How to Be Happily Single… on Valentine’s Day

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Last Valentine’s Day, a number of readers requested a post on how to be content as a single person on Valentine’s Day. While I’ve had a ton of single years, I’ve also been married for almost ten years now. So I asked my good friend, Auntie M. — who knows a thing or two about being a singleton on Valentine’s Day — to offer her thoughts…  – Kat 

I have spent a lot of holidays alone. I’ve also spent plenty of holidays coupled up, but if you can name a holiday — Thanksgiving, New Year’s Eve, 4th of July, my birthday, certainly Valentine’s Day — I can tell you about the time (or times) I spent it on my own.

Here is what I’ve learned:

It can actually be pretty great.

If you’re facing a holiday solo, my first suggestion is to travel, if possible. Get out of town. Go somewhere new. It might be kind of a bummer to spend an important day alone at home, but it’s kind of badass to spend it in an entirely new place altogether, right? I’ve spent multiple New Year’s Eves surrounded by strangers in some pretty far-flung places, and, yeah, I didn’t have anyone to kiss at midnight, but I do have some amazing memories — and some pretty respectable stamps in my passport.

If travel isn’t a possibility, find a way to engage in some meaningful self-care. For me, this means some kind of spa-type treatment, like a massage at a fancy place I normally wouldn’t visit, followed by a meal I find truly delicious (plan ahead so you can make something yourself and avoid the V-Day crowds and price hikes at local restaurants). Or, take care of yourself in other ways — a relaxing nighttime yoga class, maybe, or a night of watching your favorite movies or TV shows. Whatever you choose, just make sure it’s something that you truly enjoy, and not something you think you “should” do. Take a night off of from “should,” and, well, treat yourself.

My final go-to trick for spending a meaningful holiday solo is to set up new traditions for myself — something I can carry forward to future holidays. I do this on New Year’s Day, by doing things that are symbolic of the year I want to have (working out, cooking something healthy, finding things I no longer need that are in good condition to donate to my local charity shop). There’s no reason why this can’t apply to Valentine’s Day as well. Get creative, and come up with new ways to spend Valentine’s Day that you can do in the future, with or without a partner.

Valentine’s Day marketing is everywhere, but the truth is, you don’t actually need to feel burdened by the constant messaging that your value comes from being in a relationship. You are valuable regardless, and you are entitled to feel good about yourself without relying on another person to validate those feelings. Give yourself permission to make the holiday your own, and only do those things that reaffirm what you love most about yourself.

Readers, what are your best tips on how to be content as a single person on Valentine’s Day — or to otherwise be happily single? Do you have traditions for spending holidays by yourself — and what are they? 

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#Over40: How To Survive Valentine’s Day

When you’re single and over 40, Valentine’s Day can seem like the longest day of the year. Either you’ve never had a great love and at this stage it doesn’t seem like that’s going to change, or you had a great love who you either broke up with, they broke up with you, or who sadly passed away.

Whatever happened, you now have none of the starry-eyed romanticism of the 20 and even 30-somethings that splash their perfectly filtered love all over Instagram. You have bills, kids, grandkids, stretch marks, grey hair and more aches and pains than dates. When it comes to Valentine’s Day, you just try to get through the day until it finally ends.

But here’s what you should do instead. Focus the day on your greatest love – you. Or, enjoy a Galentine’s Day or Palentine’s Day outing. Or treat a child, a parent, or a your best friend to a great Valentine’s Day.

Here are 7 things you can do to survive V-Day.

TAKE THE DAY OFF:

No one needs to know that you haven’t had sex or a significant other since the first Bush was president. If you keep your personal life quiet, your coworkers and even your friends may think you’ve taken the day off to rendezvous with a secret love.

Well, you have. That love is you. Plan for the kids to be babysat, order in, take a bath or do some pampering you’ve been putting off for a long time. Yes, fellas, you too, can do this, even if your ideal day off consists of watching ESPN in your boxers all day with a remote in one hand and a brew in the other. You might be able to get that hair, barbershop or mani/pedi appointment you’ve wanted since a lot of people will have already done their pampering in anticipation of the big day. Or you can put on your favorite trap or old school music and dance naked when no one is there to judge you.

 

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Don’t go out unless you have to, and stay off social media, unless its to go on the Whisper app or website where people anonymously tell their biggest secrets. After reading a few entries in the Love and Relationships category, you’ll be happy you’re single.

PLAN YOUR EXIT:

It’s not just single people who can be miserable on Valentine’s Day. It’s married people and people in relationships who know their relationship is coming to an end or should come to an end. If you’ve been putting off the inevitable breakup or divorce, you can spend Valentine’s Day planning The Conversation and your exit. You can find a lawyer, make sure you have your financial information straight, look for a place and figure out solutions for the kids, but you have to start making the calls.

 

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If you know he/she is cheating, never going to get a job, won’t ever treat you well, or you’ve just grown apart after so many years, it time to make this the last Valentine’s Day you have to deal. If you know you are divorcing and your divorce is uncontested, legalzoom.com can help you do it online. Yes, you can get divorced online!

GET AWAY:

While everyone else is coupled up with balloons and flowers on Valentine’s Day, you can be planning a getaway. Using sites like Travelocity or Expedia or taking advantage of the V-Day airfare sales via JetBlue and Southwest, spend your day initiating the process of taking a trip solo, with your girlfriends or your family.

Look up flights, hotels, and double-check your unused personal time and make a commitment. If you’re months away money-wise from any travel that doesn’t involve your work commute, try the Qapital app, which allows you to connect an account to save from. You can develop rules that allow you to save for special goals without even thinking about it.

 

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USE MEETUP

Meetup is a great app for one reason – it connects like-minded people without the stress and drama of using a dating app. It’s exactly what it says – a website where folks form affinity groups to meet other people. There are book club meetups, brunch meetups, Black women meetups, Black networking meetups; basically it’s a place where you can join whatever group sounds like the most fun and hang out. There are very likely other singles looking to meet up on Valentine’s Day so it’s a low pressure way to meet new people. It also works well for meeting people when traveling or at any time when you want to connect.

CELEBRATE WITH YOUR FRIENDS

In the movie Valentine’s Day (worth the Netflix time) Jessica Biel plays a PR exec who hates being single and throws and annual Anti-Valentine’s Day event. I won’t spoil it for you, but her party, which at first looks like a bust, turns out surprisingly well. Re-appropriating Valentine’s Day as Galentine’s Day and Palentine’s Day were meant for people who want to embrace the day but not the forced coupledom. Enjoy it with your friends. Look in local listings for friend and single-friendly events in your city or throw one yourself.
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GO OUT ALONE:

If you hate the thought of being around lovey dovey couples out on V-Day, then think about this – if you get dressed to the nines and go out alone to an upscale bar or lounge, it’s likely that if you meet anyone else alone, they are also legitimately single. Since Valentine’s Day is a holiday where even cheaters have to be with the person they are in their primary relationship with, chances are higher that anyone you meet alone on Valentine’s Day is unattached.

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FOREVER FLOWERS

If you’re buying a gift this year, it’s likely you are a man, because men are twice as likely than women to spend $ 100 or more on Valentine’s Day. If after all these years, you’ve run out of ideas for what to get for V-Day, then give the gift of flowers. But ones that last. Boxed flowers are the new way to give because the flowers are guaranteed, through some kind of floral magic, to last a full year. And there are different styles and colors and options for all budgets.
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Check out Eternal Fleur or Venus de Fleur to see if same-day V-Day delivery is available in your market.

 

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On a Budget for Valentine’s Day? This Fun Date Idea Only Costs a Penny

It’s nearly Valentine’s Day, which means it’s almost time to blow an entire paycheck on a dozen long-stem roses, a six-foot-tall teddy bear and a rare, perfectly aged bottle of Champagne.

And don’t forget to make a reservation for that fancy restaurant that’s only serving an overpriced “tasting menu” on that particular night!

Oh, and it wouldn’t hurt to spring for a couple’s massage, too, right?

Wait, did someone mention a box of chocolates?

Well, the good news is you can forgo the romantic candles — at this point, your empty wallet is useless and you can just set fire to it and let the soft, warm glow of broke-ness wash over you and your date.

Romance, amiright?

But it doesn’t have to be like that.

A Valentine’s Day Date Idea That Only Costs a Penny

In fact, if you’re in it for the long haul, finances can be a pretty touchy subject, and the last thing you need is to add another pricy line-item to your budget this month.

Luckily, there’s a way to take your sweetheart on a fun and interesting date — the likes of which they’ve probably never been on before — that won’t cost you more than, say, a penny.

(Which just so happens to be our favorite coin!)

The Penny Date Rules

Here’s how it works:

First, find a penny. If you don’t have a penny handy, it’s just a matter of yanking the cushions off the couch, checking the cupholder of your car or sneaking one out of your kid’s piggy bank while they’re at school.

Next, roll a 30-sided die. Alternatively, have your date pick a number (without telling them what it’s for) or use an online random number generator. This number is the number of turns you’ll take throughout your date.

Hop in the car or, if you’re walking, pick a corner to start on.

To start the adventure, have your date flip the penny. If it lands heads up, turn right. If it lands tails up, turn left.

Start walking or driving in whichever direction the penny instructs. Stop and flip again each time you reach a stop sign, stop light or intersection.

Continue flipping the penny, turning left or right at each juncture, until you’ve reached the number you set at the beginning of the night.

Once you reach that number, stop the car (or, uh, your legs).

Wherever you are, that’s where your date will take place.

If you look up to find a park with a lovely, lit gazebo, good for you!

If all you happen to see before you is a gas station, all I can say is I wish you the best of luck throwing a romantic spin on that one. Yikes.

But it’s all part of the adventure, right?

No, really. The fun of the penny date is in the mystery, the confusion and the downright ridiculousness of your time together. It’s a way to do something different, something that you wouldn’t have done ordinarily, and to have fun doing it.

Either way, it’s sure to be a memorable date, right?

A Few Notes to Help You Create the Perfect Penny Date

To keep costs low, pack a picnic meal to bring with you. That way, wherever you end up, you’ll have dinner ready to go. (This is especially important if you’re going on this date on Valentine’s Day, because most places will be booked solid. You won’t be able to randomly show up at a restaurant and expect to get a table.)

You don’t have to be in a metropolitan area to make this date work, but you’ll want to adjust your number of turns based on your location. Thirty turns won’t take very long on city streets, but if you’re driving long back roads, 30 turns could take forever.

Even if there’s a stop sign or traffic light, don’t turn into a parking lot or street with no outlet. Just move along to the next intersection and flip the penny there.

Keep your adventurous spirit open to the experience. Chances are, you’re going to end up somewhere less than romantic (or maybe even downright weird), but it’s all part of the fun of a date night left totally up to chance.

More often than not, a penny date offers up a little nonsense, a lot of laughter and a couple of really great stories.

Besides, like any good relationship, a penny date is about the journey — not the destination.

Right? (No, left.)

Grace Schweizer is the email content writer at The Penny Hoarder.

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‘Grey’s Anatomy’: Meredith Finally Makes Her Choice on Valentine’s Day

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Giacomo Gianniotti, Ellen Pompeo and Chris Carmack on ‘Grey’s Anatomy.’ ABC/Mitch Haaseth

Happy Valentine’s Day! Now that the most romantic holiday of the year has hit Seattle (a bit early), Meredith (Ellen Pompeo) was once again faced with the choice between DeLuca (Giacomo Gianniotti) and Link (Chris Carmack) on the Thursday, February 7, episode of Grey’s Anatomy. Did she make the right one?

Instead of going to the New Year’s Eve party hosted by Jo (Camilla Luddington) and Alex (Justin Chambers) — the one that was meant to be her first date with DeLuca — she ended up at the hospital with her patient, who finally came out of a long coma. But after he was stood up at the party, DeLuca was upset that Meredith didn’t even bother to call.

“I used to think you were so beyond me, but you’re not. You’re like a kid, playing hide and seek, hiding behind a million excuses,” DeLuca told her. And that pissed Meredith off so much that she turned around and asked Link out on a date for Valentine’s Day … right in front of DeLuca.

But after she watched her patient pass away minutes after marrying her husband in her hospital bed, DeLuca surprised her with champagne on the hospital roof, giving her the Valentine’s Day date she didn’t expect – while Link sat alone at the restaurant where she was supposed to meet him. Ouch.

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Chris Carmack on ‘Grey’s Anatomy.’ ABC/Mitch Haaseth

The Truth About Betty

Amelia (Caterina Scorsone) went to visit Betty (Peyton Kennedy) at rehab for the holidays, and she was really struggling being sober and not being able to get back to drugs, which she admitted made her feel better than being Leo’s mom. Later, when Amelia came back with Owen (Kevin McKidd), Betty had a lot to tell them: Now that she’s starting the 12-step program, she has to make amends and come clean about what she’s been lying about all this time.

Not only is her name actually Brittany, but her parents don’t know where she is — and they have no idea that she had a baby (or was even pregnant in the first place). She refused to share any other information, so it was almost impossible for Owen and Amelia to track down her real parents.

But the biggest question for Amelia and Owen: Once they find Betty’s real parents, will they get to keep Leo?

Ben and Bailey’s Relationship Is on the Line

Ben (Jason Winston George) and Bailey (Chandra Wilson) have a major strain to work out in their marriage, and now that the holidays are here, the time has finally come for them to figure things out. Although they had been separated, Bailey finally asked Ben to come home, but Ben wasn’t having it — no matter how much she tried to convince him she had her anxiety under control.

“Miranda, I love you, but you broke my heart,” Ben told her. “I’m not coming home just because you’re lonely, and the fence needs patching.”

However, when Bailey came home, she found Ben at their house, building her a surprise treehouse. He promised he would be by her side, as long as she would do things together — including working through her own mental health issues. So true love does exist … at least, it does for these two.

Grey’s Anatomy airs on ABC Thursdays at 8 p.m. ET.

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This ‘natural aphrodisiac’ drink promises a very happy Valentine’s Day

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Whether you like it or not, Valentine’s Day is edging that bit closer every day. Now that it’s finally February, you’ll start seeing heart shaped balloons and teddy bears and bouquets of flowers everywhere.

If you’re a foodie – whether you’re single, taken or it’s complicated – you’ll probably already know that you can get your hands on Krispy Kreme Valentine’s Day doughnuts, this Ben & Jerry’s Valentine’s Day flavour and there’s even a posh Marks & Spencer Valentine’s Day meal deal (and it’s an absolute bargain, FYI).

However, if you’re in a relationship and looking for something to spice up your life/night/try out something a bit fun, would you consider a ‘natural aphrodisiac’ drink? By now we’ve all heard about filling up on oysters, asparagus and watermelon, so FireFly has developed something a bit different. It’s a blend of juice and botanicals, an aphrodisiac drink, which promises to liven up your Valentine’s. Ooer.

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‘Love Potion’ is ‘a sensual blend’ of passion fruit and blueberry combined with botanicals like cacao and Angelica, known as Mother Nature’s aphrodisiac.

Each bottle of the limited edition drink features one of fifty handwritten love notes to really ignite your inner fire, and you can pick up a bottle of the sweet stuff on Ocado for £1.55, or at Harvey Nichols for £1.95.

Will you be trying it this Valentine’s Day?

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Krispy Kreme launch Valentine’s Day flavours and we’re so in

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Whether you love it or loathe it, there’s no escaping the fact that Valentine’s Day is approaching and everything is getting a romantic makeover. From Lush Valentine’s Day bath bombs (which should never be used as sex toys, FYI) to Ben and Jerry’s new Valentine’s Day flavour, there are things out there that we can all enjoy – singletons and loved-up couples alike.

And as the most ro/bromantic day of the year edges ever closer, we’ve got another nugget of happiness to share with you – Krispy Kreme doughnuts are getting a huge Valentine’s Day makeover on February 14th.

For one day only, Krispy Kreme is turning its entire doughnut range into hearts and hugs. Everything will be ring or heart shaped, so if you’re stuck for ideas then a dozen tray of these will go down a treat.

And that’s not all. There will also be three brand new flavours for you to try with your pals or partner.

First up there’s the Nutty Chocolate Heart, filled with Nutella, dipped in a rich chocolate icing and decorated with hazelnut pieces.

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Then there’s the Raspberry Romance, dipped in chocolate icing, filled with raspberry and chocolate truffle Kreme and hand decorated with raspberry pieces and an icing drizzle.

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Last but not least, they’re offering the cute Smiley Heart, dipped in strawberry icing with a sticky strawberry filling and strawberry flavoured Kreme.

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All the new flavours will set you back £2.20 individually or £6 for a pack of three, and will be available from 28th January – 24th February so you’ve got a month to get your hands on them.

Plenty of time to try them all.

What better way to spend a romantic night in with your SO or a chilled-out Galentine’s than downing doughnuts.

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