Sherri Shepherd Says Barbara Walters Had Her Crying ‘For Three Years Straight’ On ‘The View’

Former “The View” co-host Sherri Shepherd is speaking out about her tenure on the ABC morning show, telling Entertainment Tonight that Barbara Walters had her crying for “three years straight.”

Shepherd’s comments come after the release of the tell-all book “Ladies Who Punch,” which explores all the alleged conflicts between the women of “The View.” Shepherd describes her time on the Emmy-winning daytime talker as “the best experience of my life” but she “cried for three years straight” due to “a very tough taskmaster who I love her to death. It’s Barbara Walters.”

Shepherd was a host of the show from 2007 to 2014. She claims her former boss “was tough on the people that she loved, and she helped me find my voice.”

Adding, “So I will forever be indebted to Barbara Walters, Whoopi Goldberg, Joy Behar and Elisabeth Hasselbeck and Jenny McCarthy for the time that I had on ‘The View,’” Shepherd said, “because what I have now is because of ‘The View.’ ”

As noted by USA Today, “Ladies Who Punch” spills all the messy backstage antics, from a confrontation between Walters and Rosie O’Donnell, to Hasselbeck’s meltdown after Walters’ on-air mistreatment and Jenny’s claim that Barbara was always gunning for her because of her outfit choices.

“When they were at ‘The View,’ some people had some not-so-great experiences, and some people had really wonderful experiences,” Shepherd told ET, admitting that she too had “some fights on the show,” which she didn’t want to discuss. “From my end, it was the best experience of my life,” she said.

Shepherd admitted to ET she hadn’t read the book but she is aware of its content.

“I read some stuff and I was like, ‘Oh, shoot. Oh OK. That’s crazy. Hey Jenny, why’d you say that for?’ OK,” Shepherd said. “But, you know, everybody has their own interpretation of how it happened when they were there.”

McCarthy, a host from 2013 to 2014, revealed in the book that her time on the show was “the most miserable” job she’s had in all of her time in the industry.

“When I’d hear the shuffle of her feet, I knew that Barbara was after me,” McCarthy said in the book “It would get faster. Oh my God – she’s coming! Based on the speed of the shuffle, I would hide or get on the phone.”

However, the former MTV hostess said she has “zero hard feelings” toward Walters, explaining: “I loved her like a grandma. She didn’t know any better.”

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The Money Snapshot: A 33-Year-Old Management Consultant Shares Thoughts on Three Mortgages & Her Aggressive Savings Strategy

 

Today we’re proud to present our third “money snapshot,” this time with C, a management consultant on the West Coast! She notes: “I paid off my student loans extremely aggressively — all were paid off within two years of graduating. Although I had a job that paid well right out of college (I started at $ 60K), I tried to live frugally where reasonably possible in order to prioritize paying these off.”

By way of background: we got a few requests from readers to launch our own “money diary” series, so we’ve asked willing readers to fill out a form with lots of details about debt, spending, saving and more!  If you’d like to fill out the form and be considered for a future personal money snapshot, please click here if you’d like to see the form and/or submit responses! You can also see a PDF of the questions if you want to review them ahead of time. See others in the Personal Money Snapshot series here.

Please remember that this is is a real person who has feelings and isn’t gaining anything from this, unlike your usual friendly (soul-deadened, thick-skinned, cold-hearted, money-grubbing) blogger — so please be kind with any comments. Thank you! — Kat

Name: C
Location: HCOL suburb on the West Coast
Age: 33 
Occupation: Management consultant
Income: $ 180K/year base, $ 10K–$ 40K bonus
Net worth: About $ 900,000
Net worth when started working: Negative $ 52K (student loans) at age 22 
Current debt: Three mortgages (home, rental property, and vacation home) totaling $ 830K
Living situation: Own a house and pay $ 2,000/month in mortgage.

Debt

What does your debt picture look like?
My only debt right now is mortgage debt, across three homes (primary, vacation, investment property), totaling $ 830K. I have pretty good mortgage rates (3.5%, 3.75%, and 4.5%, all 30-year fixed), so I am paying the regular monthly payments. While I made an extra lump sum payment on my primary home with a bonus a few years ago, I now just put those bonuses into savings/investments so that I could pay the mortgages off later if I needed to.

How much money are you spending each month to pay down debt?
$ 5,400 in monthly mortgage payments, though $ 3,500 is paid by tenants

How did you pay for school?
I paid off my student loans extremely aggressively — all were paid off within two years of graduating. Although I had a job that paid well right out of college (I started at $ 60K), I tried to live frugally where reasonably possible in order to prioritize paying these off. I am very uncomfortable having debt, so it was important to me to not have my student loans hanging over my head.

What advice would you share with readers about buying and maintaining a rental property?
Find someone you trust that you can call for repairs! I don’t have a property manager per se, but I do have a handyman who lives right by the property to whom I sole source all repairs. If he can’t do it, he will call around and find someone who can, then charge a one-off commission (which is well worth it). It’s amazing peace of mind to know that if there is an issue, my tenants can call me or call him directly in an emergency. Also, if you are looking to buy a rental property, remember that you don’t need to like it personally, so try to avoid any upgrades that make it to your taste, and stick with something more generic.

Savings, Investments & Retirement

How much do you save for retirement?
I max out my 401K ($ 2,100/month). I used to max out my Roth IRA before I became ineligible for that. I still do a “backdoor Roth” where I put it into a traditional IRA and then immediately convert it, so that the earnings will be tax free.

How much money do you allocate to other tax-savvy investments/accounts?
I max out my HSA at $ 260/month… I figure even if it stays in there now without me using it, it will be good to have when I’m older and more prone to health issues. I have had two health issues that depleted my HSA significantly, over 10 years, so I figure it’s a great emergency fund — especially since I’m on a high-deductible plan.

How much do you save outside of retirement accounts?
I also save $ 4,500/month post tax in a combo of index funds and a managed portfolio. I prefer to manually transfer the funds when my paycheck comes in, which forces me to check out my financial situation every two weeks and see how I’m doing. I transfer the money from my paycheck bank account to another “transaction” bank account, then I have automatic transfers for my investments set up to take the money a week after my paycheck hits. I feel like that’s the best of both worlds — keeps it simple but also forces me to continuously evaluate and reassess. And if I’m short on funds, I could always stop a transfer.

Do you have/use a financial adviser or planner? 
I started using a financial adviser last year, who manages a portfolio for me that complies with my company’s guidelines around what I can/can’t invest in. (Working in consulting, there are a lot of restrictions around investing in clients.) I felt pressured to start using an adviser by my company, but I do wonder if it’s worth the fees (1%) or if I’d be better off with it all in index funds. I put $ 2,000/month into that portfolio for my adviser to invest as he sees fit, and then I put $ 2,500/month into the Schwab Total Market Stock Index fund. I feel very uninformed/inexperienced when it comes to investing, but I haven’t prioritized learning about it.

Do you have an end goal for saving or are you just saving for a rainy day?
I’d like to retire early (mid-40s) and am well on track to do so. But if I decide to have a family, I know that timeline would be pushed back significantly.

What’s the #1 thing you’re doing to save money, limit spending, or live frugally?
I think I am generally pretty frugal, though I’m motivated by knowing I CAN buy anything I want thanks to my otherwise-frugality. I’ve made a few big impulse buys over the years (my vacation home wasn’t supposed to happen for a while longer, but I found this house and fell in love with it). It feels SOOOOO good to know that I never have to worry about money, which is the opposite of how I grew up. No matter how much my salary increases, I plan to always live well below my means and try to avoid keeping up with the Joneses.

Do a lot of your financial decisions today stem from the money situation your family had growing up?
Yes — it’s really important to me to pay my bills on time (which my parents weren’t financially able to do), and it also makes me feel amazing to be able to buy things without having to worry about bouncing checks or overdrawn credit cards, which were common in my childhood.

When did you start saving seriously? How has your savings strategy changed over the years?
The day I graduated college! It’s always been a high priority for me to be financially comfortable and not in debt.

Do you have an estate plan in place?  
None — I probably should. However, as a single, I don’t really know who I’d want my estate to go to. Probably my parents, and they will get it by default anyway.

How much do you have in cash that’s available today?
$ 20? Ha. I don’t keep actual physical cash.

How much do you have in cash that’s available in a week?
$ 8,000 — currently very depleted from the down payment on my vacation home. I would like this to be $ 20K. This is my emergency fund, and I keep it in a savings account.

How much do you have in retirement savings?
$ 201K

How much do you have in long-term investments and savings that are not behind a retirement wall?
$ 142K

If property values are included in your net worth, how much are those worth?
Home: $ 338K equity
Rental property: $ 82K equity
Vacation home: $ 125K equity
Car: fully paid off and worth about $ 15K

Looking back, did you ever expect to own three properties at 33? In general, say, 10 years ago, did you expect to be where you are now financially?
DEFINITELY not. I feel like all of my real estate purchases were accidental — the investment property was a short sale that came across my lap when I had a bunch of cash in savings and hadn’t really figured out investing. My primary home was of course planned, but the vacation home was something I didn’t expect. I thought vacation homes were only for richer/more established people and was pleasantly surprised when I happened across the property and found I could make the numbers work. I feel incredibly lucky to be where I am today financially; I honestly never really expected much more than being able to make ends meet and am proud to be well ahead of that.

Spending 

How much do you spend on the following categories on a monthly basis?

Groceries: $ 120 
Restaurants, bars, takeout, and delivery: 
$ 500
Clothing and accessories: $ 200
Transportation: $ 20/week on gas, $ 100/month on car registration/insurance
Rent/living expenses: $ 2,000 mortgage payment  
Entertainment: $ 30/month for a local concert series I like. I rarely buy books (yay for libraries!) or go to the movies.
Health care — premiums and other costs: $ 80/month for a high deductible plan ($ 3,500 deductible). I probably spend about $ 500/year from my FSA for various things (medicine, co-pays, contact lenses).

What’s your spending range for these things? What’s your average?

Vacations – Average: Low — I tend to take a lot of three-day weekends, using hotel points and frequent flyer miles, so they still often fit in my regular weekly budget of ~$ 400/week.

Charity – Average Donation: $ 20 to any friend asking for money for their pet charities, and then I go to a decent number of events ($ 150 for a ticket, another $ 100–$ 500 on auction items/general donation).

Individual items of clothing – Range: $ 10–$ 100 
Individual items of clothing – Average: I have inexpensive taste — I really like Old Navy for trendy stuff because I don’t care if it lasts that long anyway, and for classic pieces that I do want to last, I tend to buy from Banana Republic and Lands’ End. I like shopping brands online that I can easily return in stores rather than having to mail them back, and I tend to buy a LOT to try at home, and then return a lot. I almost always wait till things are on sale to buy, and will often put things into my cart that I like, then come back to it weeks later when I see they’re doing 50% off everything (or whatever). I’d say I typically pay around $ 30–$ 50 for a work dress, $ 10–$ 20 for a shirt / sweater, $ 20 for jeans, and $ 20 for shoes. For black-tie events, I’ll find gowns for $ 80–$ 150; there are a lot in this price range from basic department stores (e.g., Macy’s). I like seeing the pieces featured on Corporette, but most of them are much more expensive than what I’d consider buying.

Apartment or house – Current main residence: $ 2,000/month

Car or other vehicle – Last purchase / current main vehicle: Bought a new SUV for $ 25K that is five years old and that I plan to drive several more years.

Fill in the blank on this question: I could save _____ if I stopped ______, but I don’t because _______.
I could save $ 1,000 a month if I got a roommate for my gigantic house that I live in alone, but I don’t because I really value having my own place. I love my neighborhood, but it doesn’t have any 2-bedroom houses, which would have more than sufficed! I did look at a few townhomes that would have been a great size, but the value wasn’t nearly as high compared to paying just a little bit more for twice the room.

How much did your car cost?
$ 25K. In hindsight, I wish I had bought a used car rather than new.

How much did your home cost?
$ 470K

If you have vacation homes, timeshares, or income properties, how much did those cost?  
(1) I bought a townhouse five years ago for $ 130K; it’s now worth $ 180K. I rent this out for $ 1,500/month, which more than covers the $ 1,000/month mortgage. (2) Last year, I bought a vacation home for $ 525K; the mortgage is $ 2,400/month. I partially rent it out for $ 2,000/month, which allows me to still enjoy it part time without having to pay the full burden of the mortgage. I eventually plan to stop renting it out.

How has your family provided financial support in your adult life, if any? (Or, do you provide support to them?)
When I graduated college, I went home and lived with my parents for three months until moving to start my first job. I worked at a restaurant to cover spending money, but they paid my cell phone bill and I didn’t pay rent/utilities. I’ve made loans to a few family members of $ 5K–$ 20K; some have been paid back and some haven’t. I don’t like loaning money to people so I only make loans that I am comfortable losing entirely.

Money Strategy

Do you have a general money strategy?
I keep a spreadsheet of all my accounts, and a general budget, though the only categories I “budget” for out of my paycheck are mortgage, utilities, internet, savings, and the rest in a generic “spending money” category. I don’t budget separately for food because I could easily make dinner for $ 5 from the grocery store or buy a meal for $ 150 at a restaurant, so I think of food as a form of entertainment and want it included in that generic “spending money” category. I budget $ 1,500 month for “spending money,” and when I pay my credit card bill (which I do in full each month), I see how it compares to that budget. If it’s over, I keep it in mind and try to tighten my belt a little bit the next month. But I like the freedom of not having to worry about individual purchases, and just looking at it in aggregate. I’ve used this strategy since I graduated college, though back then my budget was $ 800/month ($ 200/week).

Time vs. money — do you spend money to save time (e.g., cleaning service)? Do you donate your time instead of money? What else does this phrase mean to you?
I volunteer about 20 hours/month and generally try to give back this way instead of financially. Writing a check doesn’t really mean much to me, but I get a huge psychological benefit out of spending time volunteering — for me, that decision is much more about the psychology than it is about saving money. However, I definitely tend to spend time to save money. I don’t hire a cleaning service, and do it myself — it’s really not that hard if I block off an hour a week and keep up with it regularly. I try to save whatever I can on things that don’t matter to me (e.g., store brand groceries vs. name brand) so that I don’t have to worry about spending money on the things I want to indulge in (a great meal at a fancy restaurant).

What are your favorite resources for personal finance?
Blogs: The Simple Dollar, Mr. Money Mustache. Both of those are often much more frugal than I’m comfortable with, but I get some good ideas from there. And, it helps to normalize extreme frugality for me, which makes me feel comfortable with how frugal I am. 

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Wow – huge thanks to C for sharing her life with us!

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In this new role, Wartenbergh is expected to leverage her global expertise to improve products’ commercial viability.
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Outfit Formula: Three Baggy Items

Wearing baggy over baggy and over baggy is awfully trendy, and somewhat arty and architectural. The baggy items can range from fluid to very oversized. Silhouettes are WIDE, and not at all tailored. 

It’s a challenge to feel good in a combination that lacks sufficient visual structure. It’s easy to feel unpolished, like the clothes are wearing you, and wider than you are. It can also feel fussy because there’s too much fabric flapping around your body.

That said, some of my clients adore wearing three baggy items at once, and their body types run the gamut. Some are tall, slim, and broad-shouldered with a small bust. Some are tall, curvy, and with a larger bust. Some are short, large in the bust, and apple-shaped. And others are regular rectangles, pears, and hourglasses. The only thing they have in common is that they enjoy wearing unstructured clothing layers because it’s comfortable, creative, arty and looks interesting. Some also enjoy how the vibe camouflages curves and extra bits.

Unfortunately, I couldn’t find examples of the outfit vibe across a wide range of body types. But I could find these Spring visuals. Some items are baggier than others, and all of the outfits work to my eye.

1. Trench-Coated Volume

A pair of wide cropped pants is combined with a roomy untucked top and voluminous trench coat. The scrunched sleeves and open footwear create just enough structure, because skin equals structure. The open front of the trench coat creates a vertical line down the centre front of the body which streamlines the outfit. The V-neck further elongates the look and is great on a larger bust. Personally, I’d have preferred the wide crops a little shorter to showcase more of the ankle.

Modern Citizen Elettra Tie Front Trench Coat

2. Long ’90s Layers

This is the most unstructured combination of the four because all three items of clothing are very baggy and long. The open front of the jacket that creates vertical integrity, and the model’s naked feet in the sandals are the only bits giving the look a small bit of subtle structure.

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3. Boxy Cubed

A boxy top is combined with boxy wide crops and a boxy jacket. The shorter lengths of the top and jacket add a little more structure right away. The low-contrast footwear lengthens the leg line, which make the wide crops look less stumpy. This is the least soft, pretty and ethereal rendition of the four.

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4. Column of Beige

This is the most structured of the four renditions because the fluid top is tucked into a roomy midi to showcase the waistline. However, the structure that is created is somewhat hidden because a straight and roomy topper has been layered over the lot. Once again, the open topper draws the eye up and down which creates vertical integrity, and therefore some structure.

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I wouldn’t wear #1 or #2. Too baggy all over for my narrow shoulders and slight frame. I wear a version of #3, but with a fitted top, or fitted jacket so there’s more structure. I wear #4 but in the form of a fit-and-flare dress. Over to you. Would you wear three baggy items in one outfit, and what do you think of these outfits?


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Pick of the Week: Greta

No good deed goes unpunished in Greta.

The campy thriller sees Chloë Grace Moretz playing Frances, a kind young woman new to New York City. One fateful day, she finds a purse left behind by someone on the subway; the Good Samaritan uses an ID card in the bag to contact its owner, who welcomes Frances into her home. Greta (Isabelle Huppert), a lonely widow living in a foreign land, is grateful to have her purse back, but more grateful for Frances’ company.

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At first, the terrorism is dismissed, but as she becomes bolder and causes more damage, the authorities double down on trying to capture the anonymous warrior who is fighting for a greener future. (Melissa Silverstein)

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Immigration issues are front and center in the news. Saint Judy reminds you about the people, not the politics, that are affected by the laws.

Judy Wood (Michelle Monaghan), a woman trying to make a living as an immigration attorney, has more cases than she can handle and barely gets paid. But when she represents a woman seeking asylum who has been persecuted due to her gender, she winds up changing U.S. immigration law. (MS)

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OAKLAND, Calif. — Kaiser Permanente today unveiled several major initiatives that will improve health outcomes by creating stable housing for vulnerable populations. The initiatives — including seeding a real estate investment in Oakland, anchoring a $ 100 million national loan fund for affordable housing and kicking off a plan to end homelessness for more than 500 Oakland-area residents — are part of a comprehensive strategy to advance the economic, social and environmental conditions for health in the communities that Kaiser Permanente serves.

At a press conference with Oakland Mayor Libby Schaaf and several partners, Kaiser Permanente Chairman and CEO Bernard J. Tyson announced the first local impact investment from Kaiser Permanente’s $ 200 million Thriving Communities Fund. Through the Housing for Health Fund — a new joint-equity fund between Enterprise Community Partners, “Enterprise,” and Kaiser Permanente that is for the Bay Area — an approximate $ 5.2 million has been committed to acquire a 41-unit housing complex in East Oakland, near Kaiser Permanente’s national headquarters.

As part of this real estate investment, Kaiser Permanente is partnering with Enterprise and the East Bay Asian Local Development Corporation to ensure the property, located in the San Antonio district of Oakland, gets needed upgrades and is preserved as affordable housing. EBALDC will also provide residents with the opportunity to get supportive social services, applying the organization’s Healthy Neighborhoods approach to community development.

“Housing security is a crucial health issue for vulnerable populations,” said Bernard J. Tyson, chairman and CEO of Kaiser Permanente. “Access to affordable housing is a key component to Kaiser Permanente’s mission to improve the health of our members and the communities we serve and to advance the economic, social and environmental conditions for health.”

“We are proud to partner with Kaiser Permanente and Enterprise for the first investment of the Housing for Health Fund,” said Joshua Simon, executive director of EBALDC. “Through this partnership, we can maximize positive health outcomes in Oakland by supporting residents’ ability to remain in their homes. This couldn’t come at a more critical time for San Antonio, a district on the brink of gentrification. To adequately address the urgent housing crisis we are facing in the Bay Area, we must think creatively and collaboratively. Housing is more than a roof over our heads; it is central to our health and well-being. We hope this fruitful partnership can serve as a powerful model for Oakland, California, and the nation.”

In addition, Tyson joined Enterprise Community Partners President Laurel Blatchford to announce a second fund that will finance the development and preservation of affordable housing. Besides the Housing for Health Fund, Kaiser Permanente and Enterprise will launch a $ 100 million loan fund to create and preserve multifamily rental homes for low-income residents throughout Kaiser Permanente’s service areas. Enterprise matched Kaiser Permanente’s $ 50 million commitment for the total $ 100 million available for investment.

“Enterprise is excited to be a leader in this innovative effort, and we have seen that uniting the housing and health care sectors and making creative use of investment capital will foster healthy homes and communities,” said Laurel Blatchford, president of Enterprise. “Collaborating with partners such as Kaiser Permanente and EBALDC, who also understand that home is at the foundation of health and well­being, will improve thousands of lives across the country.”

Finally, Kaiser Permanente announced a significant effort to end homelessness for more than 500 individuals in Oakland who are over the age of 50 and have at least one chronic condition. The city has been hit particularly hard by the housing crisis; between 2015 and 2017, homelessness in Oakland has increased 25 percent. Kaiser Permanente, working with a community partner, identified 500 particularly vulnerable individuals and are now working with the city, Alameda County and other community partners to secure housing and other vital services for the individuals on this list.

“The health and wellness of Oakland is tied to housing in Oakland,” said Oakland Mayor Libby Schaaf. “I’m grateful for partners like Kaiser Permanente, EBALDC and Enterprise who are taking a new approach to improving the health outcomes of all our residents by improving housing security for our most vulnerable residents. This is a bold investment to improve our city’s health — and we will continue to innovate and create new pathways until all Oakland residents, in all neighborhoods, feel secure in their housing.”

“Improving access to affordable housing is one of the most impactful community interventions we can make to eliminate homelessness,” said Janet Liang, regional president for Kaiser Permanente of Northern California. “This new investment complements several strategies we have sponsored over the past year to help all Oakland residents thrive.”

“We know that differences in health are striking in communities with poor social determinants of health such as unstable housing, low income and unsafe neighborhoods.” said Richard Isaacs, MD, CEO and executive director of The Permanente Medical Group. “These innovative strategies are critically important steps toward the maintenance of health improvement, consistent health outcomes and California health equity.”

“As we look to address housing security and homelessness in Alameda County, public-private partnerships are critical, which is why we are glad to see Kaiser Permanente take this step to help those who are most in need,” said Wilma Chan, supervisor of Alameda County and president of the Alameda County Board of Supervisors.


About Enterprise Community Partners Inc.
Enterprise is a proven and powerful nonprofit that improves communities and people’s lives by making well-designed homes affordable. We bring together the nationwide know-how, partners, policy leadership and investments to multiply the impact of local affordable housing development. Over 35 years, Enterprise has created nearly 529,000 homes, invested $ 36 billion and touched millions of lives. Join us at www.EnterpriseCommunity.org.

About East Bay Asian Local Development Corporation
East Bay Asian Local Development Corporation is a nonprofit community development organization celebrating over 44 years of building healthy, vibrant and safe neighborhoods in Oakland and the greater East Bay. East Bay Asian Local Development Corporation develops and manages high quality affordable apartments and homes, and commercial spaces for local small businesses and community organizations, while fostering increased economic opportunities for low-income families and individuals. Since 1975, the organization has invested more than $ 250 million in assets that have had substantial physical and social impact in the community. Its Neighborhood and Economic Development programs serve over 5,000 low-income people annually, through housing, financial education and counseling, youth and senior programming, free tax preparation. For more information, visit www.ebaldc.org. On Twitter @EBALDC

About Kaiser Permanente
Kaiser Permanente is committed to helping shape the future of health care. We are recognized as one of America’s leading health care providers and not-for-profit health plans. Founded in 1945, Kaiser Permanente has a mission to provide high-quality, affordable health care services and to improve the health of our members and the communities we serve. We currently serve more than 12.2 million members in eight states and the District of Columbia. Care for members and patients is focused on their total health and guided by their personal Permanente Medical Group physicians, specialists and team of caregivers. Our expert and caring medical teams are empowered and supported by industry-leading technology advances and tools for health promotion, disease prevention, state-of-the-art care delivery and world-class chronic disease management. Kaiser Permanente is dedicated to care innovations, clinical research, health education and the support of community health. For more information, go to share.kaiserpermanente.org.

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Three Feminist Reasons I’ll Be Grateful This Year

I aspire to start every day with gratitude. In spite of a year of natural disturbances and disasters, deepening political divides and disappointments and worsening humanitarian crises in so many parts of the world, I strive to find at least three specific reasons to give gratitude each day. Every day on that list is gratitude for a loving life partner, a healthy and loving family and lasting friendships. This week, as 2018 ends and 2019 begins, I am adding three organizations that fill my heart with gratitude every day.

Pat Mitchell speaking at the 2018 Judicia Digital Learning Center graduation in November.

As all my friends and family know well, I find my time on the African continent to be restorative in so many ways. I am especially inspired by the good work that is visibly and measurably creating new opportunities for many communities left behind or left out of the digital economy created by new technologies. The Good Work Foundation (GWF) is addressing this challenge in rural South Africa by establishing digital learning centers and partnering with corporations to create new jobs in the region.

GWF CEO, Kate Groch, reminded the graduates to believe in themselves.

Earlier this month, I had the honor to speak to the graduates of the 2018 computer competency course at the Judicia Digital Learning Center, one of seven in the Kruger Park area where the nearby game preserves and safari camp owners are providing the funding for a complete ecosystem of learning and working that is shaping a new kind of future for individuals, families and communities.

Founded and led by Kate Groch—an energetic, dedicated teacher who realized the limitations of the government schools in reaching this population with needed skill training, the centers now offer self-guided curriculums, specifically targeting job opportunities in the region, serving more than 6,000 learners of all ages every week, transforming the future for rural South Africans.

Graduates, Pat and her grandchildren celebrating after the graduation ceremony.

At this graduation, nearly 100 young people—80 percent of them women—accepted diplomas as their parents, overwhelmed with gratitude that their children would now have opportunities for economically viable work and careers, looked on with great pride. Parents and grandparents danced, sang and celebrated—and took pictures with me and my grandchildren, who loved being a part of this special day. Gratitude to the Varty family of Londolozi, founding partners of GWF; Luke Bailes, Singita chairman; and Kate, Ryan and the entire team for this experience.

Each day I’m in South Africa or Kenya or Congo, I reflect on the privilege I’ve had to participate in the work of the V-Day movement to end violence against women and girls. 2018 marked the 20th anniversary of the founding of V-Day by Eve Ensler and, rather than diminishing in strength and impact, V-Day’s 20th year activities reflect the ever evolving power of art and activism, led locally and connected globally to a singular commitment to rising up against gender-based violence.

As a V-Day board member since the beginning, I have witnessed the changes made by V-Day supported activists working to end female genital mutilation (FGM) in Kenya, provide healing and training for the victims of the conflict in Eastern Congo and come together in 200 countries as part of V-Day’s One Billion Rising to challenge cultural practices and demand important reforms.

V-Day board members Pat Mitchell and Carole Black, with V-Day founder Eve Ensler and Agnes Pareyo, Masai activist and anti-FGM leader.

This year began with the release of My Revolution Lives In This Body, which has been shown at V-Day gatherings around the world and a special V20 edition of The Vagina Monologues available for activists anywhere to perform on V-Day (Valentine’s Day). More performances than ever took place this year, adding to the $ 150 million already raised by this one play to support anti-violence activists.

The CITY OF JOY documentary also had a worldwide release as a Netflix original—and our beloved friend, V-Man and co-founder of City of Joy, Dr. Denis Mukwege, received the Nobel Peace Prize, along with our Yazidi sister-activist Nadia Murad. It was a defining moment for the anti-gender-based-violence movement.

These are only just some of this year’s highlights that make me ever more grateful to Eve and the global sisterhood I give gratitude for every day.

I’m also grateful for the work of Jacqueline Novogratz and Acumen, a nonprofit working to change the way the world tackles poverty. Investing in social enterprises that offer products and services to serve the poor, the Acumen Fund leads the impact investing movement with its patient capital approach, a unique fellows program and an online moral leadership course. Acumen is disrupting the status quo by nurturing and strengthening values-based leaders and innovative and courageous entrepreneurs.

Just this past month, Acumen launched #OneGreatIdea, a new video series that tells the stories of three such entrepreneurs and their enterprises that are creating real, lasting impact. The challenges we face today, from extreme inequality to climate change, demand new solutions.

#OneGreatIdea can redefine what’s possible.

At a gathering last March of the global Acumen community of fellows and entrepreneurs, one of them stopped me on the first day and asked: “Why are you here?” I was startled by his inquiry, but answered that I was an Acumen board member and was eager for the opportunity to meet the people doing the work on the ground in Kenya, India, Pakistan and Ghana. He smiled and asked his question again.

Why are you here? I realized he wasn’t asking why I was at that convening—he wanted to know why someone whom he probably viewed as a privileged older white woman was involved in this work. I answered: “I’m here for the same reason you are. To be engaged in the work that is making the world a better place for everyone.” He smiled at my answer, hopefully believing that it came from my heart, where I have held his question throughout the weeks and months that followed.

Why am I here—or anywhere, doing anything—if the reason isn’t engaging in good work, showing up with support when possible and using every platform to raise awareness of the good work being led by extraordinary individuals and supported by deeply committed people and to express gratitude for all of that?

One of my favorite quotes is from the British writer Gilbert Chesterton: “Thanks are the highest form of thought and gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” My happiness is indeed doubled by the wonder-filled work that is creating change for individuals, communities and the small and fragile world we all share.

Originally published on Pat Mitchell’s blog. Republished with author permission.

Pat Mitchell is known for her leadership in the media industry as a CEO, producer and curator. She partners with the TED organization to co-curate and host an annual global TEDWomen conference and is the chair of theWomen’s Media Center and Sundance Institute boards, a founding board member of V-Day, a member of the board of the Acumen Fund and a member of the Council on Foreign Relations. The first woman president and CEO of PBS, she most recently served as president and CEO of the Paley Center for Media; she is now a senior adviser to the organization. She is also the former president of CNN Productions, where she executive produced hundreds of hours of documentaries and specials, which received 35 Emmy Awards and five Peabody Awards. She was inducted into the Broadcasting and Cable Hall of Fame in 2009.

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Is Bethesda Softworks just getting into the holiday spirit here, or is this an unspoken “make good” apology after Fallout 76‘s borked launch?

No one can say! And frankly, it doesn’t matter. Bethesda has a special holiday offer in place for anyone who’s played Fallout 76, which takes the popular apocalypse-centered role-playing game and turns it into an online game. 

The offer is for more Fallout, and — importantly — free Fallout. Here’s the deal, straight from the publisher’s Twitter account:

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I have three healthy kids, but I’ll never forget the pain of my miscarriage

I have three healthy kids, but I’ll never forget the pain of my miscarriage


I have three healthy kids, but I’ll never forget the pain of my miscarriage

Trigger Warning: This essay describes graphic memories of a miscarriage.

When I gave birth to my son, I was certain it was the biggest accomplishment of my life. When anyone asked me how I liked motherhood, I proudly said it was the greatest thing I’d ever do. So, 10 months after our son made us parents for the first time, my husband and I decided we were ready for baby number two. Effortlessly, I became pregnant within a month. I was ecstatic. Yes, I’d have two babies in diapers at the same time, but the unconditional love was addictive. Creating that love by adding to our family made all the sense in the world.

My first doctor’s appointment confirming my pregnancy was exciting. My son had been unplanned, so my anxiety about being pregnant and unwed had prevented me from enjoying the first stage of that pregnancy. I was eager to enjoy every moment this second time around. After some lab work, I was confirmed to be officially pregnant.

My husband accompanied me to my next appointment a week later; he was as excited about our newest addition as I was. I slipped into my hospital gown while my husband and I flirted and laughed. Soon, we excitedly watched our baby show up on the screen for the first time. We were so eager that it took a moment to realize what the ultrasound machine revealed: A small 7-week-old fetus with no heartbeat.

My doctor seemed unperturbed as she instructed me to get dressed before leaving the room. I put on my clothes in silence. The joyful atmosphere from before was completely erased while we waited for the doctor to say what we already knew. Like one in four pregnancies, mine had ended in miscarriage.

My doctor confirmed it, and there was no explanation for what happened. There were no condolences given. She only stated the simple facts and told me the fetus should pass soon without trouble. I was too numb to respond.

That weekend was spent in tears as I experienced bleeding. I tried to rationalize the miscarriage. Why did it happen? What did I do to cause it? I wanted answers, but there was no way to find them.


I returned to work the following Monday, knowing that everyone was aware of my miscarriage. But I was relieved—having someone innocently ask about my pregnancy would set me off all over again. Instead, I was handled with kids gloves and I couldn’t bring myself to resent it. I felt more fragile than ever.

I was processing the weekly payroll in my office, and that’s when I felt it happening. I excused myself to a private bathroom and sat heavily on the seat. To this day, I can’t explain how it felt, but I could feel my body passing something more than blood. I knew my body had to release the remainders of the fetus, but I had no understanding of how physically substantial a miscarriage can be. I thought my bleeding over the weekend would be the end of it, but now I knew I was wrong. I affixed an oversized pad to my underwear and went back to my desk.

But I still felt it—those telltale uncomfortable signs of bleeding through my pad. I went back to the bathroom; it was like I’d entered a scene from a bloody horror movie. I quickly changed my pad, shaking as I cleaned myself as much as I could.

But I bled through the second pad, and this time, I was frantic. The bleeding wouldn’t stop. I was traumatized. Not knowing what to do, I took out my phone and called my boss. He answered with a chipper voice, no doubt expecting a payroll question.

“I’m miscarrying in the bathroom,” I told him. “Help me.”

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I don’t know if it was my words or the panicked way I said them, but he and our team’s head of HR knocked at the bathroom door almost instantly. Through the door, I explained what was happening. They wanted to call an ambulance; I wanted my husband. I wanted my parents. I didn’t want to experience this there.

They coaxed me out of the bathroom and I waited for my ride to the ER. I continued bleeding uncontrollably, shaking violently as my boss tried to keep me alert. I remember his comforting words, but they were overshadowed by the horrified look in his eyes.

Mumbled apologies tumbled from my lips—but I wasn’t even sure what I was sorry for. Scaring them? Bleeding all over the place? Bringing my trauma to work? Failing this baby as a mother?

My husband met me at the ER. We were ushered to a triage where we waited for far too long, and I felt the final drop of a heavy mass. Suddenly, the proof of my unborn second child laid on the floor of the triage. I couldn’t look at it.

Just like my OBGYN, the ER doctor walked in, gave me the facts of my miscarriage, and sent me away.

I wasn’t sure what was worse: leaving the fetus that had been in my womb behind or enduring heartless treatment from doctors in the most harrowing time of my life.


It took me years to talk about my miscarriage.

Instead, I did all the things you’re supposed to do. I named her June Jose for the month she was lost and for my father. My dad planted a flowering bush in her honor. I waited to have another child. I spent my third and fourth pregnancies doing everything I could to grow healthy babies—and I did. Still, there was a pain I couldn’t shake, that I still can’t.

In a strange way, I don’t think I’m meant to forget that pain. Living children spend their entire existences are spent filling us with joy, love, worry, frustration, and a litany of other feelings. We love them more each day, and they teach us in both subtle and grand ways. Children lost in pregnancy or infancy aren’t exempt from inspiring these feelings—they just do it in a different way. The what-ifs intensify those feelings. These children who were lost are simultaneously infinite in their possibilities and finite in their reality. I’ll never know for sure that my child was a girl. I’ll never know if she had my eyes or my husband’s smile. I’ll never know what it feels like to hold her.

No matter how full my heart is, there will always be a smaller corner of it that aches just for her, and I’ve accepted that it is supposed to be that way. My sorrow is never ending, but so is my love for the child I lost.

If you have suffered a pregnancy or infant loss, you can find your local chapter of Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support here, and get their help during this time.

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The U.S. needs a feminist systems reboot.

Policy-making is never gender-neutral, and policies written without considering gendered impacts from the get-go aren’t just “gender-insensitive,” but often directly harmful to women. We can’t continue to play whack-a-mole with one elected official or one policy at a time. We need to reject the institutionalization of male privilege in all its forms. I believe we can fix inequality—but we must start swinging for the fences.

If equality is the goal, what will be the strategy?

Feminist sang, chanted and rallied for gender equality in New York City during a march to mark International Women’s Day in 2015 that was organized by UN Women. The organization’s gender mainstreaming framework has become a guiding light for nations across the world interested in advancing equality. (Ryan Brown for UN Women / Creative Commons)

We can accelerate progress by looking to other nations and the gender mainstreaming (GM) framework used by UN Women and nations around the world to address gender-based policy issues since its creation in the 1980’s.

Two U.S. agencies are already implementing this work, but only one of them operates within our borders: In its nascency at the National Weather Service (NWS), gender mainstreaming allows staff to see that hurricanes are not gender or race neutral, and that how they distribute communications in a disaster could make a life-or-death difference for women and girls. The U.S. Agency for International Development (USAID)’s Office of Gender Equality and Women’s Empowerment, meanwhile, brings mainstreaming to the forefront in their implementation of its Gender Equality and Women’s Empowerment Policy.

The interventions the U.S. makes for gender equality abroad, which are compulsory when distributing aid money, are important—but we also need to take a long look in the mirror and get to work solving our own problems at home.

It won’t be perfect the first time, but we need need to start performing gender equity work in every government agency and in every institution. Equality is not achieved overnight, but policy is a constitutional commitment to provide actionable measures and allocate resources. (If this idea sounds intriguing, look to Gender-Sensitive Parliaments, Guidelines for Gender Mainstreaming Academia or Climate Change Gender Action Plans to learn more on GM from experts in other countries.)

There are three things you can do to put wide-scale progress towards gender equality in motion.

#1: Speak up for a systems approach.

The GM framework at NWS was shaped by the efforts led by their global peers at the World Meterological Organization, which prioritizes gender equality. We have a lot to learn from the decades of GM implementation overseas—including the strategies that transformed Iceland into the 1 in the world for gender equality, including the employ of Gender Equality Officers within their government agencies.

One limitation of GM approaches elsewhere, however, is that much of the policy language only refers to gender as a binary (men/women), and are silent towards other gender identities and sexual orientations. Racial relations are also often poorly incorporated in GM frameworks.

GM needs an inclusive redefining, and we can do that within our borders in a way that fits our culture. While the global framework for GM may be missing language related to race and other forms of discrimination, this allows each nation to develop an approach that fits their own culture best. In order for GM to be effective within the U.S., feminists should ensure while pushing for its advancement that the needs of women of color, trans women and other women at the intersections are put first.

Ask your elected officials if they’ve heard of Gender Mainstreaming. Ask them how they review policies for impact by race and gender. Ask whether there are measurable outcomes.

#2: Consider CEDAW.

Nearly all members of the United Nations ratified the 1979 Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW), but the U.S. never did, and our elected officials still refuse to do so. CEDAW lays a roadmap to addressing many hot topics in the U.S.—including reproductive rights, maternity leave and affordable child care.

There is a growing groundswell of municipalities moving forward with resolutions for and ratifications of CEDAW. Help launch the next one or do all you can to push one in your community further forward. Join the grassroots movement of Cities for CEDAW and check out the resources for citizens, like these examples of tips for talking with your elected officials.

#3: Follow the funding.

As gendered inequities are better understood, we must allocate funding to implement programs that close those gaps. Our neighbors to the north are making progress on this: Earlier this year, Canada performed their first ever gender analysis of the federal budget and identified several key areas.

One of the key areas on which they are focusing has a parallel plague in the U.S.—sexual assault at universities. The data they collected provided the evidence policy-makers needed to justify funding; Status of Women Canada has now become a full federal department and was allocated $ 100 million. In addition, Statistics Canada has created a new Centre for Gender, Diversity and Inclusion Statistics so the work moving forward can be data-driven and include other forms of discrimination like indigeneity and immigrant status.

Ask your elected officials where equality fits in their list of priorities. Ask what gender-disaggregated statistics they have available. Ask what percent of their funding goes towards programs for equality.

The trifecta of actions here would move us closer to a data-driven, systems approach to gender equity that would set us on the path to equality.

And aren’t we worth it?

Barbara Clabots is an interdisciplinary researcher working at the intersection of gender equality and the environment.

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  • SURROUNDING AWARENESS:Includes dusk to dawn sensor and motion activation.Automatically turn on when motion is detected within a 7-10 ft. range.
  • SUPER-BRIGHT LED BULBS: Lumens: 20, last up to 10,000 hours;Simple to install, no hard-wiring,come with super-strong 3M double-sided adhesive pad.
  • INSTALLATION:Simply use the super-strong 3M double-sided adhesive pads or stick to any metal surface with the built-in magnet,Works great indoor and outdoor, especially as a night light for stairs, steps, hallways, dark closets & cabinets.

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Three College Basketball Recruiting Insiders Convicted of Fraud in Pay-for-Play Trial

(NEW YORK) — An Adidas executive and two other insiders from the high-stakes world of college basketball recruiting were convicted Wednesday in a corruption case that prosecutors said exposed the underbelly of the sport.

A federal jury in Manhattan found former Adidas executive James Gatto, business manager Christopher Dawkins and amateur league director Merle Code guilty of fraud charges.

The trial centered on whether the men’s admitted efforts to channel secret payments to the families of top recruits luring them to major basketball programs sponsored by Adidas was criminal. At stake was a fortune in revenue for the basketball programs and potential endorsement deals for the players if they went pro.

Evidence included text messages between the defendants and coaches from top-tier coaches like Bob Self of Kansas and Rick Pitino of Louisville and testimony from the father of prized recruit Brian Bowen Jr. describing how a Louisville assistant handed him an envelope stuffed with cash.

Prosecutors claimed the schools were in the dark about the payment schemes, including $ 100,000 promised to Bowen’s family, that are outlawed by the NCAA. They accused the defendants of defrauding universities by tricking them into passing out scholarships to players who should have been ineligible.

In closing arguments, prosecutor Noah Solowiejczyk recounted testimony from cooperators and wiretap evidence about how the defendants took steps to create false invoices to Adidas, route funds through various bank accounts and convert it to cash for the families.

The behavior “tells you an awful lot about the defendants,” the prosecutor said. “It tells you that what they were doing was wrong.”

The defendants didn’t deny they sought to make the payments. But they argued that was how the recruitment game was played by Adidas, Nike and other sportswear companies – and that talent-hungry coaching staffs knew it.

A lawyer for defendant Dawkins, who was instrumental in steering Bowen to Louisville, claimed his client thought he was helping the program succeed to the benefit of everyone involved.

“What proof did the government present that Louisville suffered any harm?” attorney Steven Haney said in closing arguments. “In Christopher Dawkins’ mind, he thought what he was doing was OK.”

Defense attorneys sought to convince the jury the text messages and phone records showing Self and Patinto were in touch with the recruitment middlemen aligned with Adidas proved they had to be aware of the payments. They said further proof the schools weren’t blind to the schemes was testimony by Brian Bowen Sr. claiming he received $ 1,300 from Louisville assistant Kenny Johnson and other testimony by a cooperator, former Adidas consultant, Thomas “T.J.” Gassnola, that he delivered $ 40,000 to North Carolina State assistant coach Orlando Early intended for the family of highly-touted point guard Dennis Smith Jr.

In the texts last year, Gassnola told Self he was in the touch with the guardian of player Silvio De Sousa, who prosecutors say was among recruits whose families were offered secret payments.

Self responded: “We good,” according to an exhibit of the communication.

Gassnola said: “Always. That was light work.”

Another exhibit showed how Dawkins texted Pitino as Bowen was nearing a decision about where he would play, asking, “Would you have any interest in Brian Bowen or are you done with recruiting?”

Pitino responded: “We would love to have him.”

The exhibit showed Gatto also reached out to Pitino by text asking if they could speak on the phone, and records show there was a conversation afterward.

But there were no communications in which the coaches mentioned money. The coaches and the schools have either denied any wrongdoing or not commented on the case.

Self remains at Kansas, where De Sousa is still on the team. Kansas announced this week De Sousa is being held off the court until information that came out of the trial was reviewed. But at Louisville, the scandal resulted in the firing of Pitino and forced Bowen to leave the university and pursue a professional career.

The trial’s most emotional moment came when a prosecutor first began questioning the elder Bowen about his son, who goes by the nickname “Tugs.”

“Is Tugs in college?” asked prosecutor Edward Diskant.

“No, he’s not,” Bowen responded.

When the prosecutor asked why not, Bowen dropped his head into his hands and wept.

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iOS 12 adoption surpasses 50% just three weeks after its release

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Just three weeks after releasing iOS 12, Apple’s latest mobile OS is already running on the majority of iPhones and iPads. According to data made available on Apple’s developer page, 53% of all iOS devices introduced over the last four years are now running the most recent iteration of iOS. When the data set is expanded to include iOS devices that were released before 2014, that adoption rate still stands at a respectable 50%.

The numbers become even more impressive when we take iOS 11 into account. As evidenced by the image below, 40% of iOS users on recent devices are still running iOS 11. When looking at the cumulative number of iOS devices, iOS 11 usage checks in at 39%. In short, 89% of all iOS devices are currently running an iteration of iOS that, at the most, is about 1-year-old.

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The U.S. economic expansion is probably only in its middle stages, with the chances of a recession in the next three years standing a "below average" change, according to Goldman Sachs.  
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