Vice’ really, really hated it

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When it comes to Adam McKay’s VICE, critics are on very different sides of the (theater) aisle. 

Despite early and persistent Oscar buzz (the film scored six Golden Globe noms), the Dick Cheney biopic has received a fairly mixed first wave of critical reception. While some laud the film as cleverly biting, others have denounced it as a clumsy display of political hatred.

Starring Christian Bale, Sam Rockwell, and Amy Adams, VICE uses a nonlinear structure to walk audiences through the political career of “the most powerful vice president” in modern American history. Touching on Cheney’s rise to national politics and yes, his involvement in the Iraq War, VICE paints a controversial portrait of an even more controversial figure. Read more…

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Do you really think it’s ok to tell me how to get pregnant?

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It’s funny (and by that I don’t mean the laugh-out-loud kind), isn’t it? That your own body is never really your own. When you’re getting married, you’re asked if you’re going to get into shape for the big day – no one ever asks the husband that one, mind – and virtually as soon as you walk down the aisle, you’re asked when you’re going to start a family.

And let me tell you, it gets even worse the moment you tell people you’re TTC – that’s trying to conceive by the way, your vocabulary opens to a whole new world of abbreviations when you’re TTC with your OH.

To be fair, it was my own fault for telling anyone, but in my defence, I believed it would get people off my back a little if I told them we were at least trying. Except, it only worked for a few months before the advice (mostly unsolicited) started pouring in again.

The thing that surprised me the most is how opinionated everyone is, and although it is never meant in a mean way, it’s f*****g grating is what it is. To give you a few examples…

‘Well you should probably put on a bit of weight’ – you would never tell someone to put on/lose weight in normal circumstances, would you? Also the only person who I trust to tell me about my weight here is my doctor, and she says it’s fine

‘No wonder it’s not happening, you’re hardly ever in the same country’ – myself and my husband do travel a lot for work, but trust me, we know how to make a baby, thanks captain obvious

‘You should stress less, because you know stress doesn’t help’ – you know what’s definitely not stressful? Someone asking for updates all the time. Or telling you not to stress.

‘So, is has anything happened? *wink wink*’ – Yeah we’re just keeping it secret for the lolz

‘Honestly, having a baby is so much more work than you think, I’m not trying to put you off, but…’ – you’re right, i’ve changed my mind, let’s cancel the baby making

‘Well your mum took a while to conceive, so you might have the same issues’ – again helpful

‘Oh, well I wouldn’t worry about it, some people takes aaaages to get pregnant, you’ve got lots of time’ – nope, not worried about it, thanks though

‘Well you’d better hurry, I don’t want to die before I’ve met my first great-grandchild’ – no pressure. At all.

The thing is, whether we are worried about it or not, it’s just not ok to comment on such personal matters, because you never know what people are going through. In the meantime, the next time someone offers up some words of wisdom, I’ll ask them exactly which sex position they think is best.

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Does Trump Really Want the Border Wall?

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President Trump is once again demanding cash to build his border wall. But does he really want it? Like, really?

Immigration will dominate the conversation as Congress heads into session for what promises to be one of the least lame, lame duck sessions in recent memory. The spark: a confrontation between U.S. Customs and Border Patrol and migrants at the border in Tijuana on Sunday afternoon escalated to a point where tear gas was shot into the crowd of migrants—including women and children.

The president immediately used the incident to fuel his push for the wall—a refrain that will likely become deafening as the Dec. 7 deadline to fund the government looms closer. But there are indications that he’d rather fight over the wall than actually get the thing up.

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7 Black Friday Shoppers Tell Us What They Really Plan to Spend for Holidays

Cyber Monday still hasn’t killed Black Friday… at least not yet. This holiday season, it was estimated that 34 million people would shop in person on Thanksgiving Day, according to a survey by the National Retail Federation and Prosper Insights and Analytics. For Black Friday, that number was estimated at 116 million shoppers. And according to the survey, the average amount spent on holiday purchases will be a not-so-frugal $ 1,007.24. That’s 4.1% more than the average amount spent last year.

We decided to take our own kind of survey. It’s far from scientific, but we asked seven random shoppers why they gave up holiday time to search for deals in person. We also asked them about the best deal they found, and what their budgets are like this year. (We like budgets, after all.)

Here’s what they had to say.

1. Brittany Snyder shops at Target with her two children, Axel, 4, and Everleigh, 2, in Pinellas Park, Fla.

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Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

We were in the house all day for Thanksgiving with family over, so today we needed to take a little break and come outside and do some shopping and leave the messy house behind for a little bit. This is also my excuse to not clean up so quickly. I come out here and see everything. I normally get something for [the kids]. And when I get home, I’ll do the rest online. I like to be done with Christmas shopping by Monday.

What is the best deal you found today?

Every year, I always buy them clothes here. Everything’s just really cheap, so I won’t get upset if they get candy all over it. Their shirts, long sleeves, are $ 3.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

It was $ 77 for, I think, five shirts, two [pairs of] jeans, toys, candy. I’ll take it. 

2. Luis Valdez with his 8-year-old daughter, Sofia Valdez, at Best Buy in St. Petersburg, Fla.

Luis Valdez and his daughter Sofia Valdez, 8, both of St. Petersburg, Fla., stand in line to purchase TVs at Best Buy on Thanksgiving day on Nov. 22, 2018.

Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

I like to see what I’m getting. I don’t like to wait for things to come.

What is the best deal you found today?

The Samsung 65-inch TV for $ 599. It’s a good, quality TV for a good price.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

Under $ 1,000 for just two TVs and a phone.

3. Joanna Gregg, right, with her daughter Aydrian, 16, at Target in Pinellas Park, Fla.

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Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

I pretty much do all of my shopping here, other than a couple of items. All of my grocery shopping, everything, I can do at Target. I still like to touch everything and see everything in person. And I’d still rather give the stores the business than do a ton of online shopping. I want the stores to be here.

What is the best deal you found today?

Probably the iPhone deals with the gift card. They’re better than the actual carrier’s discounts. That’s what we’re here for. We’re waiting to get an iPhone 8 and a $ 150 gift card, zero down on the phone. The $ 150 gift card is worth being here for.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

I don’t really have a budget. Probably with reason, I’ll spend about $ 1,000. We’re probably at about half of that right now, which is good. 

4. Nitya Pendyala, 14, left, and her sister, Shari Pendyala, 8, with their father, Sri Pendyala, not pictured, at Best Buy in St. Petersburg, Fla.

Nitya Pendyala, 14, left, and her sister Shari Pendyala, 8, both of Pinellas Park, Fla., shop for movies on Thanksgiving day at Best Buy on on Nov. 22, 2018. S

Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

I guess we just wanted to go to the store. It’s interesting.

What is the best deal you found today?

The best deal I’ve found today are these movies: “Avengers: Infinity War,” “Black Panther” and “Coco.” They are $ 6.99.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

Not much. Under $ 500.

5. Lakeisha Carroll, left, shopping with her niece, Ceasia Moore, at Target in Pinellas Park, Fla.

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Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

I’m going to do both. Right now, we’re going to do little things. And on Cyber Monday, we’re going to do electronics. I went yesterday [on Thanksgiving Day], but it was kind of crowded. I thought today was going to be the better blockbuster, but yesterday was the better blockbuster.

What is the best deal you found today?

This Fisher Price [Smart Home] I got for $ 30 cheaper than I saw in the competing store. Also, this Honda Ride On [Electric Bike]. The Fisher Price is $ 99 here. It was $ 129.99 at the competing store. The Honda Ride On was $ 59. The original price was $ 69.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

Budget for toys: not over $ 500. Cyber Monday, I’ve got a little bit more of a budget.

6. James Granger at Best Buy in St. Petersburg, Fla.

James Granger of St. Petersburg, Fla., drags his new 65 inch TV to a register at Best Buy on Thanksgiving day on Nov. 22, 2018.

Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

I’m out shopping in person because I was in the area, and I thought I could get a better deal.

What is the best deal you found today?

This TCL TV for $ 400. I’ve been eying all the Black Friday deals. It was a doorbuster for Walmart and Target, but for some reason, I found it here for the same price and they didn’t have it as a doorbuster.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

I plan to spend about $ 800. I’m buying a TV, a Samsung watch for my mom and a scooter thing for a kid — and it comes out to $ 800 altogether.

7. Jennifer Meyers with her son, Kaden, 3, at The International Plaza Mall in Tampa, Fla.

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Why are you out shopping in person, rather than online?

Well, we don’t have a mall where we live, because we live on a tiny little island. So we wanted to see crowds and all of the decorations and all of the excitement. We live on St. Simons Island. We do some [shopping] online and some in the stores, just figure out what we need and the best deals we can find.

What is the best deal you found today?

The Disney Store had a lot of different things — animals, costumes for the different movies that they like. We were able to get a themed present, which they like, [for] about $ 50 each, two kids about $ 100. Probably full price, we would have spent $ 100 [or] $ 150 per kid. So it was definitely worth the sales.

How much money do you plan to spend during Black Friday?

Really, [I’m] just figuring out who I need what for and figuring out the best deals I can find. Stuff that they will like. [I don’t] really have a budget.

Sharon Steinmann (Instagram @sharonsteinmann) is the chief photographer at The Penny Hoarder. Chris Zuppa (Instagram @chris.zuppa) is the senior photographer. Both would rather photograph on Black Friday than shop.

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Hypnotherapy: can it really help you drink in moderation?

Shots and shiraz may have fuelled her twenties, but now Nicola Moyne is on a quest to banish the booze. Here, she discovers if the power of hypnosis is more potent than the festive pull of pinot

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As a child of the 80s, my teenage years were a blur of WKD Blues and garage music. A minimum of four nights a week were spent in small-town bars or kaleidoscopic-lit clubs, swigging alcopops and cheap, vinegary wine to the dance-floor beats of Artful Dodger and Bobby Brown. Regular blackouts prevented me (sometimes thankfully) from remembering the night before and no matter how many times I staggered or slurred, I always wanted ‘one more glass’.

Fast-forward to my mid-thirties and drinking had become, not unsurprisingly, a habitual nightly routine. One large glass of red with dinner had slowly morphed into two. Soon enough I was able to quaff an entire bottle, and decanting Tesco’s finest Malbec (my middle-class poison of choice) on a Monday evening had become as natural as brushing my teeth in the morning – as had sleepwalking my way through the following day in a foggy, hungover haze.

Then there were ‘the incidents’: the nights out where I drank myself into oblivion with other hard-drinking friends and had to be helped home by kind strangers on the train. Invariably, I remembered nothing from the evening past my third glass, but I always woke fully clothed, feeling ashamed, anxious and demonstrably sick. Some mornings I realised that I had fallen and cut my knee/chin/elbow; others that I no longer had my purse/phone/coat. I tried drinking gin instead, but it turns out that’s addictive too. Something had to give.

It proved a timely decision: last month, a report published by the World Health Organization found 13.5 per cent of all deaths among people in their twenties are linked to alcohol. Similarly, a recent study by the Global Burden of Diseases has concluded that ‘the safest level of drinking is none.’

But the thought of never drinking again, of forgoing a flute of champagne to celebrate a birthday or having a glass of full-bodied red with friends over Sunday lunch once every so often didn’t feel right either. I wanted the holy grail: I wanted to be able to control how much and where and when I drank; I wanted to achieve moderation.

‘Unlike a lot of other therapies that tend to rake up the past, hypnotherapy provide a tool for positive change’

I turned to Ailsa Frank. A leading UK-based hypnotherapist and motivational coach with a proven track record in addressing the nation’s drinking problem, Ailsa has helped thousands of people to quit or drastically reduce their alcohol intake through the tool of hypnosis. More than 70 per cent of her clients initially seek help for alcohol-related problems and over the past 13 years, she has rolled out an increasing number of hypnotherapy workshops, one-to-one phone sessions and audio downloads to meet the growing demand. There’s also her book, Cut The Crap And Feel Amazing, which, rather incredibly, Ailsa wrote in just 10 weeks.

‘I used the power of self-hypnosis to write that,’ she laughs. ‘I literally told myself that I could do it; that I was doing; that it was done,’ and, day-by-day, I ploughed through the pages. Your mind is incredibly powerful and, unlike a lot of other therapies that just tend to rake up the past, hypnotherapy provides a real tool for positive change.’

So how does it work? ‘Memories, habits and patterns are stored in the subconscious part of your brain, so when you learn a habit – like tying your shoelaces when you’re a child – it becomes automatic. Learning to drink alcohol in a certain way is exactly the same thing, and it will become a deeply ingrained, automatic habit that’s hard to shift.’

In my first phone session with Ailsa, we spend 30 minutes discussing my life generally. Am I stressed at work? (Not particularly.) What hobbies do I have? (Too many to list here.) How often do I drink? (Usually every day.) Why do I want to stop? (To escape increasingly horrific hangovers, focus on my health and generally grow up a bit). Then we get down to business.

I’m asked to lie on my bed or sofa and switch my phone to loudspeaker or plug in headphones. I opt for the latter options and listen intently to Ailsa’s soothing voice, which instructs me to rub my arms from shoulder to elbow and fix my eyes on a comfortable spot on the ceiling. I’m then instructed to close my eyes and start counting backwards silently to myself as Ailsa starts the hypnosis part of the session. I’m vaguely aware of experiencing rapid eye movement as she asks me to visualise myself walking down a set of stairs and out on to a beautiful garden, where there’s a shimmering pond and stepping-stones bathed in different colours that lead to a winding road, presumably symbolising my life.

From here though, the details become a little fuzzy. I’m asked to visualise my worries as pebbles that I let go of by dropping into the pond; to see myself as a child in the garden, confident, playful, cared for; and to imagine doors to new opportunities opening up along the winding road to sobriety.

I’m not asleep – in fact I’m very aware of Ailsa’s voice throughout and what she asking me to visualise – but I am incredibly relaxed. I’m asked to convey what I’m thinking or feeling and we communicate on and off throughout the hour-long session. Afterwards, however, the details of what she has said to me are vague. I remember stepping-stones and roads and seeing a happy five-year-old version of myself, but nothing much in between.

‘If your conscious and subconscious minds don’t match, you won’t truly break the habit’

‘We are in a state of hypnosis at some point most days,’ Ailsa explains. ‘For instance, when you drive somewhere but can’t remember the journey itself or how you got there, or when you have absolutely no idea what junction you’re at – that’s because your brain has entered a hypnotic state.

‘Hypnotherapy is just a relaxation tool that allows you to access a memory bank – the part of your brain that stores habits – so that you can break them and build new ones. It is a way to clear up the deeper parts of your mind so that you can perform at your very best,’ she says.

Over the course of six weeks, I have two more one-to-one phone sessions with Ailsa, lasting 45-60 minutes each and listen to a 10-minute relaxation recording before bedtime each night. I even cajole my partner, Richard, into having two sessions with Ailsa to get us both on the same sobering page and break habitual evening drinking together (basically, I figure there’s safety in numbers).

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Initially, I’m skeptical about the feasibility of drinking in moderation. Going teetotal, I get: you’re eradicating temptation by taking yourself out of the game. But being able – let alone wanting – to drink just one glass of wine seems completely alien to me.

‘My clients tell me it’s the same feeling as having too many cups of tea – when you’re offered another one, you simply say you don’t fancy it because you genuinely don’t,’ Ailsa says, reassuringly.

Sure enough, after session one the mid-week drinking stops immediately. We’d both been trying to cut down on drinking alcohol after work prior to the sessions, but after having hypnotherapy, neither of us has to battle with ourselves as we pass the alcohol aisle in the supermarket.

‘Where hypnotherapy differs to will power is that it alters not only your conscious mind, but your subconscious too,’ Ailsa explains. ‘That’s why people who complete Dry January often struggle to keep up good habits once February rolls round – they may have altered their conscious mind, but they haven’t reframed their relationship with alcohol in the subconscious part of the brain – and if your conscious and subconscious minds don’t match, you won’t truly break the habit.’

I start to notice other small shifts. For instance, I start buying sparkling water and filling my usual wine glass with it of an evening to relax. It feels just the same as drinking wine, minus the fuzzy head and rambling conversations over dinner. I also start running more regularly and practicing yoga twice a week – a goal I’d worked towards for at least a year but never quite managed. I start eating healthier lunches and dinners, and getting up earlier, feeling refreshed and energised rather than shattered and slightly depressed. The change is noticeable and quite remarkable.

‘People forget just how good they feel when they don’t drink on a regular basis. If you have a daily drinking habit, you’re essentially always playing catch-up with yourself, which becomes exhausting and can have a huge detrimental effect on your career and relationships,’ Ailsa says.

However, the true test comes just after my third and final session: I’m going on a girl’s weekend. With my hard-drinking friends. To an undisclosed location. I start to panic that my new, wholesome habit of drinking very little and only in social situations when and if I fancy it, is going to come crashing down around my smug sober self faster than you can pour a glass of pinot.

Incredibly, though, it doesn’t happen. Not at the airport when everyone is joyously quaffing prosecco; not on the plane when everyone orders a cheeky bottle of Merlot; not even on the ‘big night out’ when the girls are merrily clinking their goblets of aperol spritz. And not because I’m forcing myself to stay off the booze or morosely sipping my one glass of shiraz while the rest of the revelers party up a storm, but because I’m genuinely having a great time without it. I feel happy, confident and completely content to just have the one, or even – shock, horror – none.

‘My once-toxic relationship with alcohol has gone through an unequivocal break-up’

I enjoy sipping a lovely glass of locally produced valpolicella with dinner each evening, and order a deliciously sharp gin cocktail at a swanky underground bar. But it’s clear that my once-toxic relationship with alcohol has gone through an unequivocal break-up.

Where once I would have ordered three large glasses of anything, now I savour a few sips of a good-quality red and want nothing more. I feel full and in control; like I’m sat at a table heaving with amazing food, but I’m completely content after a few delicious mouthfuls, favouring the sparkling water I now instinctively order instead. What’s more, I go for a morning run. Twice. On holiday.

Feeling refreshed and thrilled that I’ve finally mastered the art of drinking in moderation, I return to the UK half expecting my partner Richard to have cracked open a few beers while I’ve been away. ‘Beer?’ he says, slightly confused when I ask how he got on without me. ‘I was out sailing all weekend – I didn’t even have time to think about drinking,’ he admits.

Which pretty much sums up what Ailsa is trying to achieve with each and every one of her clients. ‘Life will always be a roller coaster – we all experience loss and stress, which is why so many people lose themselves in drinking at some point – but if we actively reframe our thoughts to look for the amazing, for the positives, we can create a happy, fulfilled, more balanced life; one where we always live in the best moment and enjoy passing through.’ That’s something I think we can all cheers to. Just make mine a sparkling water…

 

‘Take Control Of Alcohol’ and ‘Stop Binge Drinking For Women’ hypnosis downloads by Ailsa Frank are available at Ailsafrank.com at £14.99; Cut The Crap And Feel Amazing by Ailsa Frank (£10.99, Hay House) is a dip-in, no-nonsense guide to shedding habits that are holding you back. Utilising the power of positive thinking and self-hypnosis, the book delivers actionable tips on how to reframe your thoughts on everything from alcohol reduction and clearing debts to dealing with heartache and health. For one-to-one hypnotherapy phone sessions (£150 each; 2-4 required) contact Ailsa Frank via her website.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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If someone calls you a Neanderthal, don’t take it personally — it’s probably not your fault. Researchers had once thought the pre-humans disappeared because of competition from more evolved species. But a new study says it’s more likely due to the fact that their DNA became too diluted to have much of an effect on…
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This Actor Really Thought He Landed Leonardo DiCaprio’s Part in Titanic

If Matthew McConaughey had gotten his way, moviegoers would’ve been mourning a very different Jack at the end of Titanic.

During an appearance on Saturday’s episode of The Hollywood Reporter‘s Awards Chatter podcast, the 49-year-old actor revealed that he had gone out for the lead role in James Cameron’s 1998 Best Picture winner—and even thought he was a shoe-in—but ultimately lost out on the part to Leonardo DiCaprio.

“I wanted that,” he said. “I auditioned with Kate Winslet. Had a good audition. Walked away from there pretty confident that I had it. I didn’t get it. I never got offered that.”

But it seems like McConaughey ultimately wasn’t too fazed by by the missed opportunity because he got to keep living it up while starring in high-paying rom-coms. “I was also living on a beach and going out without my shirt on, just like I did before I was famous,” he said of his life during that time. “I was living a romantic comedy.”


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Travel blogs that are really great reads

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Do you love traveling as much as we do? There really is no better feeling than jumping on an airplane and letting the pilot take you to a brand new destination where you can check out the local cuisine, get to grips with the biggest attractions, and expand your horizons. The world really is your oyster. Of course, traveling the world one country at a time can be difficult if you work full-time, and you have to make the most out of your vacation days and your weekends. But if you struggle to make it through the day without thinking about travel-related-tidbits, you’ll love these travel blogs that are really great reads…

Nomadic Matt

Nomadic Matt is perhaps one of the biggest and most successful travel bloggers in the world. As if that wasn’t cool enough, he’s also written a book that has made its way onto the New York Times best-seller list! After making his way into the world of full-time work and using all of his free time to see more of the world, Matt eventually decided to take the plunge, give up his job, and travel the world full-time. He has since been traveling for over a decade and uses his blog to show off his adventures, provide fans with travel tips, and even help them plan their own traveling adventure on a budget.

Alex in Wonderland

Do you ever just find yourself dreaming of a travel experience? Well, you’re not alone. That’s exactly what Alex went through while she was living and studying in Brooklyn. After growing tired of her everyday life, she decided that enough was enough and bought a one-way ticket abroad. Since then, she has spent six years traveling the globe and seeing what each new destination has to offer. Her travel blog is all about getting the most about a traveling adventure and living your best life.

Roads & Kingdoms

If you’re the kind of person that likes to be clued up about travel and culture, then Roads & Kingdoms is right up your street. This travel blog was set up by two established journalists who decided to give back to those who had caught the travel blog. Within this amazing website, these guys give you all the information you could possibly want to know about a country or city, from the food recommendations to the attractions and natural wonders you really need to see, to the music you need to listen to and the drinks you need to try. It’s the ultimate site of facts and figures, with a little bit of fun thrown in for good measure.

Fearful Adventurer

The Fearful Adventure blog is the blog for all of the worriers out there because traveling can be stressful and scary. Torre uses her blog to help those people out there who struggle with traveling on their own or with other people, to show you that you are in control of your own traveling experiences and that only you have the power to determine how you will make the most out of seeing the world and experiencing new things.

The Blonde Abroad

If you’re a strong, sassy woman who loves to do things off their own back, then you’ll love The Blonde Abroad. This travel blog was set up by Kiki, a California native who decided to take a break from work and try and ‘find herself’ during a summer abroad. However, what she didn’t realize was that she would be sucked into the travel lifestyle and feel totally empowered by going it alone and embracing her female power. From that, The Blonde Abroad was created, and she now advises and helps other women embark on their own solo journey of self-discovery. It will give you massive FOMO but is so worth it.

Looking for a cool new travel blog to keep you company on the commute home from work, or one to give you inspiration? These are a good start.

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Behind the Scenes: What it Really Takes to Launch a Film Career

Thanks to digital technology and social media, it’s easier than ever to start your filmmaking career. But starting a film career is one thing, growing and maintaining it is another. We asked award-winning filmmaker Adisa Septuri for some actionable tips and advice for creating your own path in the film industry. Here’s Septuri’s advice:

4 Ways to Launch a Film Career

 Invest in Yourself and Fail Forward

There’s a tendency to think that because we see lots of people picking up a camera and making films that it’s easy. We live in an instant gratification, YouTube video generation. If you want to excel at a high level, really study the craft, take classes, and watch YouTube videos, which are great but also read books and ask a zillion questions of people already doing it. You don’t necessarily need to go to film school, especially with the exorbitant tuition prices these days. Start making small films and then challenge yourself incrementally. It’s important to take chances and make mistakes in the beginning. My biggest lessons came from making mistakes. The bigger the mistake, the bigger the lesson. By doing this you’ll gain confidence.

Also, don’t rush yourself or feel as if you’re in some kind of race with time or other filmmakers. It will happen to you at the right time. Your main job is to do the work and invest in yourself. If you do that, you will ultimately create an opportunity or you’ll be presented with one.

Connect With Mentors

Find a mentor, it will save you a lot of time and wasted energy. I never really pursued one until much later and I could have really benefited by having one.

Hustle Smart

It took me a long time to get into writing, but besides learning the craft of directing, learning how to write screenplay puts you in a greater position to succeed. It allows you to generate your own material. It will also help you become an even better director. It takes a lot of patience, persistence, and determination to succeed in this business. Find you a hustle where you can pay the bills while you pursue your dream. For me, it was sound mixing. I actually became a union sound mixer. It kept me close to the film set while I pursued my passion of directing. I had to dedicate 10,000 hours to be good at it and it wasn’t always easy and sometimes I felt I was getting nowhere but I kept writing and studying in the meantime and sound mixing kept food on my table and gave me the fortitude to keep going.

Slow Progress is Still Progress

There’s also a tendency to fantasize about coming out the gate and being successful like Ryan Coogler or your first film going to Sundance and getting a big studio deal. I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but that’s not realistic thinking. It only really happens to a very small few. The other 99% of us—myself included—take it day by day and film by film. Hard work is its own reward and it will eventually pay off.

Even if it takes you 15 years after graduating NYU film school like me to make your first feature film. Not everyone is cut out for it, but if you really want it—don’t just do it for the fame, money, or accolades. Those things are nice but I would suggest doing it because you have something to say. Do it because you want to make a difference and because you feel the call to be great and for a purpose. For me, it was a desire to see black images reflected on the screen and to tell the multitude of stories that exist in our community that never get told.

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